It’s an old adage that the things you value the most in life are not the things you have, but the things you’ve done. And this is very true because if you are an avid traveler, you most likely don’t think that your passport is your greatest possession; if you are a sports fan, you most likely don’t think that your favorite team’s jersey is your greatest possession; if you’re an author, you most likely don’t think that your published book is your greatest possession. You get the point.
But what if someone thinks the only thing that gives your life any value is your children? That is what the OP’s neighbor thought about them until she said something. Let’s take a look at how the story unfolded.
Mom is proud of her accomplishments and loves her kids too!

Tom surprises the mom by recognizing her children as her greatest accomplishment!

A neighbor’s assumption leads to an unexpected conversation about parenting and accomplishments

Mom’s neighbor saw her 3 children as her greatest accomplishment, but she had a different take on it.

Jen shared her opinion on what her greatest accomplishment is – her kids!

Tom looks super smug while other moms agree their kids are their greatest accomplishment

The mom was shocked to find out her neighbor thought her 3 kids were her greatest “accomplishment”, and it was a wake-up call for her to get help

Mom is surprised when her neighbor values her parenting over other accomplishments

Mom receives unexpected feedback from her neighbor and a reminder to not send chats

Lucia-pacciola shares her true greatest accomplishment, defying what the neighbor thinks!

Mom is shocked to find out her neighbor thinks her 3 kids are her biggest accomplishment
When chatting with her neighbors, one of them, Tom, said that the mom’s children were her greatest accomplishment. She was taken aback, as she had a lifetime of accomplishments that preceded motherhood. She said that this assumption was insulting, and the other moms in the conversation agreed that their kids were their greatest accomplishment.
The mom wonders if she’s the a**hole for not viewing her kids as her greatest accomplishment. Read on for the reactions of people on Reddit to how this mom handled the situation .
Women aren’t defined by biological functions!

A mom’s AH neighbor
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NTA! Accomplishments outside of parenting are just as valid

Is motherhood *a**hole’s* biggest accomplishment?
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♀️ NTA: Children aren’t an accomplishment

Neighbors give compliment, OP & gets ESH ♀️

NTA ♀️ Everyone’s allowed to have their own opinion!

Everyone’s in the wrong!

Is it wrong to call parenting one’s greatest accomplishment?

Mom defends herself against condescending comments

Proud mom rejects the notion that her kids are her greatest accomplishment!

Two adults in a ♂️stupid argument!

Neighbor has a sexist opinion
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NTA: Kids should not define a parent’s life.

TOMS: the a**hole ♀️

A**holes everywhere ♂️

NTA. Accomplished life

YTA: no one is ranking accomplishments
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NTA: Jen needs to mind her own business!

Different perspectives
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What does ‘accomplishment’ mean?

Mom is taken aback

NTA: ♀️ choose what you’re proud of!

♀️ Parenting is the bare minimum ♀️

NTA!

NTA: Everyone has their own definition of accomplishment ♀️

NTA – You’re worth more than your children!

NTA: A blessing, not an accomplishment

Neighbor’s opinion sparks outrage

Is the neighbor’s opinion YTA?

Not an a**hole

NTA. Women are capable of so much more!

Accomplishment or Therapy?

The neighbor’s comment isn’t an accomplishment

NTA – don’t let anyone diminish your accomplishments!

Motherhood ≠ accomplishment ♀️

️ ️Moms can have accomplishments other than their children!
