Woman Moves Out After Boyfriend Insists She Pays Rent Despite His $200k Salary

Woman having a cup of coffee after a long day of moving.
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A 24-year-old woman in NYC studying for her masters degree in social work has moved out of her 26-year-old boyfriend's luxury $5k/month condo after he insisted she pay half the rent. Despite her boyfriend earning over $200k/year, she is currently doing an unpaid yearlong internship and has no income. She spends 12 hours a day working, studying, commuting, or in class and has no time for a paid job.

Her mother helps her financially with her MetroCard and healthcare expenses, but she relies on loans for everything else. Her boyfriend initially said he would pay the rent until she finished grad school, then they would split it based on income. However, after talking to his friends, he demanded she pays half and called her a 'leech'.

She found a cheaper place for $800/month in Queens, but some mutual friends think she's being unreasonable for moving out instead of talking to him and staying by paying what she can afford.

Read on to find out more about the situation.

Unpaid intern struggles to pay rent despite boyfriend's high income 💸

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Struggling to make ends meet despite relying on mom's help 💸

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From roaches to moving in - a love story unfolds ❤️

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Couple's rent agreement causes tension despite high salary, luxury living

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When your boyfriend's friends call you a gold digger 😒

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Woman leaves rich boyfriend after rent argument 💰💔

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Starting fresh in Queens with mom's help 💪

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Compromise on rent turns sour in relationship 🏠💔

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Compromise or move out? Woman faces tough choice with boyfriend.

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Friends judge woman for leaving boyfriend who won't split rent.

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Breaking up and moving on like a boss 💪

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Clearing up confusion about NYC 🗽

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🏠 Struggling to find affordable housing in NYC 🗽

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Navigating NYC's strict rent rules and finding leverage as a student

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Struggling grad student defends living situation to judgmental commenters 😕

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Discussion on the shock of high salaries in NYC 🗽

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Navigating NYC relationships and the impact of income disparities 💰

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Woman moves out after rich boyfriend insists on rent payment

A woman studying social work and living with her boyfriend in a $5k/month luxury condo in NYC was asked to pay half the rent by her boyfriend after he consulted with his friends. She was unable to afford the amount and found a cheaper place, which caused her boyfriend to ask her to stay by accepting $800/month instead. However, the woman decided to move out, leading to mixed reactions from their mutual friends.

In this post, she explains her perspective and clarifies some misconceptions about living in NYC. Read on to find out what people on Reddit thought.

Woman stands up for herself and leaves manipulative boyfriend. NTA 👏🏼

Left-Car6520 | Left-Car6520

NTA! Boyfriend's friends call you gold digger, he enables it.

moons_and_stars | moons_and_stars

Boyfriend insists on rent, gets called out for being manipulated.

steezycap | steezycap

First flower in a red flag bouquet 🚩 Enjoy the peace!

fallingfaster345 | fallingfaster345

Boyfriend's insecurity leads to financial demand and gossip with friends 💰

quarkfan4552 | quarkfan4552

Don't let anyone make you feel indebted for being independent 💪👏

bananaberry518 | bananaberry518

Boyfriend tried to instill the sunk cost fallacy, but you're smart. 💪


Don't fall for the gaslighting! You're a smart woman 💪

Icy-Trip8716 | Icy-Trip8716

NTA. Boyfriend's unreasonable demand raises red flags 🚩💰

Tortie_cat22 | Tortie_cat22

Choosing financial independence over a toxic relationship 💰👋

Physical_Ad5135 | Physical_Ad5135

Reconsider this relationship 💔💭💔

BostonRae | BostonRae

NTA. Boyfriend's poor behavior and classist insult justify moving out.

TipsyBaker_ | TipsyBaker_

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries 👏🏼💪🏼 #NTA

RainbowDMacGyver | RainbowDMacGyver

Think twice before moving in with a partner for free 💸

BazTheBaptist | BazTheBaptist

Woman's boyfriend with $200k salary insisting on splitting rent - NTA

jrm1102 | jrm1102

BF moved goalposts on OP, called names. NTA 🙅‍♀️

bb3244 | bb3244

Valid concerns, NTA for moving out. Money matters 💰

peppercornn | peppercornn

Partner's insecurity and inability to communicate led to relationship breakdown 💔

KaliTheBlaze | KaliTheBlaze

Standing up for yourself and sticking to agreements 💪

Impossible-Wolf-3839 | Impossible-Wolf-3839

Boyfriend reneges on agreement, friends call her gold digger. NTA.

Accurate-Ad-4905 | Accurate-Ad-4905

Independent and proud. Don't let anyone call you a gold digger 💪

mousechick69 | mousechick69

"Get out while the getting is good" 💸

gothicel | gothicel

Don't let others' opinions affect your worth. You're NTA 👏

sucksatchess666 | sucksatchess666

Insensitive boyfriend expects girlfriend to pay huge rent, NTA leaves

verminousbow | verminousbow

Don't be a**hole, leave him and find someone who respects you! 🚶‍♀️💔

pinetree8000 | pinetree8000

Boyfriend's friends meddle in finances, NTA for leaving 🚪

295Phoenix | 295Phoenix

Choosing peace and stability over a fancy but unstable home 💰🏠

BeepBlipBlapBloop | BeepBlipBlapBloop

Stand up for yourself! 💪 Reconsider the relationship 👀

Lann42016 | Lann42016

Boyfriend's manipulative behavior exposed by astute commenter 👀

j-chillin- | j-chillin-

Boyfriend's friends criticize girlfriend for not paying rent despite his offer.

Valuable-Ad2174 | Valuable-Ad2174

Stand up for yourself! 🙌 You're not the a**hole 👍

Portie_lover | Portie_lover

Woman stands up to boyfriend's gaslighting and financial abuse 💪

Thisismyswamparg | Thisismyswamparg

Trust and stability are key. NTA. 👍

Any-Refrigerator-966 | Any-Refrigerator-966

Girlfriend leaves after boyfriend demands rent despite her situation. NTA.

Shakeit126 | Shakeit126

Don't let anyone control your finances 💸🙅‍♀️

eruwotm8 | eruwotm8

Boyfriend insists girlfriend pays rent, ignores their agreement. NTA.

hannahsangel | hannahsangel

Stand up for yourself and your finances 💪. Take time to evaluate the relationship.

No_Middle_3193 | No_Middle_3193

Girlfriend can't pay rent, boyfriend demands: NTA for moving out

ManIsDogsBestFriend | ManIsDogsBestFriend

She agreed to pay rent, but is she really the leech?

Stunning_Check1892 | Stunning_Check1892

🚩👋 Change the man: Woman leaves unreliable boyfriend over rent.

RLuna911 | RLuna911

Woman stands up for herself against AH boyfriend and friends 👏

GundyGalois | GundyGalois

Don't let your mutual friends dictate your relationship decisions 💔🚫

efm270 | efm270

Boyfriend's friends ruin relationship by changing his mind on rent 🙄

CandidTortoise | CandidTortoise

Dump the idiot and his insensitive friends. 👋

beanie0911 | beanie0911

She's better off without him. 🙌

Farewellandadieu | Farewellandadieu

You go girl! Stand up to abusive partners 💪

Motor_Business483 | Motor_Business483

Stick to your agreed terms, don't let society dictate them. 💪

TrashSignificant3771 | TrashSignificant3771

How did they find $800/month apartment in Queens? 😳

Suitable_Shallot4183 | Suitable_Shallot4183

Smart move! Leave the negativity behind 💪👋

Apprehensive_Slip171 | Apprehensive_Slip171

Don't let outsiders mess in your relationships. NTA 👏

Blonde2468 | Blonde2468

Taking a step back before moving out can be hard. 💔

Zealousideal-Divide6 | Zealousideal-Divide6

Don't move back in without a written agreement 💼📝

lukibunny | lukibunny

Stick to your agreement, he's weak for letting his friends' opinions affect him.

tnkmdm | tnkmdm

Commenter sympathizes with woman and calls out boyfriend's weakness. 😕

KuhLealKhaos | KuhLealKhaos

Choosing financial independence over a toxic relationship 🙌

Party_Training602 | Party_Training602

Ex-boyfriend alert! Commenter supports OP's move out decision.

trae74 | trae74

Protect yourself with proof in case of legal dispute. 📱💬

Kooky-Hotel-5632 | Kooky-Hotel-5632

Supportive comment from username checks out, encouraging OP to stand up for herself and wishing her good luck with grad school. 😊

HedgieTwiggles | HedgieTwiggles

Live your best life! 💁‍♀️

Keziah_70 | Keziah_70

Don't fall for his manipulations. Cut ties and move on 🚶‍♀️

LesserKnownJen | LesserKnownJen

👋🏼🚪 Time to say goodbye to that greedy boyfriend

Ornery-Ticket834 | Ornery-Ticket834

Choose love, not money! 💕

BrettC11B | BrettC11B

Stand up for yourself and move on 💪👋

kaymade94 | kaymade94

Boyfriend goes back on agreement to split rent, NTA for leaving.

Realistic-Animator-3 | Realistic-Animator-3

Congratulations on finding a new place! Don't trust him again.

JLoz85 | JLoz85

Don't be a gold digger! NTA and run 🏃‍♀️💨

Sad-Associate2089 | Sad-Associate2089