Dinner With The Boyfriend's Family Turned Awkward - Was I In The Wrong?

Alfe Mercado
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Dinner with your significant other's family can be nerve-wracking, especially when you're meeting them for the first time. One woman thought she had hit it off with her boyfriend's conservative, Christian parents and younger brother. However, things took an awkward turn when the father insisted on a silent meal, saying 'let the food keep us quiet'. When the woman tried to compliment the food, she was aggressively shushed and scolded for being disrespectful. Feeling uncomfortable and out of place, she eventually laughed, which only made things worse. The family asked her to leave and eat alone in the kitchen. Later, her boyfriend called her out for being an 'asshole'. Was she in the wrong? Join the debate in the comments below.

Conflicted about dinner with boyfriend's family - what happened?

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Navigating conservative Christian family dinner as liberal girlfriend 😬

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Awkward dinner with boyfriend's family after prayer - silence ensues 🙏

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Manners matter: The importance of etiquette at the dinner table 🍴

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Complimenting the cook didn't go as planned. Awkward silence ensued.

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Awkward dinner with silent soup eaters 🍜😬

euphoric_rabbit7706 | euphoric_rabbit7706

Awkward dinner with BF's parents leads to disrespectful comment fallout 😬

euphoric_rabbit7706 | euphoric_rabbit7706

Navigating family traditions can be tricky 🤔

euphoric_rabbit7706 | euphoric_rabbit7706

When dinner with your boyfriend's family goes wrong 🤐🍲

NTA for feeling uncomfortable. Boyfriend should have warned about weird dining.

AryaIsWaif | AryaIsWaif

Awkward dinner with silent BF's family - NTA for feeling uncomfortable 😳

Solid-Guest1350 | Solid-Guest1350

Boyfriend's family is weird and he's TA for not warning. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Helpful_Welcome9741 | Helpful_Welcome9741

Awkward dinner with boyfriend's family turns into a shushing game 🤫

Fantastic-Focus-7056 | Fantastic-Focus-7056

Commenter and replies share discomfort with boyfriend's family's conservatism.

sissyintexas | sissyintexas

NTA, BF's family had an awkward rule and didn't explain it 🤐

Helpful_Emotion_1764 | Helpful_Emotion_1764

Boyfriend's family dinner gets weird, but is OP at fault?

CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000

Cultural differences caused awkward dinner silence 🤐🍴

annedroiid | annedroiid

Awkward dinner tradition? Not your fault, NTA 🙌

ThinEscape511 | ThinEscape511

Toxic, controlling behavior from boyfriend's family during dinner 🤔

snailranchero | snailranchero

Navigating awkward family dinner with no warning - NTA.

HippyTheDinosaur | HippyTheDinosaur

Laughing at a bizarre situation - NTA, but immature 😂

isi_na | isi_na

Red flag alert 🚩: Boyfriend's family asked OP to eat in kitchen

Kmia55 | Kmia55

Standing up for yourself at dinner - NTA 💯

canoebrown | canoebrown

Boyfriend's lack of communication causes awkward family dinner 🍴

Ok23lol26 | Ok23lol26

Unfamiliar house rules caused awkward dinner with BF's family 😬

GodOfMeh | GodOfMeh

OP dodges the question about her boyfriend's silence 👀

extrabigcomfycouch | extrabigcomfycouch

Politeness goes both ways - NTA for questioning SSHH rule 🤐

Hyzenthlay87 | Hyzenthlay87

Boyfriend's family shushed OP like a child at dinner. ESH.

alokasia | alokasia

Awkward family dinner ends in controlling boyfriend and traditions 🤨

sexysaxo | sexysaxo

Giggling at dinner gone wrong - boyfriend's family is weird 👀

Ok_Presentation_5320 | Ok_Presentation_5320

Breakup imminent? Commenter sympathizes with OP's dinner ordeal. NTA

GlobalLifeguard8928 | GlobalLifeguard8928

Uncomfortable dinner traditions lead to a silent meal. 😶 NTA wins.

imhere4blkpeople | imhere4blkpeople

Boyfriend's lack of warning leads to awkward family dinner 😬

soph_lurk_2018 | soph_lurk_2018

Boyfriend's family made guest eat alone, NTA for feeling uncomfortable.

Organic_Step_2223 | Organic_Step_2223

Cultural differences lead to awkward dinner. NTA, but beware Sweden-gate 😂

readerdl22 | readerdl22

Boyfriend's family has a strange rule, NTA for questioning it 🤔

Beck2010 | Beck2010

Controversial comment sparks debate on conservative Christians and relationships 🤔

sarathev | sarathev

Boyfriend's family has a weird rule, but he didn't tell her 😕

lazy_wonder24 | lazy_wonder24

Controlling tradition? Not cool. NTA for speaking up.

Ellejaek | Ellejaek

Think twice before committing to a family with absurd traditions 🤔

Cat_Lilac_Dog22 | Cat_Lilac_Dog22

Boyfriend's lack of communication leads to awkward family dinner situation 😬

Whiskeygirl81 | Whiskeygirl81

Commenter questioned for relevance of hypothetical scenario.

Chemical-Fox-5350 | Chemical-Fox-5350

No warning about bizarre family custom? 🤔 Not the a-hole.

BothReading1229 | BothReading1229

Discussing cultural differences and compatibility in relationships 💕

Comprehensive-Win677 | Comprehensive-Win677

Red flags everywhere! 🚩🚩🚩 NTA and run for the hills.

OhioPolitiTHIC | OhioPolitiTHIC

Boyfriend's family had abnormal and rude rule - NTA

Ladyughsalot1 | Ladyughsalot1

Is it their house, their rules? YTA or NAH? 🤔

cakeandchampagne_ | cakeandchampagne_

Commenter calls out unacceptable behavior during awkward family dinner.

Bambi_H | Bambi_H

BF's family dinner turned awkward, NTA but appalling kitchen situation 😒

Professional_Act_905 | Professional_Act_905

Being shushed and threatened to sit in the kitchen? 🙅‍♀️ NTA, stand up for yourself and reconsider the relationship.

BakerShort5927 | BakerShort5927

Awkward family dinner? Not your fault, NTA 🤷‍♀️

Turbulent_Message637 | Turbulent_Message637

Hilarious dinner with weird in-laws, definitely not the a**hole 🤣

Particular-Set5396 | Particular-Set5396

BF's family doesn't talk during meals, he should have warned her. NTA 👍

Mrs_Weaver | Mrs_Weaver

Don't stay with someone who scolds you like a child 🚫🤬

BlueberryBlossom13 | BlueberryBlossom13

Navigating cultural differences during family dinners can be uncomfortable 😬

AmandaRosePM | AmandaRosePM

Commenter softens from YTA to ESH, criticizes OP for not respecting family tradition 🤐

josie0114 | josie0114

Always communicate with your partner about family dinners 💬👫

ididthisonporpoise | ididthisonporpoise