Man Takes Care of Baby & Cleans House, but Wife Jokes He's Useless?

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A man who is working from home and also taking care of his 10-month-old daughter has expressed his displeasure with his wife's jokes about his contribution to the household. The man is upset that his wife made jokes about the house being a mess when she gets home and her having to clean it up because he's been too busy playing with their daughter all day to do it himself. He is also hurt that his wife laughed about how every day when she gets home she just prays he didn't burn the house down. Although it was all said in a joking manner, it has left him feeling upset and hurt. The man would like an apology but is unsure whether he is overreacting. Read on to find out more about the situation and whether you think the man is in the right.

Working from home while caring for baby - husband's daily routine.

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Superdad juggles work and baby duties like a pro 👶🏻💼

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Dad steps up to help with baby, but wife undermines effort 😔

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Working from home with a baby: the ultimate juggling act 🤬

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Dad shares housework duties but wife jokes he's useless? 😂

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Reuniting with family after a long time, heartwarming lunch story ❤️

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Father spends quality time with baby, wife jokes about cleaning.

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Wife undermines hardworking husband, makes him sound needy 😠

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Dad shares struggles of parenting, seeks wife's support 🙏

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Stay-at-home dad's feelings hurt by wife's joke about his competence.

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Husband's efforts praised after wife's questionable joke 😊

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Stay-at-home dad confronts wife, demands respect for his work 👨‍👧🧹

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When jokes go too far: balancing humor and appreciation 🤔

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Misunderstood husband struggles with unfair stereotypes and communication issues

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Husband upset with wife's joke, but is he overreacting?

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Husband feels hurt by wife's joke, unsure if he's overreacting.

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Stay-at-home dad feels useless after wife jokes about his role

A working couple with a 10-month-old daughter has been having some issues with the husband being a stay-at-home dad. The husband has been taking care of their daughter and doing the household chores while working from home. However, during a family gathering, the wife made some jokes about the husband being lazy and useless, which hurt his feelings. Despite the wife's attempts to make light of it, the husband is still feeling hurt and distant from his wife. This situation raises the question of how to balance gender roles in modern households, and whether jokes about traditional gender roles are still acceptable. Keep reading for some insightful comments and reactions to this post.

NTA. Wife's 'jokes' about husband's role are sexist and disrespectful.

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Husband takes care of baby and house, wife undermines his efforts 😔 NTA but wife needs to stop 🛑

Far-Bug8226 | Far-Bug8226

Husband is an amazing multitasker, wife's jokes are actually insults 😒

SnooDoughnuts2846 | SnooDoughnuts2846

NTA primary caretaker dad receives unwarranted criticism from insecure wife.

Lopsided_Marketing64 | Lopsided_Marketing64

NTA dad feels belittled by gendered jokes from wife.

FashionBusking | FashionBusking

Communicate better with your wife to understand her perspective 💬

spidersinyourbrains | spidersinyourbrains

Father does 3x the work, but wife lacks respect? NAH

strangethedreamer | strangethedreamer

OP shuts down wife's disrespect, commenters divided on response 😕

drawingmentally | drawingmentally

Working dad does child care and housework, wife still complains 😒

MandaDian | MandaDian

Is the husband really useless or is there another side?

hotof404 | hotof404

When does this mom have leisure time? 🤔

EchoStellar12 | EchoStellar12

Wife undermines husband's caregiving efforts - NTA stands up for himself 💪

CryptoTeemo | CryptoTeemo

New parents navigate chore distribution, both should reassess. ESH.

mrschoco | mrschoco

Is the wife not appreciating her husband's efforts? 🤔

flowers4u | flowers4u

Empathize with your partner's feelings, but don't tolerate belittlement 😔

justobsolete | justobsolete

Wife's 'jokes' aren't jokes, NTA for feeling unappreciated 🙅‍♂️👎

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Communication is key! Both need to appreciate each other's efforts 😕👍

crochetawayhpff | crochetawayhpff

Navigating the challenges of parenting and household duties with empathy 🤝

TheFlyingN1mbus | TheFlyingN1mbus

Wife jokes husband is useless while he takes care of baby. ESH.

Anna_Begins | Anna_Begins

Man's helpfulness questioned, judgment hinges on wife's workload 🤔

Amynopty | Amynopty

Wife's joke hurts husband's feelings, but no apology given 😔

Omniscient_Soup_4633 | Omniscient_Soup_4633

NTA, but phone obsession? 📞🤔

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Wife's 'useless' joke upsets husband, suggests he stops cleaning for days.

Fantastic-Focus-7056 | Fantastic-Focus-7056

Don't let anyone diminish what you do with a joke 😤

Pups_n_gunz1110 | Pups_n_gunz1110

Don't let anyone undermine your hard work! 👊🏼

RealisticSquirrel705 | RealisticSquirrel705

Speaking up was a good move! Don't let it slide 😤

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Wife undermines husband's hard work, refuses to apologize. NTA.


Wife's 'jokes' are actually jabs, counseling may help communication.

ImFinePleaseThanks | ImFinePleaseThanks

Misconception on father's role in parenting and household chores 😒👨‍👧‍👦

40yearoldmandad | 40yearoldmandad

Déjà vu? Redditors recognize similar story on man's housework contribution.


Asserting boundaries in public, but communication breakdown in private. 💔

suleyman_the_avg | suleyman_the_avg

Wife micromanages husband's parenting, but expects time off. 🙄

Sleepy_Heather | Sleepy_Heather

Advice for handling marital issues in public - NTA


NTA husband gets ridiculed, needs to talk to wife 💬👥

Unit-Healthy | Unit-Healthy

Fighting sexism and disrespect 👊🏼

benjm88 | benjm88

Validating someone's feelings is important. NTA for speaking up 😤

Jackeeleedee | Jackeeleedee

Man is primary caregiver, wife jokes he's useless, NTA.

PrudentExtreme53 | PrudentExtreme53

Commenter advises building communication skills in marriage after hurtful joke.

fivehorizon | fivehorizon

Wife's 'joke' is sexist & disrespectful. NTA for being upset.

SaturnFirefly | SaturnFirefly

Defending yourself against insults is not being useless. 🙅‍♂️

CuteDarkBird | CuteDarkBird

Supportive comment calls out wife's behavior and offers advice 💪

Jackniferuby | Jackniferuby

Wife's joke demeaned husband, NTA. Let's ban useless spouse jokes! 🙅‍♂️

Pterodactyl_Noises | Pterodactyl_Noises

Wife's 'joke' about husband's parenting backfires with family 👎

Rocko2552 | Rocko2552

Wife's 'jokes' about husband's role cause serious issues ⚠️

perhapsnew | perhapsnew

Man takes care of baby & cleans house. Wife jokes he's useless?

acciowine5 | acciowine5

Dad's not just helping, he's parenting and working at home 👨👨‍💻🏽

The_Shyrobot | The_Shyrobot

Double standards in gender roles? NTA for taking care.

Warrentybear | Warrentybear

Wife insults helpful husband, commenters agree she's in the wrong 🤦‍♀️

QuidditchRules | QuidditchRules