Man Asks Girlfriend To Change Her Dress For A Wedding Because It’s Inappropriate To Wear White, She Calls Him A Jerk

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There’s no denying that weddings are some of the most beautiful celebrations out there. But what makes them even more special is the time and effort that the couple puts into planning their special day. The decorations, the music, the food and drinks, the outfits; everything has to be flawless.

While the pressure might get to some people, others take it as a challenge and want everything to be as close to perfection as possible. And when it comes to the outfits, there’s an etiquette that’s been around for ages, and it’s saying that unless you are the bride, you should avoid wearing white as it can be taken as disrespectful to the bride.

And this is what happened to a Reddit user who shared a story about how he refused to take his girlfriend to a wedding when she wore a white dress. Let's dive into the full story.

A man asks his girlfriend to respect wedding etiquette, she calls him a jerk

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He thought her dress was inappropriate but she called him a jerk!

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He tried to be lighthearted but his GF didn't agree - outdated tradition or an attempt to control women?

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Girlfriend feels controlled and calls him a jerk after he asks her to change her dress for a wedding

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Girlfriend tears up as the man insists she changes her dress for the wedding, but he stands his ground.

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Is he an a**hole for telling his girlfriend not to wear a white dress to his colleague's wedding?

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Girlfriend finds out about the thread and the couple talks it out over the phone 🤔

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He refused to work it out, and she called him a jerk. "It was a pretty good talk"

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A disagreement that escalated to name-calling left one user feeling sad and wondering what a future with their partner would look like

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After the heated argument, they both found a resolution that worked for them both - an example of mature communication

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He asked her to change her dress for a wedding, she called him a jerk. 🤔

One weekend, a man in his early thirties invited his girlfriend of one year to a wedding ceremony. As she comes out to join him, he notices she is wearing an off-white dress and politely suggests she change to a different color. She becomes upset, believing he is trying to control her, and calls him an abuser. He is hurt and upset, and the two part ways. But was the man in the right, or was he being a jerk?

Read the post text to find out and see what the reactions have been.

👎 GF wants drama, but NTA 🤷‍♂️

beeeeeebee | beeeeeebee

A wedding fashion 🤔💔

lexkixass | lexkixass

Dating faux pas 😮

OrangeCubit | OrangeCubit

Girlfriend calls 👨🏻‍🤝‍👨🏼 'jerk' for étiquette corrections 🤷‍♂️

parishilton2 | parishilton2

NTA: Girlfriend's dress 👗 a manipulative act? 🤔

Dramatic-Ride-7666 | Dramatic-Ride-7666

Don't wear white to someone else's wedding! 😱

ghostwriter623 | ghostwriter623

Girlfriend shows up in white🤯

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NTA: a**hole move to demand an apology

[deleted] | [deleted]

He said goodbye and 👋🏼 to his manipulative GF 🤷‍♀️

Mallvar | Mallvar

NTA! 🤔 He didn't deserve the disrespectful reaction

Angie-Shopper1983 | Angie-Shopper1983

NTA: Work attire matters!

serenasplaycousin | serenasplaycousin

Breaking wedding 🤦‍♂️ etiquette!

Haughtscot | Haughtscot

Girlfriend overreacted 🤦‍♂️

reyballesta | reyballesta

NTA: Your girlfriend was wrong

fizzbangwhiz | fizzbangwhiz

NTA: 👎 Girlfriend's Response

VictorianPlatypus | VictorianPlatypus

🤷‍♂️ NTA: Girlfriend calls the man a jerk for requesting she changes her dress for a wedding.

StevieB85 | StevieB85

NTA: "Wedding law" 🤷‍♂️

FunAssociation8963 | FunAssociation8963

He's NTA 🤷‍♀️ White dress etiquettes exist for a reason

breathemusic14 | breathemusic14

NTA - Respect the 👰🏻's wishes!

DustOfTheDesert | DustOfTheDesert

Girlfriend calls him a jerk 🤬

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NTA: 🤷‍♂️ Bad etiquette isn't abusive!

MommaGuy | MommaGuy

Girlfriend's attention-seeking behavior ✋

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Girlfriend's dress sparks 🔥🔥

bigfatchair | bigfatchair

Gf called bf a jerk 🤷‍♀️👀

PoTuckerGus | PoTuckerGus

NTA: Don't fall for it!

Tasty-Biscotti355 | Tasty-Biscotti355

Girlfriend called out🤭

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👏 Standing up for yourself 💪

alwaysforgetthpw | alwaysforgetthpw

NTA: 🤷‍♂️ Girlfriend is the one being controlling

lizzybell2019 | lizzybell2019

🤔 NTA: Don't wear white to someone else's wedding!

idreaminwords | idreaminwords

Girlfriend Upstaging Bride🤦‍♀️

s0me_us3r_name | s0me_us3r_name

You're NTA👍

Takeabreak128 | Takeabreak128

Girlfriend's dress sparks drama 🤦🏽‍♂️

1mamapajama | 1mamapajama

NTA: 🤦‍♂️Girlfriend's manipulation tactic isn't cool

BankLongjumping6795 | BankLongjumping6795

👎🏼 NTA: 🤦‍♂️ Girlfriend's behavior is 🤮 & 🤬

bibbiddybobbidyboo | bibbiddybobbidyboo

🤦‍♂️ Respectful but firm - NTA

Total-Being-4278 | Total-Being-4278

No a-hole here! 🤷

Choco_Pudding_Fart | Choco_Pudding_Fart

NTA! 🤔 Nobody wears white to weddings.

sitvisvobiscum001 | sitvisvobiscum001

Girlfriend calls 🤬over white dress 🤦‍♀️

FleurDeCLE | FleurDeCLE

Friend's faux pas 🤦‍♂️

AJWordsmith | AJWordsmith

Girlfriend turns a simple request into drama🤯

FoolMe1nceShameOnU | FoolMe1nceShameOnU

NTA: Bride should be the only one in white 🤷‍♀️

dreamcatcher1966 | dreamcatcher1966

Girlfriend's disrespectful behavior 🤔

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NTA: Not the jerk 🤷‍♀️

CoastalCerulean | CoastalCerulean

Girlfriend ⚡️crosses the line⚡️

QumDumpsta | QumDumpsta

NTA: She knew or was oblivious 🤔

ShouldahWouldah | ShouldahWouldah

NTA: 🤦‍♂️ Don't wear white to weddings!

gnorcgnexus | gnorcgnexus

🤦‍♂️No white to weddings!

sdbinnl | sdbinnl

Bride's dress code: 🤔

kmcc12345 | kmcc12345

NTA: GF wrong for 🤬 blaming OP 🤷‍♂️

GenjisWife | GenjisWife

Calling out her BS 👎

Anything4Selenaaas | Anything4Selenaaas

🤷‍♂️ NTA or NAH? 🤔

B00tsB00ts | B00tsB00ts

NTA: Respectful boundaries 👍

SolutionLeading | SolutionLeading

NTA: Nobody wears white to someone else's wedding 😒

Keirathyl | Keirathyl

Supportive replies to 👤

cottagecoreing | cottagecoreing

👎🏼 NTA: She's not a nice person

soul_reddish | soul_reddish

NTA for wanting a dress code!

ziptiedinatrunk | ziptiedinatrunk

Considerate BF vs. immature GF 🤔

ThiccBean-burrito | ThiccBean-burrito

NTA: everyone knows the rule 🤦‍♂️

W1cKed1ov3ly | W1cKed1ov3ly

NTA — you did the right thing!

einsteinGO | einsteinGO

Nightmare situation 😱

Sensitive-Ad7310 | Sensitive-Ad7310

NTA but she knew it was disrespectful 🤦‍♂️

RegretOk194 | RegretOk194

NTA: 🤷‍♂️You don't mess with tradition!

SoSoFunTime | SoSoFunTime

🤦🏻‍♂️ NTA: dump the girlfriend

Steffs123 | Steffs123

🤦‍♀️ Respect the couple!

Similar-Event8325 | Similar-Event8325

NTA: Girlfriend calls 🤬

Rude_Abbreviations47 | Rude_Abbreviations47