Growing up with a sibling with concerning behavior can be difficult, but when it takes over your life it can be unbearable. For one woman, her brother's destructive behavior led to a childhood without friends, no gifts, and constant babysitting. Now as an adult, her parents are asking for help with her brother and she's had enough. Read on to find out why she refuses to help and if she's the A-hole.
Oldest Sibling Reaches Breaking Point With Parents After Years Of Caring For Troubled Brother
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💔 Oldest sibling reaches breaking point with parents 💔
Growing up with a troubled sibling can be challenging, but for the oldest sibling in this story, it was a nightmare. From a young age, they were forced to put their life on hold and take care of their brother who had concerning behavior. They were not allowed to have friends over or attend birthday parties, and money was tight. Their life was hell when left in charge of their brother, and even though they were not prepared, they were expected to handle it.
After enduring years of this, the oldest sibling moved out and distanced themselves from their family. Now, the parents need their help to take care of their troubled brother, but the oldest sibling refuses. Is the oldest sibling being unfair, or have they reached their breaking point?
Read on to find out what others on Reddit think and share your opinion.
NTA. OP deserves to build their own life, not be burdened.
Aunty_Fascist | Aunty_Fascist
Parents neglecting troubled brother, leaving oldest sibling to suffer. NTA 🚫👨👩👧👦
BengalBBQ | BengalBBQ
NTA for prioritizing your own well-being after being parentified. 💛
grussfish | grussfish
Protecting the protector. NTA, you deserved better as a child. 👏
MeadowEstelle | MeadowEstelle
Sibling rightfully refuses to care for violent brother, neglectful parents
winsluc12 | winsluc12
Breaking point reached: Oldest sibling no longer caretaker for troubled brother 🚫👦
litt3lli0n | litt3lli0n
Being forced to parent a troubled sibling is not okay. 😔
TinyRascalSaurus | TinyRascalSaurus
Commenter suggests group home for troubled brother, but replies point out potential obstacles.
McflyThrowaway01 | McflyThrowaway01
Validating comment and professional insight on diagnosed brother.
IAmHerdingCatz | IAmHerdingCatz
OP rightfully refuses to be parentified and neglect brother. 🙅♀️
coloradogrown85 | coloradogrown85
Establishing boundaries with family is tough, but necessary. 🙌
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Don't be burdened by your troubled sibling. NTA 🙌
Own-Yoghurt-4520 | Own-Yoghurt-4520
Suggesting professional caregiver instead of OP, NTA judgement supported.
VerySurlyPerson | VerySurlyPerson
Commenter calls out parents for neglecting troubled child. 💥
unlordtempest | unlordtempest
Taking care of your mentally disturbed sibling is not your responsibility 💁♀️ #NotTheA**hole
Honest-Illusions | Honest-Illusions
Support for NTA and suggestion to seek respite programs ❤️
ElishaAlison | ElishaAlison
Sibling takes charge, but parents need to seek professional help 💪
Selenite_Moon | Selenite_Moon
Breaking free from parental neglect and enabling behavior. 🚶♂️
oofmagoof123 | oofmagoof123
Don't be a doormat for your family, prioritize your well-being. 🙅♂️
vomcity | vomcity
Don't let your parents make you your troubled brother's parent 🚫
urn-enthusiast | urn-enthusiast
Sibling takes on financial burden of troubled brother, but not anymore. #NTA 💰
Mimis_Kingdom | Mimis_Kingdom
Parents shirking responsibility and blaming you? NTA 👏
Dork86 | Dork86
Don't let resentment consume you. Seek counseling for closure. ✨
TCTX73 | TCTX73
Don't let your parents guilt you into caring for your brother 🔥
NCKALA | NCKALA
Commenter sympathizes with oldest sibling's struggle caring for troubled brother.
hatetank91 | hatetank91
Sibling deserved better, NTA for standing up and prioritizing self-care 💪
LoveLeaMel78 | LoveLeaMel78
Prioritizing yourself is not selfish 👍. Don't let them guilt-trip you.
jellyfishnova | jellyfishnova
Don't let your parents make your life a**hole-free 🚫.
Limerase | Limerase
Proper diagnosis and treatment could have prevented sibling burnout. 😔
FunkU247365 | FunkU247365
Taking charge of your own life 💪👊
gracenweaver | gracenweaver
Commenter suggests seeking professional help for troubled brother, NTA.
DangerousDave303 | DangerousDave303
NTA for wanting care for troubled brother. Parents should take responsibility 🤔
ParsimoniousSalad | ParsimoniousSalad
Taking care of a troubled sibling can be tough. NTA recommends respite care.
Algebralovr | Algebralovr
Supportive comment encourages seeking professional help for troubled sibling. 🤝
Quiet_Goat8086 | Quiet_Goat8086
Commenter advocates for parents to seek outside help for troubled brother.
Spoopyowo | Spoopyowo
Setting boundaries is essential. NTA for cutting toxic ties. 👍
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Curious about family involvement and brother's undiagnosed condition 👀
Salamander_9 | Salamander_9
Suggesting a respite worker for parents with troubled child. 👍
TheQuietType84 | TheQuietType84
Don't carry the burden of others' mistakes. 🙏
Pepper-90210 | Pepper-90210
Take control of your life, they don't deserve to steal it 💪
painteddpiixi | painteddpiixi
Parents neglected OP, expect too much from them. NTA.
CuriousPenguinSocks | CuriousPenguinSocks
Don't sacrifice your well-being for your brother's destructive behavior 💪
Temporary-Deer-6942 | Temporary-Deer-6942
Prioritizing mental health and safety is not selfish. ❤️
adamtheundead | adamtheundead
Self-care is important. NTA for prioritizing your well-being 🙏
nifty1997777 | nifty1997777
Defend your freedom. NTA, you've earned it 💪
SororitySue | SororitySue
Take control of your life. You owe nothing to anyone. 🔥
Soviet_Beer | Soviet_Beer
Taking care of a troubled sibling is tough. NTA for refusing.
Top_Thing4890 | Top_Thing4890
Don't enable bad behavior 🚫
Gnarfbalalio | Gnarfbalalio
Direct support worker shares challenges of dealing with violent client
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Commenter offers US-specific advice for caring for troubled sibling.
sweettea75 | sweettea75
Heartwarming comment offers support to struggling sibling. ❤️
Apart_Shoulder6089 | Apart_Shoulder6089
Standing up to family after years of caregiving. 🙌
PurpleWomat | PurpleWomat
Cutting ties with toxic family members: You're NTA 🚫👋
Ya-Like-jazz696 | Ya-Like-jazz696
Take back control 🚪💪 You owe them nothing. #NTA
AccomplishedRead13 | AccomplishedRead13
Compassionate friend shares similar experience, advises against caregiver expectations.
hazelnuddy | hazelnuddy
Support for NTA and drastic intervention suggested. ✅🚨
Codas91 | Codas91
Sibling conflict resolved with a NTA judgment 👍
ynvesoohnka7nn | ynvesoohnka7nn
A group home worker empathizes with the commenter's struggles ❤️
ginanatasha | ginanatasha
Feeling like a stolen childhood? NTA says it all 👍
angelaheidt | angelaheidt
Former Social Worker and aunt of autistic nephew supports NTA
Wawa-85 | Wawa-85
User shares personal experience and supports OP's decision. ❤️
UltimateUnreal666 | UltimateUnreal666
Parent of troubled brother acknowledges NTA, advises to report neglect and distance.
whatIhavetosay1 | whatIhavetosay1
Standing up to bad parenting 👏 #NTA
Electronic-Evening67 | Electronic-Evening67
Childhood trauma leads to justified resentment towards neglectful parents ⚠️
amdefinitelyperson | amdefinitelyperson
Sibling struggles with caring for troubled brother long-term. NTA.
Jicama-Smart | Jicama-Smart
Parents should take responsibility for troubled siblings 👏
TastyHome8183 | TastyHome8183
Breaking point reached: NTA after extreme parentification abuse.
cmlobue | cmlobue
Cutting off toxic parents? NTA says it all 🙅
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