A dog groomer took to the internet to find out if he was a jerk for quitting his friend’s wedding photography job. In a post on the AITA subreddit , the groomer who goes by the handle icy-reserve6995 explained that he very seldom shoots things other than dogs. “I very seldom shoot things other than dogs even if I have a nice set up,” he wrote. He added that a friend got married a few days ago and “wanting to save money, asked if I’d shoot it for them.” The groom agreed to pay $250, which is nothing for a 10-hour event, but for icy-reserve6995, it was a “shoestring budget.” During the wedding, the author found himself running short of water and food and was not allowed by the groom to leave the job to get some rest. So he deleted the photos he took and left, wondering if he was wrong to do so.
Photographer’s “thing” of taking photos of dogs all day ruined by one groom’s request to not eat or take a break.
Friend convinces photographer to shoot wedding on a budget, but then bans him from taking breaks and eating
Groom’s demands get out of hand, leading to deleted photos
Groom denies photographer food and rest, so he deletes all photos
Groom denies photographer basic needs and refuses to pay for services
Photographer deletes photos after being denied food and rest by groom
Groom’s behavior takes a turn for the worse, leaving the photographer with no choice
Groom’s wedding request turns into deleted photos and a lesson
When a dog groomer was asked to shoot a wedding on a shoestring budget, they didn’t expect their request to be so extreme. The groom asked them to work for 10 hours without taking a break or eating, and when the groomer requested a 20-minute break, the groom refused and instead the groomer had to delete all the photos they had taken. With the heat and hunger, it was the last straw for the groomer and they left. How did the wedding turn out? Read on to find out the reactions and comments from others in the same situation.
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A wedding photographer gets mistreated
The commenter is Not The A**hole (NTA) in this situation and points out how the groom expected the photographer to work for 8.5 hours without food, with little water and no break, even though she was doing it as a favor. The commenter and the replies discuss how the photographer should tell her side of the story before the groom tries to spin it.
Even the dogs get better treatment than this ‘mate’!
The comment expresses disbelief that the groom would deny the photographer food and a break, even though they requested mates rates. Replies agree, emphasizing that even animals are treated better than this ‘mate’ and that the groom was not entitled to mates rates.
The ♂️ ♂️ Groom ♂️ ♂️
The commenter declared that the groom was the a**hole for telling the photographer to leave without pay and the commenter’s replies agreed that the situation was ridiculous, but that the photographer should not have deleted the pictures. The replies also noted that the groom’s threat was not that severe.
Groom’s unreasonable demand
The commenter is NTA and believes the groom was wrong for expecting the photographer to work for free and for taking away the $250 fee without mentioning it in advance. Replies agree that it is normal for a photographer to get a seat, food, and drink at a high-end wedding. “Play stupid games win stupid prizes.”
Groom refuses to let eat or take a break
NTA. Who refuses to allow someone water or food? OP was treated worse than hired help and should put this friendship in the trash. Even in white collar settings, staff can be chided for eating a plate of food. It’s not okay to not let people have a basic need like food or water.
Should the photographer have kept the photos?
The comment suggests that the photographer should have kept the photos and sold them for $1,000, charging the customer an additional $750 as the ‘butthead customer surcharge’. Replies to the comment include that $1000 would have still been a steal for a photographer and an alternative suggestion of ‘the a-hole tax’.
Groom bluffs and gets
The comment suggests that NTA (not the a**hole) as the groom’s ultimatum was not reasonable, and the comment_replies discuss how issuing ultimatums can backfire. The replies also agree that the groom’s behavior was unacceptable and that OP should not feel bad about their reaction.
Groom ♂️ bans photographer from eating and taking a break ♀️
The comment expresses disbelief at the groom’s outrageous behavior, pointing out that becoming a photographer doesn’t mean one should not need food nor water. The replies suggest that the groom is likely trying to get away with paying the photographer less, and that providing food and breaks is common courtesy. NTA.
♂️ Don’t mess with a hungry person!
The commenter NTA said that giving a hungry person an ultimatum is a huge mistake and the comment replies mentioned not to mess with a hungry person or someone with a strong urge to pee.
NTA ♂️ Don’t be a slave
The comment expresses disbelief that the groom would try to revive slave labor and encourages the OP to make a post explaining the situation before the groom and bride return, so they can’t blame the OP. The reply suggests the OP should get there before the couple does and make the post.
ESH: A**holes or not?
The comment discusses the dilemma faced by the photographer after the groom bans him from eating and taking a break. The replies debate whether or not the photographer’s behavior is justified, with some arguing that even if it is, the groom and friends were still a**holes.
NTA: ♂️No breaks for 10-hr event ♂️
The commenter believes the photographer was taken advantage of and was not given any breaks during the 10-hour event. They think a professional would have negotiated a break in the contract. A reply noted that only a few states have mandated breaks by law and many companies have them as policies or are union negotiated.
NTA:
The commenter is not the a-hole (NTA) for insisting on a meal and break while working at weddings as a videographer. They also note that filming guests eating is not enjoyable for the guests and the footage is not great. Replies point out that taking a few photos during the meal is standard, but they won’t take photos the whole time guests are eating.
Treating people with & =
The initial comment shares a story of a groom offering to pay for two friends’ flights, hotel, food and drinks, plus some cash as a favor for taking care of the photos for his wedding. The comment replies agree with this sentiment and shares their own experience of going above and beyond for their photographer. NTA.
Sh*t’s about to hit the fan!
The commenter predicts a dramatic event is about to happen, expressing their need for an update when it does. No replies were found.
NTA:
The comment and replies strongly suggest that the groom was in the wrong, and that his behavior was inappropriate and inexcusable. The comment writer and replies agree that the photographer did the right thing by deleting the photos and leaving, and that the groom’s expectations were unreasonable.
NTA : Photographer uninvited for doing a favor
The comment author declared that they were not the a**hole in the situation and that the photographer was uninvited for doing a favor. It was described as “mind-boggling”.
Groom makes outrageous request, so photographer deletes all photos ♂️
The photographer was asked to take pictures of the guests *while* they were eating and was not even allowed to take a break. Impressed by the photographer’s reaction, the commenter suggests that the photographer should have just walked out and asked for his $250 for the photos as ransom. The photographer reveals that his job was mainly to take pictures of the daughter running around and not the guests eating.
Treating people like this is sad ♂️
The commenter believes that it is wrong to treat people like this, and they were raised to offer everyone doing something for them something to drink. Replies agree that the groom and photographer are not friends, and that the photographer was actually doing them a favor for the low pay they were offering. Everyone is in agreement that this situation is sad.
Photographer not allowed to eat
The photographer was invited to the wedding, but was later told they weren’t allowed to eat or take a break. The photographer asked if that meant they changed from a guest to “the work”.
“They f**ked around and found out”
The section comment expresses the sentiment that the groom’s decision to ban the photographer from eating and taking a break had unforeseen consequences. NTA.
Groom’s a**hole move ♀️
The commenter called the groom an a**hole (NTA) and was curious if the bride knew what he did. The reply suggests that the bride may not know and the groom is trying to hide it. Both agree that the groom is an a**hole.
NTA
The commenter suggests that the photographer should answer all the questions about the photos but with a hint of pettiness. In the replies, the photographer explains that after working for 6 hours without a break, food, or water, the groom refused to allow a drink and food break and asked the photographer to either keep working with no breaks or to leave. The photographer chose to leave and there will be no photos.
Friendships ruined
Commenter says NTA (Not the A**hole) and suggests the groom was not a close friend. Reply suggests the groom was on a “low priority friend list” and that friendships have been ruined as a result.
Immature ♂️ revenge leads to scorched earth
The comment suggested that everyone involved acted a**hole-ish, but the groom and photographer’s actions were particularly cruel. The comment pointed out that the photographer had the right to tell the groom to f**k off and demand double the payment, instead of destroying the photos. It concluded that the photographer’s response was an immature one.
Bride left in the dark
Groom’s a**hole behavior led to all wedding photos being deleted. Commenter suggests OP should have charged the groom for his treatment, but wonders if the wife was part of the problem. Replies speculate that if the wife was not involved, the husband is to blame.
Burned by a “friend”
Former wedding photographer comments that NTA. $250 is nothing for the amount of hours they worked and they were usually respected as a human being by the people who paid the least. They suggest recovering the photos with a software like EaseUs, which is roughly $90.
The of unreasonable groom ♂️
The comment agrees that the groom’s behavior was unreasonable and suggests that the photographer should have stopped taking photos, gone home and demanded payment before sending the pictures. The comment also acknowledges the ‘hive mentality’ of the post.
NTA
The comment argues that the groom was wrong for not allowing the photographer to eat and take a break, despite telling them they wouldn’t be paid if they left. The comment also mentions that such behavior is unacceptable and inexcusable.
NTA: Photographer stands up for his rights
The comment states that the photographer was treated unfairly and is not the a**hole (NTA) and suggests that deleting the photos was a bit extreme, as they could have been withheld for payment at a later time.
NTA when your needs aren’t met
The commenter didn’t think the photographer was wrong for deleting the photos after the groom refused to provide food or a break. They suggested waiting to see if the groom would discuss it, but noted that he should have seen how rude he was being.
NTA! ♀️ Respect everyone!
The commenter is ‘Not the A**hole’ for this situation, as the couple should have paid for a professional wedding photographer in the first place and treated everyone with respect, giving them the basic necessities at minimum.
NTA: ♂️ No pay, no photos!
The commenter declared that the groom was ‘NTA’ (Not the A**hole) for not letting the photographer eat or take a break, as no pay was given. They then expressed surprise that the groom wouldn’t even allow the photographer to have some water.
Friends or foes?
The comment is shocked at how the groom treated the photographer, declaring that the groom should not be considered a friend.
Photographer gets treated poorly
The photographer, who had done two weddings for close friends for a discounted rate, was not allowed to eat or take a break during the reception. The photographer declares that the couple was not a friend, but an a-hole and should never have been given a discounted rate.
♀️ Photographer scammed
The commenter was not an a**hole for deleting all the photos after the groom refused to feed him and take a break. The commenter believes the groom should have hired a professional if they wanted less time and to be treated better.
Groom’s request ♀️
The commenter said the groom was not the a-hole for asking the photographer to either not take a break or not be paid for it. No replies were found.
A fish, a wish, & !
NTA: A fisherman was granted wishes by a talking golden fish, but his wife kept demanding more. Eventually the fish told the fisherman to go home, and his wife would get what she deserved. The fisherman returned home to find the palace gone, and all that was left was the hovel he started with.
Groom bans photographer:
The commenter argues that the groom was wrong to ban the photographer from taking a break and eating. The replies provide further perspectives, such as that the photographer had the right to delete the photos out of spite, or that the photographer should not have to do the groom a favor by holding onto the photos.
Yikes!
The comment’s sentiment was that the groom was wrong for not allowing the photographer to take a break or eat, and was labeled ‘Not The A**hole’. No replies were found.
Groom bans photographer from eating & taking a break ♂️
The photographer had to work since 1pm but was not offered a meal by the groom. The photographer let the Maid of Honor know that they couldn’t start until after they had eaten but she ignored them. NTA and the photographer should cut ties with the couple.
Groom’s nuclear option
The comment complained about the groom’s ‘nuclear option’ of deleting all the photos in response to the photographer not taking a break or eating. It suggested the groom was being an a**hole and that they should have been given a chance to make it right instead.
♂️ Ultimatums don’t always work!
Commenter points out that the groom was in the wrong for giving an ultimatum to the photographer, and is Not The A**hole for the situation.
Groom’s price goes after photographer deletes photos
The commenter notes that the photographer should not have deleted the photos since it would have increased their price. No replies found.
