Mother-in-Law Bans Daughter-in-Law from Home Over Foster Children

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A mother-in-law recently banned her daughter-in-law from her home over a disrespectful comment about her foster children. The daughter-in-law did not consider the foster children as real family and did not feel comfortable spending Christmas with them. The mother-in-law, who has been a foster parent since her biological son was four, took a stand for her children and told her son that his wife is no longer welcome in her home.

While her husband believes this may cause a wedge in their relationship with their son, the mother-in-law believes it is important to stand up for her children and not let anyone exclude them from the family.

What do you think? Is the mother-in-law the a**hole in this situation?

Social worker mom fights mother-in-law for her foster children.

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Son's wife spends Christmas with her family, not mother-in-law

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Son been self-excluding himself and his wife from Christmas due to pressure from wife's family

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Daughter-in-law refuses to spend holiday with foster children. 😠

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Protective mother stands up for her children against exclusion 👩‍👧‍👦

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Mother-in-law bans daughter-in-law over foster children. AITA?

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Grandma bans DIL over foster children during holidays 🎄

newhere1237 | newhere1237

Foster mother bans daughter-in-law over foster children. 😠

A foster mother has banned her daughter-in-law from her home over her negative attitude towards her foster children. The mother-in-law, who has been a foster parent for years, says that her daughter-in-law does not consider the foster children a part of the family and has excluded them from holiday celebrations.

As a result of this, she has told her son that his wife is no longer welcome in her home. The son is caught in the middle of the disagreement and the family is at risk of a major fallout.

What do you think about this situation? Should the son side with his wife or his mother? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments section below after reading what Reddit had to say.

Protecting foster children from harm. NTA for taking action.

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NTA for taking in foster children, Christmas is about extending love.

havartna | havartna

Protecting your children should always come first ❤️

puhpuhpasss | puhpuhpasss

Foster mom praised for standing up to in-laws' discrimination 💪


Protecting her family, but is banning DIL effective or counterproductive? 💭

Printemps_2021 | Printemps_2021

Defending foster children against insensitive mother-in-law. 🙅‍♀️

gwacemom | gwacemom

Adopted commenters support foster parenting, condemn disrespect towards adoptive parents ❤️

chivonster | chivonster

Insightful comment and replies challenge mother-in-law's hypocrisy 🤔❤️

duraraross | duraraross

NTA. Advice to talk to son and daughter-in-law about hurtful views.

vodka_philosophy | vodka_philosophy

Setting boundaries with daughter-in-law may result in limited family contact 😕

sheramom4 | sheramom4

NTA parent stands up for foster children against intolerant mother-in-law.

JuniorFix3344 | JuniorFix3344

Commenters agree that daughter-in-law's behavior is unacceptable 🙅

bunbun821 | bunbun821

Does fostering put a strain on bio kids? 🤔

PhiloSophie101 | PhiloSophie101

Commenter criticizes OP for banning DIL, praised by supporter ❤️

Turbulent-Dingo-7260 | Turbulent-Dingo-7260

Adopted siblings and niblings agree: NTA for standing up for family 👏

KittlesLee | KittlesLee

Mother-in-Law's ban on daughter-in-law over foster children sparks debate 🔥

spiritfiend | spiritfiend

Son's change in behavior concerning, family dynamics unclear 🤔

Gimmecheesenow | Gimmecheesenow

Foster kids aren't family? Wife isn't blood either. 🤷‍♂️

lutzssuck | lutzssuck

Shocked reactions to mother-in-law's heartless comment 😱

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Mother-in-law defends herself against manipulative daughter-in-law's behavior 🙂

cellomom26 | cellomom26

Daughter-in-law stands up to 'shitty' mother-in-law's bigotry 🙌

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Defending the definition of family and foster care siblings 🤝❤️

missdecibelle | missdecibelle

Commenter sympathizes with mother-in-law's dilemma over foster children.

Spare-Article-396 | Spare-Article-396

Mother-in-law fears son will miss out on family due to daughter-in-law's beliefs 😔

Water_Lilly_A | Water_Lilly_A

Setting boundaries in your own home is important. Foster families are heroes ❤

TeepShow76 | TeepShow76

Protecting children comes first, even if it means setting boundaries 🔒

NyotaHikaru | NyotaHikaru

Protecting foster children from emotional damage. 👍

narnarqueen | narnarqueen

Spread love this Christmas season ❤️

Peasplease25 | Peasplease25

👍 Foster parent praised for standing up for children's needs. #NTA

Whoreson_Welles | Whoreson_Welles

Including chosen family is in line with Christmas spirit 🎄

Tough_Stretch | Tough_Stretch

Balancing boundaries and relationships with family 👪

mudbunny | mudbunny

Commenter faces backlash for insulting daughter-in-law. 😑

Ibenthinkin2much | Ibenthinkin2much

Suggests alternate Christmas plans for daughter-in-law with foster children. 🎄

d1scworld | d1scworld

NTA! Foster kids are family, but DIL's loyalty is questionable 🤔

DragonfruitOdd8884 | DragonfruitOdd8884

Support for NTA who fostered children over cruel DIL's comments ❤

plushiebear | plushiebear

Husband supports wife; DIL is causing wedge with foster children. 👍

drunkenvalley | drunkenvalley

Chosen family is just as important as biological family ❤️👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

flwvoh | flwvoh

Son fails to defend siblings, DIL judged foster children. NTA.

Expensive-Cheetah146 | Expensive-Cheetah146

Stand your ground! 🙌 Family drama over foster kids.

Lani_567 | Lani_567

Navigating family dynamics can be tricky 🤔

Lizdance40 | Lizdance40

Fostering is a valid family bond. But will the ban bring happiness?

mkittens_ | mkittens_

Daughter-in-law gets banned over foster children, commenter calls out son's loyalty.

codeverity | codeverity

Adoption is family too! NTA for including foster children ❤️👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

bellsofwar3 | bellsofwar3

Commenter questions reliability of information and suggests hearing both sides.

blurpadinka | blurpadinka

Son may be blaming daughter-in-law for his own feelings 🤔

SomethingClever70 | SomethingClever70

Heartless comment receives no support. Spread love, not hate ❤️

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

Engage in a conversation before judging, ESH. 🤝

StitchyGirl | StitchyGirl

Heartwarming story of a loving parent and their adopted children ❤️

Abject-Aioli-251 | Abject-Aioli-251

Curious about fostering history and possible family dynamics 🤔

snorfunk | snorfunk