Brother Claims Women Reject Him For His Looks, But It's Actually His Personality?

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Meet the youngest sibling and his closest brother, Jake 🤝

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Sibling rivalry and identity: How Jake's shadow shaped his brother.

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Is it really his looks or his grumpy personality?

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Sibling struggles: dealing with a toxic brother's behavior 💔

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Awkward introduction to family during casual fling 🤦‍♀️

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Brother's true personality exposed through inappropriate FB messages.

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Man kicked out of house for bad personality, not looks. 😕

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Women reject him for his creepy personality, not his looks.

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Is it personality or looks that are the problem?

A man's brother claims women reject him for his looks but is it actually his personality? The brother in question is grumpy, noisy, and disrespectful, and when faced with rejection, he becomes insulting and creepy. The protagonist of this story used to laugh it off, but after his own girlfriend received disturbing messages from his brother, he cut ties and moved out.

Now, he's living with his parents until he finds a new place, but his brother continues to belittle him while his mother defends him. This raises the question: are looks really the issue when it comes to dating, or is it more about personality and behavior? Redditors have weight in.

Join the conversation in the comments and share your thoughts on the matter.

Savage mom burn shuts down brother's rude behavior. NTA.

pauljaytee | pauljaytee

Brother's insulting behavior gets him rejected; called out for it. 👏

czechtheboxes | czechtheboxes

Commenter and replies call out 'incel' behavior 🤦‍♀️

SoBreezy74 | SoBreezy74

Brother's toxic behavior towards women and double standards exposed. 🙅‍♀️

BlushingSage | BlushingSage

Comment and replies criticized for being unnecessarily long and fake.

remykixxx | remykixxx

Commenter sympathizes with OP's brother situation but calls out his incel behavior 🤔

mini_misanthrope | mini_misanthrope

37-year-old man needs to learn how to act his age 😒

monopolyguy177 | monopolyguy177

Looks aren't everything, it's your personality that counts 😍

keIIzzz | keIIzzz

Sibling bond over their mutual jerk brothers 🤝🏼

AlphaGamer_Dubz | AlphaGamer_Dubz

Do incels really want women to value their personality over looks? 😒

skillz7930 | skillz7930

Spotting a 'nice guy' in the wild 🤦‍♂️

Real_Mathematician78 | Real_Mathematician78

Brother blames looks for rejection, but it's his toxic personality 🤷‍♀️

ladancer22 | ladancer22

Ignoring hurtful messages from friends and family is not okay 😡

No-Difficulty2393 | No-Difficulty2393

Creepy text exchange behavior within 30 minutes? No thanks 🙅‍♀️

Kellalizard | Kellalizard

Sassy reply shuts down insulting brother's excuse for bad behavior 😎

Odd_Anywhere256 | Odd_Anywhere256

Confusion over OR abbreviation leads to humorous replies 😂

FreakofGames | FreakofGames

Commenter calls out bad writing on fake story. Haters respond.

Euphoric_Plankton662 | Euphoric_Plankton662

Commenter calls out brother's bad attitude towards women 🙅

Estevam_Blue | Estevam_Blue

Concerns raised about brother's potential for violence and incel behavior.

MamanBear79 | MamanBear79

"It's cuz I'm ugly" is a flimsy excuse to never work on the real reasons an incel is repulsive 😒

discosteve111 | discosteve111

"Nice guy" claims it's his looks, but it's his personality. 💁‍♂️

pedroyarid | pedroyarid

Is he a Chad or a Creep? NTA calls it out 🤔

Lalalaliena | Lalalaliena

When shooting your shot goes terribly wrong 🤢

Lymantria24 | Lymantria24

Personality over looks? This NTA comment thinks so 👍

No-Mechanic-3048 | No-Mechanic-3048

🚨 Incel alert 🚨

aldog90 | aldog90

NTA claps back with uno reverse card 👏🎉

taneeners | taneeners

A case of mistaken identity on social media? 🤔

Brooklyn_Bunny | Brooklyn_Bunny

Sibling rivalry turns creepy, but OP is NTA 👍

Redlight0516 | Redlight0516

Defending girlfriend from abusive brother. NTA 🚫👊

Crazy-Solution-1749 | Crazy-Solution-1749

Woman calls out brother's repulsive personality, suggests moving out.

johnjonahjameson13 | johnjonahjameson13

Confused commenter misunderstands situation, but is supportive. 🤔❤️

Ashmoh12 | Ashmoh12

Lovers blamed brother's weirdness for breakups, but OP disagrees 🤔

PumpkinSpice2Nice | PumpkinSpice2Nice

Brother's insecurities and bad personality lead to rejection from women 💔

Ren1145 | Ren1145

Protect yourself and your loved ones from 'nice guys/incels' 😬❌

Personality4Hire | Personality4Hire

Encouraging NTA comment advises tactful honesty to help delusional brother.

Ok-Painting4168 | Ok-Painting4168

Personality matters more than looks. NTA for calling out misogyny.

FabledFires | FabledFires

Woman confirms brother is an incel and his messages are scary 😨

excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420

Calling out a miserable fellow- NTA was right to do so 😬

Loud_Ad_594 | Loud_Ad_594

Brother's incel attitude ruins sister's love for Star Wars 😒

Ryoukugan | Ryoukugan

Standing up against misogyny, NTA. 👏

Hibbertia | Hibbertia

Looks aren't everything...when it comes to dating 😬

Blasty_McSplode | Blasty_McSplode

OR stands for Open Relationship 💏

Loveya448 | Loveya448

Commenter calls out creepy behavior and victim-blaming. 👏

Kindly-Platform-2193 | Kindly-Platform-2193

NTA for calling out brother, but YTA for Star Wars diss? 😱

GetBillDozed | GetBillDozed

Is the brother an incel? NTA thinks so 🤔

lauraleipz | lauraleipz

Brother's 'nice guy' attitude gets called out in comments. 😬

Randomusers93 | Randomusers93

Skepticism and disbelief towards the comment's claims. 🤔

TungPunch9091 | TungPunch9091

Brother gets roasted for his terrible personality 😬

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Commenter doubts authenticity of story, calls out use of Reddit slang. YTA.

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Is this guy an incel? NTA thinks so 👀

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