Bride Asks If She’s A Jerk For Kicking Out A Bridesmaid After She Ruined Her Wedding Dress

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Every bride has her own vision of what her dream dress looks like. Meanwhile, the idea that you don’t really have to wear a wedding dress at all has also been gaining traction in recent years. However, often brides still want to wear the dress they’ve dreamed of since they were little. Sometimes that even means wearing it only once in their lifetime. Bride Nadia had a very special dress she wanted to wear during her wedding and she planned to wear it only while walking down the aisle and then change into something more casual for the reception, according to her Reddit post. That all changed when one unlucky bridesmaid spilled wine on the bride’s dress causing it some damage and prompting a series of very unpleasant scolding. Feeling heartbroken and angry, Nadia had to make a tough choice, kicking her friend out of her wedding. Wondering if that was really the right thing to do, she turned to one of Reddit’s most popular communities, asking if she was the jerk in this situation.

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Bride kicks out bridesmaid after she ruins her wedding dress. AITA? 🤔

When a 27 year old bride opened the door to her room to check on the preparations for the wedding, she found that a bridesmaid had made a horrible mistake. The bridesmaid, Anna, who knew how delicate the lace on the wedding dress was had been holding a glass of red wine and spilled it all over the bottom of the dress. With no time to clean it before the wedding, the bride had no choice but to get married in a dress that was not the one her mother had passed away in. In her grief, the bride lashed out and kicked her bridesmaid out of the wedding. The other wedding guests thought the bride overreacted, but she thinks she's justified. Was she wrong for her emotional reaction? Read on for comments and reactions!

The 🤬 bridesmaid 🗣️ NTA 🤯

loloannd | loloannd

The comment argues that the bridesmaid's behavior was totally unacceptable due to the sentimental value of the wedding dress and her lack of remorse. Other replies provide additional arguments to suggest that the bridesmaid's actions were deliberate, and conclude that the bride was completely Not The A**hole in this situation.

Welcome to "Bride-zilla" 🤦‍♀️

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

The comment suggests getting rid of the bridesmaid that ruined the bride's wedding dress on purpose, as it is too much of a coincidence that it happened in the bride's absence. Other replies agree that the bridesmaids' actions show they don't care and are either plotting or being thoughtless.

NTA (not the a**hole)

NTA - Red wine near a wedding dress 😏

straightaspasta | straightaspasta

The original commenter justified the bride's reaction and suggested the bridesmaid's response should have been to apologize profusely for her carelessness. The replies highlighted the difference between spilling red wine before the wedding and during it, and agreed that the bridesmaid's lack of an appropriate reaction such as mortification or embarrassment was justified.

🤔 Did she do it on purpose?

Next-End-4696 | Next-End-4696

The comment expresses suspicion that the bridesmaid ruined the bride's wedding dress on purpose, supported by replies highlighting the negligence of the action regardless of intention and the fact that red wine should never be near a formal dress.

NTA: 🤦‍♀️🍷 no excuse 🤔

Fainora | Fainora

The commenter states that they are "NTA" (not the a**hole) since there is no way this was an accident. Replies agree, questioning why the bridesmaids were near the dress with red wine in addition to asking what is the backstory behind these friends.

NTA! 🤦‍♀️ She was right to kick out Anna!

No-Rub1544 | No-Rub1544

The commentor thinks that the bridesmaid, Anna, was in the wrong for bringing red wine near the dress. They felt bad for the bride and were shocked at Anna's lame excuse. Other replies were in agreement and shared similar wedding stories.

Bride confronts bridesmaid 🤔

Beck2010 | Beck2010

Anna is not the a**hole for kicking out her bridesmaid after she ruined the wedding dress, according to the comment and its replies.

No blame here 👋🏼

TinyRascalSaurus | TinyRascalSaurus

The commenter said NTA, affirming that the bride is not the a**hole here. They were confused why red wine was allowed near the dress, to which the reply explained that the dress was in a corner far away from the sitting area, so there was no risk of it getting stained.

Anna gets called out! 🙅 NTA

MajorRockstar79 | MajorRockstar79

The commentor called out 'Anna' who ruined the wedding dress, asserting she was the a-hole (AH) and that the original poster (OP) was not the a-hole (NTA). The reply agreed and criticized Anna's behavior as deliberate, implying she knew exactly what she was doing. Both comment and reply agreed Anna should apologize and OP should stand their ground.

No one to blame? 😐

Sad-File3624 | Sad-File3624

The commenter argues that it's not just Anna's fault for the damaged dress because no one should have opened the red wine near a white dress. Comment replies state that Anna was the one who caused the issue by walking over to the dress and not the opening of red wine.

Bride or Bridezilla? 😮

New-Fudge-7871 | New-Fudge-7871

The commenter said that the bride's friends were the a**holes while she had a very normal reaction to her bridesmaid's boundary-crossing and lack of remorse. NTA.

👎NTA: 💔A wedding dress disaster & lack of remorse

No_Performer7787 | No_Performer7787

The commenter declares the bridesmaid NTA, pointing out that it wasn't the accident itself that was the issue, but the lack of remorse after. The reply also suggests that the bridesmaid may have done it on purpose, calculating that there was a second white dress so that she could do damage without cancelling the event.

Bride says NTA 😡

Slip_Slip_Knit | Slip_Slip_Knit

The commenter argues that it was inappropriate for the bridesmaid to bring a glass of red wine near the wedding dress before it had been worn to the ceremony, and that the bridesmaid's cavalier attitude about the situation was unacceptable. NTA.

👤 Bride kicks out bridesmaid 🤯

EngineeringDry7999 | EngineeringDry7999

The bride is not the a**hole for kicking out a bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress. The bride questioned if the bridesmaid made an honest mistake, or did it on purpose. No replies were found.

NTA for kicking rude bridesmaid out 🙅‍♀️

Sputtrosa | Sputtrosa

The bride was praised for kicking out the bridesmaid for her rude behavior after spilling wine on the dress. The comment replies had one person noting that it was likely not an accident judging by the bridesmaid's attitude.

Bride kicks out bridesmaid 😱

Hotcheetogyurl | Hotcheetogyurl

The commenter sympathizes with the bride's situation, asserting that if it happened to them, they would be in jail and their "friends" at a funeral. They make it clear: NTA (not the a**hole).

NTA: Not an honest mistake 🤷

000-Hotaru_Tomoe | 000-Hotaru_Tomoe

The comment states that the accident was not an honest mistake but rather a 'stupid mistake'. The commenter believes that carrying a glass of liquid was an invitation for an accident to happen.

🤔 Bride kicks out bridesmaid!

mzpljc | mzpljc

Bride is "NTA" (not the a**hole) for kicking out a bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress, and suspects the bridesmaid did it on purpose.

🤔 Were there signs of an underlying issue between the bride and bridesmaid?

jlwolfe6983 | jlwolfe6983

The comment suggests that while the bride is definitely Not The A-hole, there may have been underlying tension between the bride and bridesmaid Anna leading up to the wedding dress incident. No further replies were found.

NTA! 🤷‍♀️ Red wine disaster 🍷

SpareCartographer402 | SpareCartographer402

The commenter declared that the bride was not the a**hole (NTA) for kicking out a bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress with red wine. The commenter expresses disdain towards the bridesmaid not taking protective measures to prevent the accident and makes it clear that the bridesmaid's lack of care is why the bride kicked her out.

NTA: 😅Faulty fashion faux-pas 🤦 💔

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The commenter made it clear that NTA (not the a**hole) for asking the bridesmaid to leave. Anna's reaction was careless, and the commenter admits they would have begged for forgiveness if they had made the same mistake.

NTA bride! 👊

Your-Mum42096 | Your-Mum42096

The commenter is not the a**hole in this situation and is shocked that the bridesmaids aren't on the bride's side. They feel Anna's unapologetic response suggests it wasn't an accident and she had no problem leaving the wedding without remorse.

🤦‍♀️Bride Kicks Out Bridesmaid

sperans-ns | sperans-ns

The bride is "NTA" (not the a**hole) for kicking out a bridesmaid who ruined her wedding dress, since the bridesmaid was "all a**holes" for opening red wine next to her dress. A reply suggests the bridesmaid may have done it on purpose to "upstage the bride".

NTA! 💔 Anna ruined the dress and was unapologetic.

DelurkingtoComment | DelurkingtoComment

The commenter declares that the bride is Not The A**hole and that Anna ruined the dress and had no regard for her actions and was completely unapologetic.

NTA: 🤷‍♀️ Red wine = 🚫 weddings

imtchogirl | imtchogirl

The commenter isn't the a**hole (NTA); it's important to ban red wine at weddings and make sure people apologize for their mistakes, or friends will be worried about being cut out.

NTA 🤷‍♂️

Dndfanaticgirl | Dndfanaticgirl

The commenter has declared that the bridesmaid was 'Not The A**hole' (NTA) for kicking out the bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress. The commenter notes that 'they knew the rules about the dress', and that the wine should not have been in the room at all.

Bride kicks out 🍷-spilling 💃🏼

hiddensunshine23 | hiddensunshine23

The commentor agreed that the bride was Not The A**hole (NTA) for kicking out a bridesmaid who had ruined her wedding dress by spilling red wine on it. They felt it was unlikely her dress would have been damaged without the bridesmaid's intervention and suggested she may have done it on purpose.

NTA for kicking out 🙅 bridesmaid 💔

paragontrigger | paragontrigger

The commenter strongly believes it's not the a**hole for kicking out the bridesmaid after the bridesmaid ruined her wedding dress due to carelessness.

Bride is NTA or a 'Bridezilla'?

frozenelsa12 | frozenelsa12

The comment expresses that the bride is not the a**hole (NTA) or a *Bridezilla* for kicking out a bridesmaid who ruined her wedding dress.

NTA: 🤷‍♀️ No remorse 🤦‍♀️

pxluna | pxluna

The comment states that the bride is NTA (not the a**hole) for kicking out a bridesmaid who had ruined her wedding dress, as the bridesmaid had not shown any remorse or taken responsibility for her mistake.

No A-Hole Here 🤦‍♀️

kalaliva | kalaliva

The commenter believes Anna should not be blamed; she deliberately ruined the wedding dress and showed no remorse afterwards.

Bride 👰🏼 kicks out bridesmaid 🤷‍♀️ after wedding dress 🤵🏾 ruined 💔

annedroiid | annedroiid

The bride is 'NTA' (not the a**hole) for kicking out the bridesmaid after her wedding dress was ruined with red wine. The commenter suggested that the bridesmaid may have had a crush on the groom or was jealous, or that her friends could just be idiots.

🤷‍♀️ Was bride's reaction too 🤪?

Green_light2626 | Green_light2626

The comment says NTA (Not The A**hole), as the bridesmaid's actions were considered foolish. The replies agree with this sentiment, and say her actions were immensely foolish and unacceptable.

NTA: Friend's carelessness led 🤦🏾‍♀️

Remarkable_Manner318 | Remarkable_Manner318

The commenter says the bridesmaid is not the a**hole (NTA) because she likely didn't intend to ruin the wedding dress, but she also was careless in taking precautions to avoid it.

Bride kicks out a 🤷 bridesmaid 🤔

Kaisohot | Kaisohot

The commentor justifies the bride's action of kicking out the bridesmaid, believing it was justified due to her lack of remorse and that she drank wine near the wedding dress which was important to the bride. No replies found.

NTA👍🏽Bride's emotions come first!

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The commenter believes that the bride is not the a**hole and everyone understood the significance of the dress. They comment that it was a reckless act to hold a red wine glass while viewing the dress and question why it had to be touched in the first place.

Someone's careless⚡️

Brainjacker | Brainjacker

It seems like the commenter is saying the bridesmaid was NTA (not the a**hole) for kicking her out, because she was careless and remorseless.

NTA: 💔 Friends let down the bride

Rage-Parrot | Rage-Parrot

The commentor argued that the bride was not the a-hole but was disappointed that her friends failed to understand her situation and reacted the same way as her. They suggested the bride find new friends.

🤔 NTA: was it intentional?

NickelPickle2018 | NickelPickle2018

The comment suggests that the bridesmaid's behavior was intentional. She had red wine near the bride's dress, which the commenter believes was stupid.

NTA 👎 Bride's dress ruined by bridesmaid!

AliceInWeirdoland | AliceInWeirdoland

The commenter declares the bride 'not the a**hole' for kicking out a bridesmaid who ruined her wedding dress. They suggest the bride have a vow renewal and make better friends for the event.

Someone's suspicious 😉

Lexi_Applebum83 | Lexi_Applebum83

The commenter wondered if the bridesmaid's ruined dress was intentional, and suggested that there may have been other 'bridezilla' incidents that are linked to this incident.

NTA: Red wine near a wedding dress? 🤯

OmniVorousWallflower | OmniVorousWallflower

The commenter declares the bridesmaid NTA for kicking out a bridesmaid who ruined her wedding dress with red wine. "Wow. I cannot even. WHY would you have red wine near a wedding dress?", they ask in disbelief. The comment ends with an expression of sympathy for the bride.

🤯 NTA: no wedding dress drama!

SpudTicket | SpudTicket

The original commenter says NTA (Not The A-hole) for the bride kicking out a bridesmaid who ruined her wedding dress: "I can't imagine going anywhere NEAR someone else's wedding dress while holding a glass of wine. That's just asking for trouble."

Lesson: be careful to avoid honest mistakes! 🤔

acltear00 | acltear00

The commenter believes the bridesmaid was being neglectful and that the accident invalidates any beliefs that they were being careful. They express their sympathy towards the OP (original poster) and conclude that the OP was NTA (not the a**hole).

Friends don't let friends ruin wedding dresses 💔

Special_Weekend_4754 | Special_Weekend_4754

The commenter believes the bride was right to kick out her bridesmaids who were drinking wine near her wedding dress, and even more right to be angry after one of them spilled wine on the dress on the day of the wedding.

NTA: Don't mess up someone else's day!

renaissance-Fartist | renaissance-Fartist

The commentor expressed that they would have kept their hands behind their back in order to not ruin the wedding dress, deeming it 'careless and heartless'. There were no responses to the comment.

NTA! 🤔

rain-717 | rain-717

The commenter believes the bride is not the a**hole and suggests they try to get the bridesmaid to understand their perspective by asking if they would be okay with an "honest mistake" with their own wedding dress.

Bride made the 🎉right decision!

Inside-Big-8158 | Inside-Big-8158

Bride wasn't a♀️Bridezilla, she was just making sure her wedding day was memorable and perfect. Bridesmaid Anna's behavior ruined the dress and she didn't take responsibility for it.

Bride Kicks Out Bridesmaid for Dress Disaster 👠

fatandsassync | fatandsassync

The bride NTA for confronting the bridesmaid after she ruined the wedding dress. The bridesmaid's reaction was worse than the offense, and she showed no remorse.

👎 NTA: Get better friends!

Vercouine | Vercouine

The commenter claims the bride is "Not The A-hole" and suggests she get better friends.

😠 Bride Kicks Out Uninvited AH 🥂

cassowary32 | cassowary32

NTA for kicking out the bridesmaid after she opened a bottle of red wine without approval. There's a reason why champagne is usually part of the dressing up rituals.

Is Anna a jerk or just stupid? 🤔

PA_Archer | PA_Archer

The commenter suggests Anna, the bridesmaid, might have purposely damaged the wedding dress, and thus NTA (not the a**hole). No a**hole found here. 🤷‍♀️

NTA: 🤬 Flippant carelessness!

EntertainerFlat | EntertainerFlat

The comment expresses the opinion that the bride was not the a**hole for kicking out a bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress. According to the comment, the bride's fury could have been because of the bridesmaid's nonchalance and carelessness that led to the dress getting ruined.

Bride 🤷‍♀️ kicks out 🚪 bridesmaid 🙅‍♀️ after 🤯 wedding dress 🤦‍♀️ mishap!

xthrowawayaccxx | xthrowawayaccxx

The comment acknowledges that the bride is NTA (not the a**hole) for kicking out her bridesmaid after she ruined her wedding dress. The comment also suggests that common sense should have been used to prevent the mishap, noting that no beverage should have been taken near the dress.

NTA! 👍 Bridesmaids joined together to ruin the bride's dream dress 💔

unikkorns_ | unikkorns_

The bride was not an a**hole for kicking out her bridesmaids after they ruined her wedding dress. The bridesmaids acted insensitively and even called her a "brideszilla" after they knew how much the dress meant to her. It's a joint blame situation since Anna spilt the wine, but the bridesmaids brought it in near the dress. No replies found.

NTA: even if dress didn't have special meaning 🤯

Fun-Statistician-550 | Fun-Statistician-550

The comment suggested NTA, as touching the wedding dress with red wine before the wedding day was unacceptable.

Friendship test: 👩‍❤️‍👩 NTA

LarkspurSong | LarkspurSong

The comment argues that getting new friends is the best option, as anyone who defends Anna's actions is considered an a-hole, just like Anna. The comment goes on to explain that even if it had been an accidental mistake, Anna would have been 'extremely apologetic, not deflective.' They conclude by saying that if these people don't understand why it is such a big issue, then 'they aren't your friends.'

Bride NTA for kicking out bridesmaid⁉️

J4netSn4kehole | J4netSn4kehole

The commenter says that even without the sentiment and emotion behind the dress, it would tick them off, and that the bridesmaid was AT BEST not being remotely careful, making the bride Not the A**hole (NTA).

Bride gets 👎 for kicking 🤦‍♀️ out after 🍷 on dress 🤦‍♀️

Who_apostrophe_sWho | Who_apostrophe_sWho

The commenter declared that the bride was NTA (not the a-hole) for kicking the bridesmaid out after she spilled wine on her wedding dress. They also suspected that the bridesmaids calling her a bridezilla might be AH (a-holes) if their 'joke' was how they honestly felt.

Bride isn't the 🤦‍♀️ bridezilla?

ProfileElectronic | ProfileElectronic

Commenter states that if the bride did not pour red wine over the bridesmaid’s head ruining her dress and hair and makeup, then the bride is not the 🤦‍♀️ bridezilla. No replies found.