Man Kicks Out His Fiancée’s BFF From His House And Gets Called A Jerk, But Later Realizes He Won’t Marry A Woman Like That

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What do you think of when you hear the word “best friend”? For me, it’s a friend who has always been there for me through thick and thin, who I can tell anything to, and who will never betray me. Now, imagine that the same friend starts treating your place like her own, bringing her sketch ball boyfriend over without your permission, borrowing your most valuable belongings without asking, and drinking your alcohol without asking as well.

You would be pretty annoyed, right? It gets even worse when the person who’s supposed to be your significant other doesn’t see anything wrong with that kind of behavior because that is what their best friend does. This is the situation one Redditor shared with the AITA online community, and the post became viral.

Do you think that the fiancée’s behavior was acceptable as well? What would you have done in this situation?

Edit: Man finds car belonging to girlfriend's BBF, who he hates, parked outside his house and realizes he can't marry her

theantwonder1 | theantwonder1

Man kicks Girlfriends BFF out and show GF Reddit post reactions

theantwonder1 | theantwonder1

He knew it was over because of her reaction to the Reddit post, so he took off her ring.

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This fiancé just realized he won't marry a woman who can't be trusted with the garage code.

theantwonder1 | theantwonder1

He made a tough decision and realized he would never marry someone like that

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Ready to hit the golf course and enjoy the single life, the man is grateful for everyone's support and encouragement.

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Man discovers his fiancée's BFF won't be in his future, but he "escapes" a potential marriage disaster.

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Leah treats the man's home as if it's her own, and he doesn't like it.

theantwonder1 | theantwonder1

Leah's BF took his tools and disrespects him in his own home

theantwonder1 | theantwonder1

Leah and BF return tools weeks later, but invade man's wine collection, he's had enough 😤

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Leah tries to take advantage of Erica's kindness, but the man quickly puts a stop to it and realizes he's made the right decision.

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The final straw: man discovers fiancée's BFF took his golf clubs without permission

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Man takes back his belongings and tells his fiancée that Leah is no longer welcome in their home. 🤔

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Erica was angry about her best friend being banned from Eric's house

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He bans his fiancé's best friend and gets called an AH

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Is this partner in the wrong? 🤔

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He found out that he was about to marry the wrong woman 🤦‍♂️

After his fiancée's best friend stole his golf clubs and disrespected him in his own home, a man realized that he was about to marry the wrong woman. The man decided enough was enough and demanded the best friend leave his house. He then showed his fiancée this Reddit post and after a few minutes of reading, the man knew the engagement was over.

He was relieved to be free of a relationship that was heading in the wrong direction. After packing up his fiancée's things, the man is now ready to move on with his life. Read on to see how the Reddit community reacted to this situation.

OP needs to open his eyes 🤔

oksccrlvr | oksccrlvr

The comment states that OP needs to realize that he has a fiancé problem, not a Leah problem, and it's time to move on. Replies agree and agree that OP should not put his fiancé's friend on the deed to his home and should change the garage door code. The comment also warns that if he does not, the 'borrowing' of his things will only increase. Even worse, what happens if a stranger breaks in and hurts OP?

Be vigilant! 🔐

AppalachianEnvy | AppalachianEnvy

The comment advised to keep copies of the security footage and change the garage code. The comment reply thanked for the advice and mentioned that the code won't be given to Erica until the situation is resolved.

👤 NTA: Think twice?

No-Recognition3929 | No-Recognition3929

The commenter declares the OP as not the a-hole but suggests that the OP should think twice about marrying his fiancée after her friend robs them. The replies mention that the OP has some second thoughts and that it's hard to take bad actions of close friends seriously.

🤔 Is OP's fiancée respecting him?

Unhappy-Coffee-1917 | Unhappy-Coffee-1917

The comment argues that OP is NTA, but is focusing on the wrong issue: OP's fiancée has no respect for him or his property. Replies point out the fiancée's lack of respect for OP's property and suggest that leaving the relationship is the best option.

🤯 Girlfriend takes TA's side!

SurpriseBitchessss | SurpriseBitchessss

Commenter is "shook" that the girlfriend is not on the OP's side when it comes to the shady boyfriend. Replies suggest that the OP should lay down rules if he's not comfortable with the situation, but unfortunately it would be hard to prove if the boyfriend and his friend took things without Erica's permission.

NTA: 💰Stolen from him!

firecrackergurl | firecrackergurl

The commenter said 'NTA.' They mentioned that the fiancée's BFF had stolen from the commenter, which they saw as the end of the story.

🤔 What's the real story?

handydandy2020 | handydandy2020

The comment warns the original poster to be careful, as the fiancée might pull the "well it's my house now too" card once she's on the deed. The reply presents a hypothetical scenario of what this might look like, with the fiancée demanding respect in her own house despite not giving the original poster any.

He realized his fiancée wasn't for him 😮

Southern-Physics6488 | Southern-Physics6488

The commenter points out that the man is being disrespected by all the people involved, including his own partner. The replies suggest that the best part was when the fiancée's friend said she didn't want to go to her own apartment because it made her uncomfortable, and she wanted the man to deal with it instead.

NTA: 🤔 Boundaries violated!

PugRexia | PugRexia

The comment expresses that the behavior exhibited by the fiancé is unacceptable and that she should not be allowing her friend to touch the commenter's possessions and should not be dismissing his concerns or allowing others to disrespect him and violate his boundaries. The commenter pointed out that the fiancé is being obtuse and difficult when a reasonable boundary is asked for.

NTA! 🤦🏻‍♂️ Change the codes and protect your home.

1976Raven | 1976Raven

The commenter declares the OP as 'Not The A**hole' and advises the poster to change the codes of his house to protect his belongings from his fiancée’s best friend. The reply suggests that the poster should reconsider the relationship as Erica is not respecting his feelings or wishes.

It's time to re-evaluate relationships ✋

CloudswithDiamonds | CloudswithDiamonds

The commenter suggests rethinking the plan to put Erica on the deed, as she is an enabler for Leah and her boyfriend's entitled freeloading behavior. One reply shares their experience with a freeloading friend and suggests Leah needs a long talk to understand the unhealthy one-sidedness of their relationship. NTA.

NTA! 🤔 People shouldn't take stuff without permission.

brokenlandmine | brokenlandmine

The commenter declares the OP as NTA (not the a**hole) for kicking out the fiancée's BFF from his house as they were taking stuff without permission. The commenter suggests that the fiancée should think about her friends' disrespectful actions. A reply suggests to start looking at the valuables to make sure they're still there.

NTA: He's in danger 🔥

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The original poster (OP) is not the a**hole (NTA), and their fiancée's friend Erica and her friends are TA (the a**holes). They are acting like "sociopathic criminals", likely working together to "Mona Lisa'd" the OP, which means "seducing" them and robbing them while they are away.

NTA: 🤔 Pre-marriage counseling is a great thing!

GildedGimo | GildedGimo

The commenter suggests that the OP is not the a**hole in this situation and that the real problem is his fiancée who is enabling her friend's disrespectful behavior. The replies suggest that the fiancée may not realize that she is in an abusive relationship and recommend pre-marriage counseling for the couple.

🤔 NTA or reconsider?

Talisa87 | Talisa87

The commenter suggested that the original poster was Not The A**hole, and suggested reconsidering his decision to marry Erica as she defended her friend who had stolen from him, and gave him the silent treatment afterward.

NTA! 🤔 Erica's decision was a no-go.


The commentator thought that Erica was wrong for unilaterally deciding to invite a proven thief into her fiancé's home, and felt that she deserved the consequences.

NTA! 🤔

Bombardium | Bombardium

The commenter declared 'Not the A-hole' and stated that they would not marry the girl in the situation.

NTA: It's his house 🏠

iwantasecretgarden | iwantasecretgarden

The commenter mentions that the man has the right to bar the friend from his house, as the name on the title is his and he has revoked her access as a guest. The commenter suggests that his fiancée should seek counseling to come up with boundary-setting strategies to preserve the friendship if that's what she wants. Lastly, the commenter also adds that the man should change his garage code for added security.

NTA: A Realization 🤔

jtj5002 | jtj5002

The comment stated that the fiancé is either too subservient to the BFF or simply doesn't care about the commenter's opinion, implying that the OP is not the a**hole in the situation.

🤔 Is Erica's opinion wrong? 🤔

dimndsarentagirlbf | dimndsarentagirlbf

The comment suggests that the OP is NTA (not the a**hole) but the differences between the OP and his fiancée Erica are more than just open vs. private. Erica's guests are taking things from the OP's home without permission and being disrespectful. The replies point out that Erica's opinion is wrong as she's condoning theft and not taking action. It's suggested that the OP break it off with Erica.

NTA: You have the right to stand your ground 💪

Catatomical | Catatomical

The commenter believes that the man has made his position clear and should follow through with it. They also think that his fiancée should not be putting her friend above him and that he should consider his relationship in light of this situation.

He 👋 said goodbye to his fiancée's BFF 🤔 but realized that 🚫 he didn't want to marry her 🤷‍♀️

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The commenter advised the man to change his codes and have an honest discussion with his fiancée Erica. The commenter believes that the man can't trust her friend and that Erica seems to care more about her friend than him. The commenter asked if the man still wanted to marry her if this was the situation.

NTA: 🤔 Postpone the wedding?

EdutechLugie | EdutechLugie

The commenter suggested that the man postpone the wedding until he can sort out the problem with his fiancée. They also advised him not to put his fiancée's name on the house.

NTA: Respect your home 🏡

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The commenter declares the OP as not the a**hole (NTA) and thinks that it was not appropriate for the fiancée's friend to live at the commenter's place, treating it as if it was hers. The commenter also mentions that the friend was disrespectful and even stole from them.

NTA: Change the 🔐 immediately!

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The comment advises the poster to **change their security codes immediately** as their fiancée's friend, Leah, could use them to gain access to their home and possibly harm them. The comment also states that their fiancée, Erica, is enabling Leah's thievery and it is not to be tolerated. This comment declares the OP as **NTA** (not the a**hole).

🤦‍♂️ People shocked at the break-up

georgesorosbae | georgesorosbae

Commenters were stunned to read the post about the man breaking up with his fiancée based on a Reddit post. Replies were incredulous, with some noting that the story was unbelievable, and others pointing out that the Reddit community can be a bit dumb at times.

Patience tested 🤔

BabyWolf1776 | BabyWolf1776

The comment asserts that the man was not in the wrong for kicking out his fiancée's best friend from his house, since it was disrespectful for the friend to go through his stuff while he and his fiancée were not home.

NTA-protect your house!

rainbowtwilightshy | rainbowtwilightshy

The commenter is suggesting the original poster take action to protect his house, and calls out his fiancé for siding with her thief of a bf, as a "big red flag."

NTA: 🔐 Secure your garage!

TempestVI | TempestVI

The commenter suggested that the man should change his garage code as a security measure, as they deemed him 'Not The A**hole' in this situation.

NTA!👎 Neither respect you.

honeypenny | honeypenny

The comment is saying that the man is not the a**hole in this situation and that both Erica and Leah are disrespectful and dismissive of him. The comment also warns him that his future is likely going to be more of the same if he marries Erica.

NTA: Respect is key! 😡

Smeli_meli2 | Smeli_meli2

The commenter declares the OP as not the a**hole in this situation. They point out that their fiancée's lack of respect for their property and opinion is a serious issue. They suggest having a conversation and possibly an ultimatum to give her the opportunity to recognize the issue.

NTA but 🤔 about the defense

Intelligent-Help8946 | Intelligent-Help8946

This commenter states that the OP is not the a**hole, but wonders why the fiancé is so defensive about their friend's actions and how the friend treats them. They suggest that it's worth considering before continuing with the wedding.

An Ericaproblem 🤔

naraic- | naraic-

The comment suggests that Erica has given Leah the access code and that it is an issue between the OP and Erica. Police can help, but the issue is between them.

NTA: 🛑 No More Leah 🛑

vodka_philosophy | vodka_philosophy

The commenter tells the man to tell his fiancée that Leah is never allowed in his home again, now or after marriage. He should also tell her that if Leah or any of her friends/family end up with ANY of his belongings without his express consent, he will call the police and press charges. He must insist on premarital counseling to help him feel safe that his fiancée will learn how wrong what she's been allowing is so it won't happen once they are married.

NTA🤷‍♂️ Girlfriend's BFF makes him uncomfortable!

AppalachianEnvy | AppalachianEnvy

The commenter says NTA and that it is understandable why the guy's fiancée doesn't want to cut off her friend, but even she admits that the friend makes her uncomfortable.

NTA! 🤔

teenuahmarie | teenuahmarie

The commenter states that the OP is 'Not the a**hole' in the situation, and suggests changing the garage code as a solution.

🤔 Is it real or fake?

prancerdancer17 | prancerdancer17

The commenter expressed skepticism about the article and claimed it was fake.

NTA: 🔐Secure your home!

Niburu-Illyria | Niburu-Illyria

The commenter suggested that the man should take action to protect his home by changing the locks, and cautioned against the other person's theft-like behavior.

NTA: 🤔 Reevaluate your future

dtat720 | dtat720

The comment states that the poster is 'not the a**hole' and suggests that the poster and their fiancée must reevaluate their future together since she is disrespecting him and putting her friends before him. This could be a possible crack in the foundation of the marriage.

🤦‍♂️ Psycho or NTA?

IndependentKnee9754 | IndependentKnee9754

The comment states that the fiancee is a 'psycho' and the OP is Not The A**hole (NTA).

NTA: Respect ✊🏼

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

The commenter declares that the OP is not the a**hole for kicking out her best friend from his house. They also call out the fiancée's best friend for taking advantage of the situation and being disrespectful.

NTA: 🤔Rethink the engagement?

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The commenter asserted that the man was "NTA" (not the a**hole) and suggested that the man should "rethink this engagement."

NTA 🤝 Change your codes!

Maleficent-Flamingo | Maleficent-Flamingo

The comment suggests that the man is not the a-hole and that he should change his house codes, as well as call the cops the next time he sees something suspicious on his security cameras.

🤔Think twice before marrying!

oceanmountainlifer | oceanmountainlifer

The commenter advised not to marry the fiancée, citing he was the a**hole (NTA).

🤔 NTA: Fiancée is the real problem

subrhythm | subrhythm

The commenter believed that the fiancée was at fault and enabling her friend's behavior. They suggested changing the code and not telling her, as she would just tell her friend again.

NTA: 🤷‍♂️👋

LongSpoke | LongSpoke

The commenter declares that the OP is Not The A**hole in this situation and asserts that the man handled the situation calmly and appropriately. They also state that they would never allow Leah back into their house.

NTA: Don't marry her!

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

The commenter says that the man is not the a**hole (NTA) and reasons that his fiancée should have told her best friend to stop taking his things and entering the house without her. The commenter advises the man to go to couples counseling before any wedding planning and if his fiancée refuses, he should re-think the relationship.

NTA: 🤔🤔🤔

urson_black | urson_black

OP's fiancée's lack of concern for his personal property makes the commenter question her, and they state that OP is not the a-hole.

Protecting your relationship 🔒

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The commenter was in agreement with the article, stating 'NTA (not the a**hole). Do whatever you can to protect yourself, hopefully, your fiance can see how big of an issue it really is before your relationship gets ruined as well.'

The stakes for 💔Erica's relationship 🤝

lattelane682 | lattelane682

The comment suggests that if Erica does not see reason, the situation will escalate.

NTA: 🔐 Secure your home 🏠

LynneVicious | LynneVicious

The commenter suggests that the man change his garage code and rekey his house, implying that the man should take extra precautions to protect his home from unwanted guests.

NTA: Property 🔐 not 🤝 for 🤦‍♂️

Saint-Redfield | Saint-Redfield

The commenter believes that the man is not the A**hole (NTA) for kicking out his fiancée's BFF and her friends, who are apparently stealing from him. He suggests that the man take the matter seriously and call the police if they try to enter his property again.

NTA: 🤔 Erica needs to set boundaries with Leah.

Eccentric_Mermaid | Eccentric_Mermaid

The commenter says NTA and suggests that Erica's lack of other friends might be why she's not setting boundaries with Leah. They ask why Erica would allow Leah to continue her unacceptable behavior and wonder what it will take for her to realize she needs some distance from Leah.

A shocking plot twist 🤯

NYCQuilts | NYCQuilts

Erica's fiancee kicked out her best friend, Leah, from his home. Her parents were furious and have apparently banned Leah from their house since high school. It's a shocking plot twist that has Erica losing her fiancee and the respect of her parents while leaving one to wonder what Leah has ever given up for Erica.

NTA: Change the locks!

melibel24 | melibel24

The commenter suggested that the man should change the garage door code and locks as a reasonable response to his fiancée's disregard for his things and her "what's yours is Leah's" mentality. The commenter also noted that his fiancée comes off as very meek, a pushover, and submissive to whatever Leah asks/wants.

NTA: 🤷‍♂️

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The commenter declared NTA (not the a**hole) as they felt the man was justified in his action as he realized he wouldn't want to marry a woman that would allow her best friend to treat him that way.

NTA! 👎🏼

cancergirl-peanut65 | cancergirl-peanut65

The commenter believes the fiancée's behavior is unacceptable and that she is spineless and/or clueless about her friend. The commenter suggests that the man has a GF problem and should not marry someone like that.

NTA: Calling the cops 👮‍♀️

exixx | exixx

The commenter declares the OP as not the a**hole and believes the right thing to do would have been to call the cops after the tool thing happened.

NTA but 🤔❓

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

The comment suggests that the fiancée does not care about the house, stuff, or feelings of the commenter, indicating that the commenter is not the a**hole in this situation.

Issuing an ultimatum 🤔

LarkspurSong | LarkspurSong

The commenter suggested that the original poster issue an ultimatum to his fiancée: either she agrees to never allow her BFF to enter his house, or she should leave. The commenter also advised the original poster to reconsider putting his fiancée's name on the house.

🤦‍♂️ A man avoids disaster

Yungdab420 | Yungdab420

A Redditor comments that the man dodged a bullet by avoiding marriage with two "crazy" women.

Man makes a tough 🤔 decision 💔

Tight-Piece-843 | Tight-Piece-843

The commenter declares that the man is not the a**hole for kicking his fiancée's best friend out of his house.