When Enough Was Enough: AITA For Installing A Lock On The Bathroom Door After BIL Repeatedly Barge In?

Alfe Mercado
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Living with family can be difficult, especially when it comes to respecting each other's privacy. For one woman, her brother-in-law kept barging into the bathroom while she was using it, with no regard for her privacy. She told her husband, who laughed it off and called her paranoid. When her brother-in-law barged in again while she was showering, she had had enough and installed a lock. Now, her husband is angry with her and giving her the silent treatment. Is it wrong for her to install a lock after her brother-in-law's disrespectful behavior? Read on to find out the discussion that ensued on Reddit.

After a divorce, BIL moved in and started barging in to the bathroom without warning.😨

sands2019 | sands2019

After her brother-in-law repeatedly barged in on her while she was in the bathroom, she installed a lock to make sure it never happens again.

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After multiple uncomfortable intrusions, the wife was left with no choice but to make a drastic change to her bathroom!

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After a "promise and guarantee" from her husband, the OP refused to remove a lock she installed on the bathroom door after her brother-in-law "barged in" on her 🔒

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The BIL is mad after the OP installed a lock on the bathroom door

sands2019 | sands2019

Frustrated with her BIL's repeated intrusions, she found a unique way to put an end to it!

sands2019 | sands2019

After repeated intrusions, OP takes action and installs a lock on the bathroom door!

sands2019 | sands2019

When boundaries were crossed, OP packed a bag and left for her mom's in order to resolve the situation.

sands2019 | sands2019

After her BIL offered to take her to her mom's house, she felt hurt and offended. Enough was enough. 🔒

sands2019 | sands2019

When enough was enough: 🔒🚻 AITA for installing a lock on the bathroom door?

After BIL (brother-in-law) moved in with the couple, he started barging in to the bathroom whenever the wife was using it. She emphasized to her husband that if his brother walks in on her in the bathroom one more time then a lock would be installed. True to her word, after her BIL walked in on her showering, she installed the lock. Her husband got angry, claiming that this went against their agreement and demanded that she remove the lock. Despite his *promises* and *guarantees* that his brother won't walk in on her again, she refused. This left her husband angry and he is now giving her the silent treatment. This situation has left the wife feeling offended and hurt. What can be done to resolve the issue? Let's take a look at the reactions and comments from the Reddit community.

🤔 NTA for installing a lock!

FloppyEaredDog | FloppyEaredDog

BIL repeatedly barges in? 🔐 NTA!

umenu | umenu

NTA 🤗 You deserve 🔒 and 💯 support!

Snow-13 | Snow-13

Should married couples have locks on doors? 😕

bright_copperkettles | bright_copperkettles

BIL not respecting boundaries 🚩

Dotty_Ford | Dotty_Ford

A creepy story😱 NTA!

Neither-Copy785 | Neither-Copy785

🔒️ Protecting boundaries: NTA

excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420

Husband 🤔 NTA 🤔 Brother 🤔 Creep 🤔

whorlando_bloom | whorlando_bloom

👊🏼A must-have boundary 🔒

Opposite-Spring3533 | Opposite-Spring3533

Protecting yourself! 🔐

Smudgikins | Smudgikins

🤔 Discover the🔐behind OP's lock!

ShroudWolfe | ShroudWolfe

🔐NTA: Protect your 🚪 from BIL's creepy behavior!

HedgieTwiggles | HedgieTwiggles

Family ties tested🤔

Kreeblim | Kreeblim

Protecting personal space ✊

a_badflower | a_badflower

Protect yourself: 🔐 NTA for installing a lock 🔐

Odd_Seaworthiness962 | Odd_Seaworthiness962

Not the A-hole! 🤷

Stephreads | Stephreads

Divorced brothers 🤔

SceneSignificant136 | SceneSignificant136

BIL's barge in👀NTA!

teresajs | teresajs

NTA! 🔒 Installing a lock on the bathroom door is a must!

throwawayanylogic | throwawayanylogic

NTA: Protect your 🔐 from BIL!

FeeOverall1497 | FeeOverall1497

The BIL's behavior😡

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🔒 NTA: Installing a lock on the bathroom door!

Skizzybee | Skizzybee

No a-hole here! 🤬

Ok_Flamingo8749 | Ok_Flamingo8749

NTA: Doing what's necessary 😤

Jbooth72 | Jbooth72

NTA for installing 🔐on the bathroom door 🚪

Ligmaballzss | Ligmaballzss

Time to throw out 👎🏼 the creepy BIL!

Da_Knight_Rider | Da_Knight_Rider

You have the right to feel safe 🔒

KweeNeeBee | KweeNeeBee

An unexpected no-locks rule 🤔

QuantityAccording750 | QuantityAccording750

👊 Not the a-hole 🔒 Install the lock 🚪

imtchogirl | imtchogirl

Family drama: NTA 🤔

that_was_way_harsh | that_was_way_harsh

🤔 Husband silent, BIL barges in!

HariSeldon1986 | HariSeldon1986

NTA: Installing a lock 🔐

Obrina98 | Obrina98

NTA: 🔒 on the 🚿 door 🔒

Special_Respond7372 | Special_Respond7372

BIL barging in🚪? NTA for installing a lock!

Vaahla | Vaahla

🔒 NTA: Lock on the door = Necessity!

Asleep_Library_963 | Asleep_Library_963

NTA: Home should be a comfort 👍

Bright_Sea_7567 | Bright_Sea_7567

NTA: Husband not protecting privacy!

DottedUnicorn | DottedUnicorn

NTA: 🤮🔒

waywardjynx | waywardjynx

No one's the a**hole 🤷

UK_not_USA | UK_not_USA

NTA: Put the brother out 🚪

yurgoddess | yurgoddess

🤔 NTA: Husband not supporting lock on bathroom door?

beechaser77 | beechaser77

🔒 NTA: Installing a lock 🔐

Tensionheadache11 | Tensionheadache11

Sticking to boundaries 🔐

poppet_64 | poppet_64

Protecting boundaries 🔒

JoutsideTO | JoutsideTO

No more intrusions! 🔒

bogo0814 | bogo0814

BIL intruding? 🤯 NTA for installing a lock!

ValeNova | ValeNova

Installing a lock: 🔐NTA! 🗝️

drugs4therapy | drugs4therapy

NTA: Brother's creepy behavior 😱

Imahsfan | Imahsfan

Protecting your privacy 🔐

aknotamous | aknotamous

Is NTA for installing a lock 🔒

Lea_R_ning | Lea_R_ning

Husband's reaction 🤔 NTA, but...

Greedy_Information96 | Greedy_Information96

Not The A**hole: 🔒🔐

HesterFabian | HesterFabian

NTA: 🚪🚶‍♀️

Murderhornet212 | Murderhornet212

Is your husband 🤔 more concerned about a lock than your privacy?

LBelle0101 | LBelle0101

Bil's disrespectful behavior 🤦‍♀️

The_Incredible_Rook | The_Incredible_Rook

BIL barged into OP's bathroom 😱

redcore4 | redcore4

NTA: Not cool 👎

LexGuy12 | LexGuy12

NTA: Husband 👨‍⚖️ should have taken issue more seriously 🤔

savage1878 | savage1878

👩‍❤️‍👩 NTA: Husband not on side?

tiny_town1000 | tiny_town1000

Installing a lock: NTA 🔒

Gur_Weak | Gur_Weak

𝙉𝙏𝘼: Protecting your privacy 🔒

Status-Pattern7539 | Status-Pattern7539

NTA: Unspoken promise of safety in your own home.

Gralb_the_muffin | Gralb_the_muffin

NTA: 🔐🚪 Setting Boundaries

somelikeithannah | somelikeithannah

👍🏼 NTA: Tell your husband to remove the lock when the BIL leaves.

Lainy122 | Lainy122

Protecting privacy: NTA 🔒

SpeakingNight | SpeakingNight

Is it okay to install a lock 🔐?

SillyStallion | SillyStallion

No a-hole here 👍🏻

InsideWafer | InsideWafer

When 👊 was enough 🔒

jess1804 | jess1804

Protecting privacy ✊🔐

Average80sGrl | Average80sGrl

BIL's creepy behavior😱

Conscious_Front5650 | Conscious_Front5650