Parents expect their children to behave in a certain way, and they are always ready to remind them how they should do that and what they shouldn’t do. And even though the children are adults and know what is right and wrong themselves, they are still trying to make their parents happy. Or at least that is what this woman thinks who Redditors were quick to judge when they read the post she made asking if she was a jerk for skipping Christmas with her parents this year because they still don’t allow her to have a sleepover with her boyfriend even though she is engaged to him.
“Am I The Jerk For Skipping Christmas With My Parents Since They Won’t Treat Me Like An Adult?”

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A 27-year-old is debating whether to skip Christmas with her parents since they won't treat her like an adult 😕

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A mom's refusal to "treat [her] like an adult" has one reader wondering if they should "skip Christmas" with their parents.

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“A dilemma of whether to attend family Christmas despite not being treated like an adult”

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Feeling frustrated with being treated like a child, this Redditor contemplates skipping Christmas with their parents.

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The OP reaches their breaking point after their parents won't treat them like an adult and responds with a stern message.

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Parents don't agree but some people do: is it okay to skip Christmas?

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Parents taking it too far by trying to "make their kid look good" after the decision to skip Christmas?

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Family drama is tough, should this adult skip Christmas to avoid it? 🤔

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Can adults still be 'told' what to do by their parents?

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Should skipping Christmas with parents who won't treat you like an adult be considered a jerk move?

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What's the best way to visit family for the holidays 🤔

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A 27-year-old woman skips Christmas with her parents who won't treat her like an adult. 🤔
A 27-year-old woman finds herself in a difficult situation. With her mom refusing to let her and her boyfriend of two years share a bed when they visit, she decides to skip Christmas with her own parents and visit her future in-laws instead. Even though her parents took down their posts and apologized, the woman still feels that she is being treated like a child instead of an adult. People have responded with mixed reactions, leaving her to wonder if she is the jerk for making such a decision.
👊 NTA: OP is not the a**hole for standing up to a controlling, manipulative parent.

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🤔 Should OP have been upfront?

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NTA 💯 Just tell the truth!

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👨👩👦 Is Dad an 🤔 enabler?

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NTA: Block & 🚫 interact 🛑

stollentrollin | stollentrollin
🤔 Is it wrong to skip Christmas with parents who won't treat you like an adult?

gover2087 | gover2087
Stand up for yourself! 💪

CogentHawk | CogentHawk
🤔 Everyone's wrong in this battle 🙅♀️

idgafemp | idgafemp
Family dynamics 🤔

Jeschalen | Jeschalen
🤔 Everyone's in the wrong here 😔

IndiaMike1 | IndiaMike1
NTA: Respect is 🔑

Jordan-Peterson_Fan | Jordan-Peterson_Fan
Avoiding the drama 💃

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NTA 100%: 🚫NC w/parents?

Seaguard5 | Seaguard5
A family with different views

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NTA: Honesty is Key 🔑

VeryFluffy | VeryFluffy
NTA. 💬 Avoid the drama 🙅♀️

JunieBeth | JunieBeth
NTA: You're not the jerk!

SlothLordMcMarekat | SlothLordMcMarekat
🤔 NTA - Parental control

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🤔NTA, but ESH

Able-Dress1678 | Able-Dress1678
NTA: You deserve to be treated like an adult ☝️

SnooSprouts6712 | SnooSprouts6712
NTA 💯 You did nothing wrong!

VeryFluffy | VeryFluffy
Parents won't treat OP ⚖️

Sourlifesavers89 | Sourlifesavers89
NTA: Be your own adult 👊

CutEmOff666 | CutEmOff666
NTA: Petty but understandably so 🤷♂️

Nikkian42 | Nikkian42
👏 Outplay them!

Konstantin_22 | Konstantin_22
Is skipping Christmas the 👎 or 👍 move? 🤔

AliAlex3 | AliAlex3
Setting boundaries 📝

sunnyreece | sunnyreece
NTA: Mom's passive-aggressive 🤦♂️

Forsythia77 | Forsythia77
NTA: You don't owe anyone

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Good for her! 🙌

jojodolphin | jojodolphin
NTA! 🤗 Live your life.

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Family drama: 🤦♀️🔥

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Parents won't treat them🤔

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NTA: Not invited for 🎄

NiobeTonks | NiobeTonks
Everyone hates this 🤦♂️

Forsythsia | Forsythsia
No one should be forced to follow someone else's religion 🙅♀️

cloudDamballah | cloudDamballah
🤔 Skipping Christmas

Ohhnoubehindert | Ohhnoubehindert
Adulting can be hard🤔

axley58678 | axley58678
Is lying to avoid drama ok? 🤔

theshekelmaster | theshekelmaster
NTA - No Rent Here!

johnny9k | johnny9k
NTA: No one's the a**hole!

C_Majuscula | C_Majuscula
Setting boundaries 🤝 💪

Hfx_bike_commuter | Hfx_bike_commuter
Difficult family dynamics 🤔

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NTA 💪 Skipping Christmas 🎄 with parents to protect self 🤝

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NTA: 💪 Standing up to a controlling family!

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Breaking familial bonds 😣

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Parents won't treat adult? 🤔

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NTA! 💪🏼

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Don't fight for your rights 💪

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NTA - Stand your ground!

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Don't let them define you 💪

Ladykaesong | Ladykaesong
Families can be toxic 💔 #NTA

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NTA: 🔥🔥🔥 Put your foot down against the 'Handmaid's Tale' nonsense!

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Family conflict leads to resolution 🤔

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