Growing up with a sibling with concerning behavior can be difficult, but when it takes over your life it can be unbearable. For one woman, her brother’s destructive behavior led to a childhood without friends, no gifts, and constant babysitting. Now as an adult, her parents are asking for help with her brother and she’s had enough. Read on to find out why she refuses to help and if she’s the A-hole.
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Are they the a**hole for reaching their breaking point?
Oldest sibling reaches breaking point with parents
Growing up with a troubled sibling can be challenging, but for the oldest sibling in this story , it was a nightmare. From a young age, they were forced to put their life on hold and take care of their brother who had concerning behavior. They were not allowed to have friends over or attend birthday parties, and money was tight. Their life was hell when left in charge of their brother, and even though they were not prepared, they were expected to handle it.
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After enduring years of this, the oldest sibling moved out and distanced themselves from their family. Now, the parents need their help to take care of their troubled brother, but the oldest sibling refuses. Is the oldest sibling being unfair, or have they reached their breaking point?
Read on to find out what others on Reddit think and share your opinion.
NTA. OP deserves to build their own life, not be burdened.
Parents neglecting troubled brother, leaving oldest sibling to suffer. NTA
NTA for prioritizing your own well-being after being parentified.
Protecting the protector. NTA, you deserved better as a child.
Sibling rightfully refuses to care for violent brother, neglectful parents
Breaking point reached: Oldest sibling no longer caretaker for troubled brother
Being forced to parent a troubled sibling is not okay.
Commenter suggests group home for troubled brother, but replies point out potential obstacles.
Validating comment and professional insight on diagnosed brother.
OP rightfully refuses to be parentified and neglect brother. ♀️
Establishing boundaries with family is tough, but necessary.
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Don’t be burdened by your troubled sibling. NTA
Suggesting professional caregiver instead of OP, NTA judgement supported.
Commenter calls out parents for neglecting troubled child.
Taking care of your mentally disturbed sibling is not your responsibility ♀️ #NotTheA**hole
Support for NTA and suggestion to seek respite programs ❤️
Sibling takes charge, but parents need to seek professional help
Breaking free from parental neglect and enabling behavior. ♂️
Don’t be a doormat for your family, prioritize your well-being. ♂️
Don’t let your parents make you your troubled brother’s parent
Sibling takes on financial burden of troubled brother, but not anymore. #NTA
Parents shirking responsibility and blaming you? NTA
Don’t let resentment consume you. Seek counseling for closure. ✨
Don’t let your parents guilt you into caring for your brother
Commenter sympathizes with oldest sibling’s struggle caring for troubled brother.
Sibling deserved better, NTA for standing up and prioritizing self-care
Prioritizing yourself is not selfish . Don’t let them guilt-trip you.
Don’t let your parents make your life a**hole-free .
Proper diagnosis and treatment could have prevented sibling burnout.
Taking charge of your own life
Commenter suggests seeking professional help for troubled brother, NTA.
NTA for wanting care for troubled brother. Parents should take responsibility
Taking care of a troubled sibling can be tough. NTA recommends respite care.
Supportive comment encourages seeking professional help for troubled sibling.
Commenter advocates for parents to seek outside help for troubled brother.
Setting boundaries is essential. NTA for cutting toxic ties.
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Curious about family involvement and brother’s undiagnosed condition
Suggesting a respite worker for parents with troubled child.
Don’t carry the burden of others’ mistakes.
Take control of your life, they don’t deserve to steal it
Parents neglected OP, expect too much from them. NTA.
Don’t sacrifice your well-being for your brother’s destructive behavior
Prioritizing mental health and safety is not selfish. ❤️
Self-care is important. NTA for prioritizing your well-being
Defend your freedom. NTA, you’ve earned it
Take control of your life. You owe nothing to anyone.
Taking care of a troubled sibling is tough. NTA for refusing.
Don’t enable bad behavior
Direct support worker shares challenges of dealing with violent client
Commenter offers US-specific advice for caring for troubled sibling.
Heartwarming comment offers support to struggling sibling. ❤️
Standing up to family after years of caregiving.
Cutting ties with toxic family members: You’re NTA
Take back control You owe them nothing. #NTA
Compassionate friend shares similar experience, advises against caregiver expectations.
Support for NTA and drastic intervention suggested. ✅
Sibling conflict resolved with a NTA judgment
A group home worker empathizes with the commenter’s struggles ❤️
Feeling like a stolen childhood? NTA says it all
Former Social Worker and aunt of autistic nephew supports NTA
User shares personal experience and supports OP’s decision. ❤️
Parent of troubled brother acknowledges NTA, advises to report neglect and distance.
Standing up to bad parenting #NTA
Childhood trauma leads to justified resentment towards neglectful parents ⚠️
Sibling struggles with caring for troubled brother long-term. NTA.
Parents should take responsibility for troubled siblings
Breaking point reached: NTA after extreme parentification abuse.
Cutting off toxic parents? NTA says it all
