What is the purpose of going on a vacation if not to check out some culture, spang some selfies to show everyone that you’re in another country, and obtain some well-deserved R&R, right? But what if your trip is more about the family getting away from their drunken rattler of a husband and his pack of brutes that are his sons? Even worse, what if your trip is more about being a servant with no proper recompense? A Redditor recently shared a story of when she and her friend were invited to vacation with her friend’s family and she was treated like the help.
Parents Of This Woman Expect Her Friend To Cook For Them While They Enjoy Their Vacation, Get Surprised When She Says No
Meg's family had expectations of her friend while they went on vacation, but they weren't prepared for this
Friend refuses to cook for her parents out of gratitude for the vacation
Woman's parents expect her friend to do all the cooking for a week-long family trip, but surprisingly she says no!
When the parents expected Meg & her friend to cook for them, they quickly learn that traditional gender roles won't fly!
Fiery exchange as friend refuses to be an unpaid domestic servant 🔥
Meg's firm stand against unfair expectations lands her in an unexpected argument & leaves her scrambling for a solution.
Stranded and on a budget, she found affordable housing and a chance to explore.
A young woman put her foot down and refused to cook for her friend's vacationing parents. Will she be the A**hole?
Rich family expected their guest to cook while they vacationed. She refused and created a drama. 😱
A college student was invited by her roommate’s rich family on vacation, only to find out that her role would be an unpaid domestic servant cooking for all nine family members. The student refused, expressing how the expectation was unfair and was asked harshly to leave by her roommate’s father. She decided to stay and was able to find alternate housing, saving the return flight for a future occasion. Now the student is asking if she was in the wrong for staying; let’s explore the reactions and comments from netizens.
This friend put her foot down 🙅♀️
The comment expresses that the parents' behavior was unacceptable and disrespectful, and their poor friend was expected to do the cooking while they enjoyed their vacation. The replies agreed with the sentiment, noting the situation was wrong. No one backed the parents, who came across as A** Holes with their behavior.
👎 NTA! Parents *try* to make their daughter's friend cook for them.
The commenter is appalled by the parents' outrageous request and declares that it's NTA (Not The A**hole). They suggest that if the family harasses the daughter's friend again, security should be contacted. Additionally, other commenters suggest that the family may have been trying to traffic the daughter's friend to use her as labor, and others explain similar experiences with relatives and nannies.
NTA ✋: Meg's family 💰 but 🤷♂️ class 🤔
The commenter is not an a**hole for not agreeing to cook for Meg's family while they enjoy their vacation. Everyone was in agreement that money can't buy you class and that the injured mother would have had to pick up the cooking duties if both Meg and the commenter left. Alternatively, they would likely have ordered food or eaten out.
No free servitude😔
Not The A**hole (NTA) for refusing to be someone's free servant on their holiday. The situation could have become a human trafficking situation if the ticket was canceled, so having some funds to fall back on is essential if traveling to a foreign country. Replies agree with the comment, saying the family was trying to take advantage of the situation and not too well off to be driving her back home that night.
NTA - **Meg's not a great friend!
The comment is saying Meg isn't a good friend, as she asked her friend to join her and her family on a vacation but didn't tell her that she'd have to cook. The replies agree and point out that Meg's family has probably conditioned her to think like this, but that she was still being a bad friend by not switching her first-class ticket to economy for her friend to sit with them.
No one's a-hole here 😏
The comment stated that the initial person was not the a**hole (NTA) because they were invited as a servant. The reply asked what were the chances that an initial person is a person of color (POC).
Parents expect a favor, get ✋ when a friend says no
The comment details how the parents of the woman gave her an ultimatum, expecting her to cook and clean for them while on their vacation, but the woman said no. The reply elaborates on how the situation was sketchy since the parents had no thought that she could afford to stay in the same resort and did not consider her safety at all.
The ultimate kindness! 🤗
The commenter states that the woman was potentially subjected to human trafficking by her parents and their 'friend'. In response, the replies agree that human trafficking does include being exploited for labor as well as sex. 🤔
🤔 You're not the a**hole!
The commenter is saying that the woman is not an a**hole for refusing to cook for her parents' friends while on vacation, and is making a point about why her parents' other friends were vetoed.
The comment supports the woman's decision and commends her for standing up for herself, praising her bravery.
NTA: Woman stands up* 💪
The commenter declares that the woman is not an a** hole for standing up to her parents, who expected her friend to cook for them while they were on vacation. A reply suggests that the woman may have already had a bad experience with her parents when she brought a friend on another trip or spoke up about the family's treatment of her.
Well said! 💪 🙌
The commenter finds it absurd that the parents of the woman expect her to cook for them while they take a vacation. They think they can also dictate her actions outside of the trip, but the commenter firmly declares that she's Not The A**hole and encourages her to enjoy her well-deserved break.
The commenter expressed support for the woman who refused to cook for her friend's parents while they enjoyed their vacation. They praised her, saying she was their hero for the day.
Giiiirrrrrllll 👋 NTA!
The commenter advised this woman to stop being friends with Meg and to inform her entire social circle after Meg expected her friend to cook for her parents while they enjoy their vacation. One reply suggested a full scorched earth social media campaign upon the return flight's landing.
👍🏻 Friend stands up for herself
The commenter applauded the woman for standing up for herself and not agreeing to cook for her parents while they enjoy their vacation. They acknowledged her for making lemonade out of the situation.
AHs alert: Parents expect 🤦♀️
The commenter declared the parents to be a**holes (AHs) for expecting their daughter's friend to do all the cooking while they were on vacation. The reply clarified that it was also stupid of the parents not to just opt for an all-inclusive holiday. Both the comment and reply agree that the daughter and her friend did the right thing in saying no to the parents' demands.
NTA! ✅Serving up justice ✊
This comment argues that the parents are NTA (not the a**hole) for expecting their daughter's friend to pay for and cook for them during their vacation. The comment states that the parents should pay for the expenses, it is not the friend's business what she does with her money, and they deceived her into thinking she was going to get a vacation instead of being a servant.
👏 A friend stands her ground 💪
The commenter commends the woman for refusing to cook for her parents' vacation, seeming to imply that it is against the expectations her parents have of her. They also agree that the woman is in the right, and is not the A**hole in the situation.
NTA: 🤯 Not cool for this 💔 family 🙅♀️ 🤬
Commenter asserts that the family's behavior is uncool, as they expected their daughter's female friend to cook and do labor while the brothers did not bring any friends. Commenter also sympathizes with the friend, expressing that they feel bad for them.
👍🏽 NTA: Good on you!
The commenter declared that NTA (Not the A**hole) for refusing the requests of the woman's parents who expected her to be their "help" during their vacation. The commenter also encouraged her to take pictures of her own vacation and post them everywhere, even to the family's accounts. 📸
Friend won't be a 🍽 for her friends' parents
NTA, the commenter shows shock and disapproval at the ridiculousness of the parents expecting their daughter's friend to cook for them while they enjoy their vacation. They have been labeled as terrible for treating their friend like a servant.
👏 Sweet revenge 🍰
The comment expresses the sentiment that the woman was right to say no to her parents' demands and that she was justified in getting sweet revenge. One of the replies emphasizes how living your best life is the best revenge.
Suggestion: 🤔 Tell them 🥴FO 🤚 and no more 🙅♀️
The commenter suggests that the woman should tell her parents to FO, meaning 'fly off' and not communicate with her again. They should also be reported to resort management if they bother her during the vacation.
A free ticket, but not free labor 🧐
The original commenter believes that the friend was invited along for free, as the family was not actually rich. They expected the friend to provide free labor in the form of cooking and cleaning, to which she said no. In the replies, the commenter observed that even those people of wealth can still act like 'shit stains'.
NTA: Parents took young woman out of country to make her a slave 👎
The commenter is not an a**hole, as the parents never told their daughter that she was expected to work, nor did they ask about her financial situation. The commenter suggests for the parents be reported to the police and the school for taking a young woman to a foreign country and making her a slave.
An inspiring 🤩 stand against exploitation
The commenter praises how the woman handled the situation and expresses their hatred for her parents and their exploitation of teenagers. The commenter implies that it is inspiring how the woman stood up for herself.
🤦♂️ NTA! Meg says no 👎
The commenter is not the a-hole (NTA) and says that Meg was right to refuse to be an unpaid domestic help, given her parent's rude and entitled attitude. Meg also let them sit alone in the economy and didn't check on them when they got stranded alone for a week in a foreign country.
👊🏻 NTA says no to cooking for her unchill parents.
The comment asserts that the woman, Meg, did the right and smart thing by saying no to cooking for her rude parents. It also implies that her friend is either a strong woman like Meg or a really bad cook.
👍 NTA and 🤩 kudos
The commenter posted that they are NTA (not the a**hole) and gave kudos to the woman for her quick thinking in setting a passcode for her ticket.
⚠️️ Rich people beware!
The commentator believes rich people should not be trusted, with no replies disagreeing or agreeing.
Family's red flags 🚩+ expectations 🙅♀️= NTA 🤦♀️
In this comment the person expresses surprise at the family's red flags, such as vetoing Meg's first two choices for friends, purchasing an economy seat for one of their many guests, and expecting Meg to cook for everyone. They suggest that the family may not like the other female friend because she had previously spoken out and suggest that Meg may be complicit due to constantly being treated this way. The poster declares the family to be 'NTA' and expresses a desire to know Meg's reaction.
NTA 🔥 Revolution 🔥
The commenter agrees with the woman and believes that her friend's parents deserve to be punished and mentions a revolution too.
👀 Is this story 🧐 real or 🤔 fake?
The commenter expresses their surprise that the OP is questioning their judgement after navigating a difficult situation, suggesting that the story might be fake. Another reply confirms this, revealing that nothing posted on the sub is real.
NTA👎 Parents expected, but🤷♀️ friend says no!
The commenter said NTA (not the a**hole) and believes that the parents expected the friend to stay and cook for them while they enjoy their vacation, but the friend said no and the commenter is in agreement with their decision.
👏 NTA* for standing up for yourself!
The commenter was in support of the woman's friend for refusing to cook for her parents while they were on vacation. She applauded her friend's boss move and her real BDE*.
👋🏻 NTA: you 💯 didn't deserve that crap 💩
The commenter gave their opinion, saying the parents were being petty and entitled by expecting their daughter's friend to just be their 'help' while they enjoyed their vacation. The commenter encouraged the daughter to enjoy her vacation as she had done the right thing by saying no.
👏🏼 Smart girlie says no 👏🏼
The comment praises the woman for standing her ground and saying no to her parents' unreasonable request. The commenter acknowledges the woman's decisiveness and applauds her with a 'Bravo' and the acronym NTA (Not the A**-hole).
👊︎ NTA: Be careful who you 'gift' ✈️
The comment says NTA (not the a**hole) and advises to be careful when 'gifting' flights to people. They believe that the parents of the woman were just annoyed that she wasn't trapped into being their maid and should hire a servant if they require one.
When a friend invites help, it's not always what it seems. 🤔
NTA (not the a**hole) - The commenter was not comfortable with the expectations of cooking for 9 people and felt that Meg should have warned her before inviting her. One of Meg's replies suggested that either Meg was completely on board with the expectation or had no idea of what a 'normal' anything is for other people.
👏 Unwarranted demands 👎
The comment applauds the woman for standing up for herself and not cooking for her parents' friends while they take their vacation, declaring it a 'shitty situation' and her Not The A-hole (NTA).
🤨 Standing her ground!
The comment said that the parent's demands were 'entitled' and asked if the friend knew about them and didn't warn the speaker. The speaker stood their ground and enjoyed their vacation, and they commented that they were 'Not the A** hole' in the situation.
Genius moves 🤓 but no cooking allowed 🙅🏼♀️
This comment praises the guest for coming up with the genius idea of password-protecting her ticket. The comment further states that the parents put the guest in an uncomfortable spot by not forewarning her about cooking three meals a day. The comment then concludes by asserting that the parents are wretched hosts and that the guest is 'not the a**hole' in this situation.
Fantasy TV drama in 🤔😮?
A comment relating the article's content to a fantasy TV drama raises an interesting question: what is the connection between this woman's parents and their vacation with White Lotus Season 2?
Standing up for yourself👍
The commenter advises the original poster to be proud of themselves for standing up for themselves against the expectations of their friend's parents. They also suggest bringing other friends up to speed on what happened as a way of ensuring they are not mischaracterized in any way. The commenter concluded by saying that the original poster was NTA.
Feeling exploited 🤔 NTA!
The commenter experienced exploitation from their friend's family on their vacation when they expected the commenter to cook without considering if they were comfortable with doing so. They also created a situation where they expected the commenter to pay for their return trip. The commenter believes the male, who wasn't cooking, was the one distracting their friend which is the reason they felt pressured to cook. No a** hole here!*
👐 NTA! Sometimes ya gotta say 'No'
The comment author found the situation humorous and thought the woman was not the a**hole in the situation. They wished the woman enjoyed the rest of her vacation.
Friendship tested ❓😲
The comment describes a daughter being mistreated by a well-to-do family during their vacation. She was invited to the family's vacation and offered only a paltry sum for expenses, then essentially abandoned and ignored for the entire duration. The comment concludes that the woman is not at fault for the situation and expresses feelings of hurt and confusion at the way she was treated.
NTA 👏 Friend says no to cooking for parents' vacation
The commenter said NTA to the woman's decision to decline cooking for her parents during their vacation. It was noted that she wasn't expected to be their personal chef and that she had done the right thing in protecting her ride home as her parents had clearly tried to take advantage of her hospitality.
NTA ✌️ - setting boundaries
The commenter says NTA (not the a**hole) in response to the post. They assert that the woman in the post did not use her parents, as they had only offered to take her to dinner and not asked her if she could afford it or to chip in. They emphasize that it is important to set boundaries when it comes to family members.
Friend stands up to👏parents👏
The commenter is of the opinion that the friend is NTA (not the a**hole) and sarcastically asks if the parents ever asked her for the code. No further replies were found.
Sacrificing a vacation🤔
The commenter believes that cooking for a large group of people, which includes preparing lunch and dinner, for a vacation would take up to 8 hours a day, making it impossible for them to also enjoy the vacation. With this insight, they suggest that it would not be wise to sacrifice a vacation for such a task.
💪 NTA! 🙌
The commenter firmly stands up to the parent's rude request and congratulates the woman for her decision to not cook while on vacation.
”Lazy people are lazy!” 😶
The commentator NTA is stating that the father and his work buddies' expectations of their daughter's friend to provide unpaid labor for them during their vacation is both childish and stupid and that even if they try to pass it off with an excuse, it is still lazy behavior. The commentator also adds that if they had enough money, they should have hired someone to do the cooking.
Friend sticks up for 💯
The commenter was supportive of their friend's decision, who was not willing to cook for the parents during their vacation. The commenter emphasized that their friend knew what they were doing and that they stood up for what they believed in.
Parent's expectations 👎🏽 Friend's response 👍🏽
The commenter stated that they are not the a**hole in this situation, and wondered if the friend was aware that she would have to cook for everyone and if that is why she was invited. The commenter implies that the parents are not being transparent about their expectations.