Did I Break My Promise and Abandon My Stepkids? The Internet Weighs In

Alfe Mercado
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When someone gets married, there are usually promises made and expectations of a happy family life. But what happens when a marriage does not work out and someone is left feeling betrayed and traumatized? This was the case for one 25-year-old who recently reached out to their former step-mom about promises made and broken. Read on to find out what happened and how the situation is being viewed by the internet.

A whirlwind courtship leads to a family of four and a promise to be “the one” 🤔

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Internet users unanimously agree: 'Childcare should be a team effort!'

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He said he DESERVED to relax, but did he break his promise to his stepkids? 🤔

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He was the 'fun dad' but the kids ganged up on and mocked her 😞

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A promise to stepkids complicated this marriage and ultimately led to difficult decisions

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A heartbreaking letter left behind, but was it the right decision?

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Divorce led to an abrupt ending of ties with stepkids - relief ensued

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A 25-year-old reaches out, accusing their step-parent of "abandoning" them and "traumatizing" them for life. How will the internet respond?

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A woman's dilemma: did she break her promise and abandon her stepkids? 🤔

At 22, a woman met 'Will', who was 29 and had 2 kids. Will said she was 'the one' and they had a whirlwind courtship. Soon, Will shoved the childcare responsibility onto her and developed a major attitude towards her, so she realized her marriage was a mistake. After a year, she realized she genuinely hated the kids and walked out, leaving a note and never contacting them again. 15 years later, Tamara, Will's daughter, reaches out, saying she was betrayed and traumatized for life for 'abandoning them'. What should she do now? Let's explore the internet's reactions to this difficult situation.

NTA: No responsibility to never leave 💡

HoldFastO2 | HoldFastO2

NTA! 💪 OP escaped an emotionally manipulative & abusive situation. 🤕

CupofCursedTea | CupofCursedTea

🤔What would you do in this situation?🤔

StevenKnowsNothing | StevenKnowsNothing

Good for you! 💪🏼

Odd-Increase | Odd-Increase

👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 A stepparent's dilemma 🤔

The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver

NTA: ✋🏻 Remind her of her family's treatment 🤔

OneEnvironmental4930 | OneEnvironmental4930

NTA! 🤦‍♀️ Single dads often take advantage of women 🙅‍♀️

Postmodernfinn | Postmodernfinn

🤔 Ex is accused of 🤥

niantictomystic | niantictomystic

NTA: 🚫🤦‍♂️ Will took advantage of you!

SpitDontQuit | SpitDontQuit

A complex situation 🤔

Maddie215 | Maddie215

🤔 The internet weighs in on a complicated family situation.

BarracudaGullible | BarracudaGullible

💔Kids left traumatised💔

roleyroo | roleyroo

NTA: 💔😔🤷‍♀️

YouretheAH | YouretheAH

🤔 Dad's fault or not?

BowzersMom | BowzersMom

NTA: He tricked and abused 🤬

Dairykream | Dairykream

NTA: You are not the a**hole 🤔

GravityDefining | GravityDefining

NTA: 🤔🤔 Did they know?

ScienceNotKids | ScienceNotKids

The Internet Weighs In: 🤔💭

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NTA, their father was manipulative 🙅‍♀️

Moggetti | Moggetti

NTA; it's better that 🤔you left 🔥15 years ago💔

Fickle-Willow4836 | Fickle-Willow4836

Not the a-hole 👊🏼

Punchasheep | Punchasheep

NTA: You were coerced into making promises 🤦‍♀️

Consistent-Leopard71 | Consistent-Leopard71

Did Will's first wife really die? 🤔

JeepersCreepers74 | JeepersCreepers74

Abandoning stepkids? 🤔

melympia | melympia

NTA: ✋️🚫 A hard decision for the best 🤔

No-Policy-4095 | No-Policy-4095

NTA: You're both victims 💔

AMaskedAvenger | AMaskedAvenger

Tamara struggles in 💔 to understand her dad & childhood 🧐.

Mrrrp | Mrrrp

Leaving a difficult situation: NTA 💪

Shinybrainpan | Shinybrainpan

NTA: You deserve better!

throwawayValidation1 | throwawayValidation1

Finding perspective on a 🤔challenging situation 🤔

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The internet weighs in: NTA

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NTA: You were 💪 to leave

Massive-Emergency-42 | Massive-Emergency-42

💔NTA: You were taken advantage of 🚫

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🤔 Is the fruit falling from the tree?

NachoFurioso | NachoFurioso

Not the a**hole 🤷‍♀️

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NTA: You didn't break your promise 🤔

snewton_8 | snewton_8

NTA: You weren't in the wrong 🤔

ElegantAnt | ElegantAnt

ESH: Dad is the biggest a**hole 🤬

jquickri | jquickri

NTA: 💔A sad story of a stepmom's escape

SadderOlderWiser | SadderOlderWiser

Don't reopen the door 🚪

Ann-Stuff | Ann-Stuff

NTA: No obligation to stay 💔

behindthewheel | behindthewheel

🤔 NTA: Dad's stepkid grew up like him and accepts no responsibility 🤷‍♂️

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No a-hole here 🤷‍♀️

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NTA: No obligation to a grown woman.

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🤔 NTA: Not the a**hole?

ItsAJAgain | ItsAJAgain

NTA: Ex is 💩 and kids are 🤷‍♀️

_LaVidaBuena | _LaVidaBuena

Tamara's blame and anger is misplaced. 🤔

Damn_Dutchman | Damn_Dutchman

🤔 Did the OP do the right thing?

jumpsinpuddles1 | jumpsinpuddles1

🚩 When a guy introduces his kids too early 🚩

Goody3333 | Goody3333

NTA - 🚫🤦‍♂️ Manipulative Gobshite 🚫

Caer-bannog | Caer-bannog

No A-holes Here 🤝

starchy2ber | starchy2ber

Moving on from a broken promise 💔

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