For some people, family is everything. A strong relationship with close relatives can help you build a life where you feel fulfilled and happy, and it can give you a sense of support and protection. But sadly, not everyone has such a positive experience with their family members. Some people are so damaged by their relatives that they cut off all communication with them and only keep the relationships for show. Unfortunately, the toxicity isn’t contained within those individuals. They can bring the negativity into their children’s lives as well. A redditor shared their story of just how far one set of in-laws were willing to go to exploit their relationship with the family in order to harm her relation to her husband. The user u/roadisland123 opened up about how she had a bad relationship with her husband’s mom. Things got so bad that she actually walked out of an airport when she saw the woman with her bags standing around waiting for the same flight as them. However, this only made things worse for everyone involved, and the woman was called a jerk for ruining the family vacation that was supposed to be just for them.
She Tried To Win Me Over, But Ended Up Copying Me Instead!
The Mother-In-Law Refused To Take ‘No’ For An Answer And Even Threatened To Call The Police. In The End, The Vacationing Couple Had To Settle The Matter At The Airport ♂️
Tensions Rise When Husband’s Mother Unexpectedly Joins The Vacation Plan. It Ends With Him Trying To Stop His Wife From Walking Out
What Would You Have Done If Your Spouse Booked A Surprise Ticket For Their Mother Without Your Knowledge?
After Refusing To Take Her Mother-In-Law On A Vacation, She Ended Up Walking Out Of The Airport. ♀️
When planning a vacation, many would think the last person they would want to invite is their mother-in-law. This is exactly the situation one woman found herself in when her husband’s mother started throwing a temper tantrum because she had not been invited. Upon arriving at the airport, the woman was shocked to find her mother-in-law already standing there with her luggage. Unable to hold her anger, the woman walked out of the airport and back to her home. Despite her family’s opinion that she had overreacted, the woman defended her decision and refused to be talked into staying. The responses from the comments and reactions section will detail how people felt about this woman’s decision. Was her reaction justified or was she too hard on her mother-in-law?
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Husband Tries To Trap OP, But She Stands Her Ground! ✊ NTA!
The commenter advised the OP to divorce her husband for not keeping to the boundary she set, for trying to pin her in a corner, and for berating her. The replies agreed, with some cautioning the OP to get a refund for the ticket if possible and move on with her life. Everyone agreed that the divorce card was the only one to play here. All comments indicated that the husband was NTA.
No One Deserves An Ultimatum
The comment and replies suggest NTA (Not the A**hole) in the situation and the commenter acknowledged the husband’s ultimatum was not only unnecessary but unacceptable. The comment also suggests that the husband might be too attached to his mother, who might be exhibiting manipulative and toxic behavior.
Hubby Lied & Put His Mom First?
The commenter says NTA (not the a**hole) indicating that the husband is the wrong party to blame. One of the comment replies states that the husband not only lied to his wife, but he also put his mother before her, which is a huge red flag. The other reply agrees that OP is NTA (not the a**hole).
No A-hole Here
The comment states that the person who left the airport was Not The A**hole (NTA) for not wanting to take their partner’s mother on vacation. The reply agrees with this sentiment and explains why it would be a difficult situation for the person to be in.
NTA!
The comment poster affirms that the OP was NTA (not the a-hole) for refusing to take their husband’s mother on the vacation, ultimately allowing their partner and mother-in-law to have the romantic getaway they were looking for. In response, the OP reveals that the trip was cancelled due to their refusal, and the comment poster replies with LMAO (laughing my a-* off).
Tired Of Tripping NTA
The comment called for a divorce, saying they would get tired of their husband’s umbilical cord and agreeing that they are Not the A-hole.* The post received a single reply, commending the comment and also agreeing they are Not the A-hole.
Don’t Waste Your Time! ♀️
The comment advises the poster to get out of their relationship. Two replies mention the importance of not wasting time and not having kids to be dragged into the situation.
Husband’s Mom Has An Unhealthy Relationship With Him
Commenter says that the husband’s mother has an unhealthy relationship with her youngest son. In the replies, the commenter explains that this behavior has caused the other children to resent him, and to an extent, the commenter as well. NTA.
Not The A-Hole?!
The commenter believes that the husband is at fault for having the audacity to take his mother on vacation without informing his wife. A reply commented that this has happened before, indicating that the husband has been allowing his mother to get her way by avoiding confrontation with her.
♀️ A Marriage Gone Wrong?
A comment expresses shock at a woman’s story of how her husband brought his mother along on a vacation without asking; in reply, the comment is given support and agreement that the husband is NTA (not the a**hole).
Would You Stay Married? NTA + counseling
The comment advises the OP to consider marriage counseling given her husband’s mother’s presence in her vacation. The comment suggests that the OP should ask herself if she wants to stay married given the present situation and implies that the OP should not feel guilty for not letting her MIL into the delivery room.
Standing Up For Boundaries
The commenter offers the OP support and recognizes her efforts at setting boundaries. They also suggest the book Sons and Lovers to the commenter, and encourage them to find someone who will put them first in their life. The replies to the comment offer agreement and gratitude to the commenter.
NTA Tired Of Sharing Her Husband?
The comment suggested that the woman was not the a**hole for leaving, but noted that she shouldn’t have married someone who was married to their mom. A reply suggested that staying single was an option and that it ensured that she was with someone who would respect her.
NTA: Book ️ And Leave mummy-Son ⛔️Trip ♀️
The commenter buys in to the idea that the woman should book a ticket and go on vacation elsewhere while her husband stays home with his mother. The woman replies saying that she is both physically and mentally exhausted and not up for a trip.
No One Dared To Stand Up To Her ♀️
The commenter expressed their sympathy and declared that the husband was the one to blame for the situation. Everyone else was declared to be a**holes for not having the courage to challenge the wife for putting her in-laws second. The comment replies further confirmed this assessment.
A Furry Friend for Support
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The commenter suggests that the woman should ‘run’ and take her dog with her. They further suggest that her husband will never change, if he is unable to see the issue with taking the MIL on the vacation. A reply to the comment shares a heartfelt story about their own fur baby, who has been a source of comfort and support for them for 3 years.
Divorce Your Hubby – MIL Drama Ahead
The comment recommends that the poster divorce her husband, suggesting it’s due to the potential for further MIL drama. One reply describes an instance where the MIL threatened to call the police with a false report to get them to stay if she couldn’t come.
NTA – You Don’t Have To Stay ♀️
The comment suggests that the woman is NTA (not the a-hole) for declining to take her husband’s mother on a vacation. The comment also directs the woman to Reddit threads like r/JUSTNOMIL and r/JustNoSO for better advice on how to navigate this tough situation. The reply to the comment indicates that the woman will take the suggested advice.
A Cautionary Tale
The comment suggests that the woman should leave her husband and get a divorce lawyer, implying that he is too attached to his mother.
NTA. You Stood Your Ground
The comment applauds the Original Poster (OP) for standing their ground and not taking their husband’s mother on a vacation as they had previously expressed. The comment also notes that their mother-in-law has narcissistic tendencies and that their husband is her ‘flying monkey’, and that arguing with them will only lead to them trying to make the OP doubt themselves.
Taking A Stand
The comment acknowledges OP’s experience and reassures them that they have not overreacted. It highlights that the mother’s boy dynamic has become an issue in their marriage, and encourages OP to make themselves the priority in their own life going forward. A reply emphasizes that the family was just trying to be supportive and make the best of their vacation plans.
NTA: Cancel The Trip!
The commenter was strongly against the woman taking her husband’s mother on vacation and advised her to cancel the tickets and enjoy herself. In reply, it was reported that the trip had been cancelled with her husband blaming her for it.
Woman Stands Up For Herself
The comment is saying NTA (not the a**hole) and expresses disbelief about how the husband’s mother was invited despite the woman’s vehement opposition. The reply states that the situation is common in the subreddit JustnoMIL and people go along with MIL’s wishes due to lack of knowledge or fear of incurring her wrath.
A Of A Situation!
The commenter labels the OP’s husband as the a**hole, and suggests that the OP book a solo trip or look for a divorce attorney. The OP replies that they no longer want to go to the place, feeling that it has been spoiled by the fight with their husband and his mom.
❓Parents On Vacation, Is It Really Worth It? ♀️ ♂️
The comment advises the OP to think twice before bringing their mother-in-law on a getaway. The replies to the comment agree that the behavior is unacceptable and conversation is needed to address the issue.
NTA: Woman ♀️Said No To Trip With Husband’s Mom ♀️
The commenter says the wife is Not The A**hole (NTA) in this situation as she has the right to refuse to go on the trip with her husband’s mother. Furthermore, her husband and his mother made their own decision not to go on the trip; therefore, the commenter suggests the wife accept no blame for the trip being cancelled. The commenter recommends the wife have an honest conversation with her husband about his priorities, asserting she deserves better.
Questioning The Marriage?
The commentator states that the situation is not a mother-in-law problem, but rather a husband problem. They suggest that if their boundaries were disrespected in this way, they would seriously contemplate if their marriage was worth it. According to the commentator, they are Not the A-hole (NTA).
NTA. ‘Run’
The comment suggests that the husband and mother-in-law are a**holes and that the woman should run away from the situation. No replies were found.
It’s Not To Force A Trip On Someone!
The commenter thinks that the woman was wrong to try to force the trip on her husband’s mother and it was also wrong for her husband to berate her afterwards. The commenter expresses sympathy and sends luck to the original poster.
Divorce Him?
A commenter suggested that the protagonist of the article’s headline divorces her husband and sends him back to his mommy in an extreme case of not taking the mother-in-law on the vacation.
NTA: A Prerequisite To Marriage ✋
The comment expresses that the author is not the a**hole (NTA) because marriage requires the ability to make joint decisions, and the spouse is incapable of behaving independently. The comment offers condolences to the woman’s situation.
Should The Wife Divorce Her Husband?
The commenter suggests that the wife divorce her husband since he is prioritizing his mother over her. The commenter believes that this could be a sign of the lack of chemistry between the wife and the husband.
Relationship Troubles
The comment author deems the husband’s behavior as unacceptable, suggesting the woman to ‘ditch the man’ and keep the dog. No replies were found.
Boundary-Crossing NTA Husband
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The comment states that the husband’s behavior is NTA as he went against his wife’s explicit wishes without discussion and acted without considering the expense. The comment implies that the husband is more invested in his mother than his wife.
Walking Away From
The original comment suggests not only recognizing the boundaries, but also walking away and sending the partner packing. Replies to this comment express gratitude for the advice given and hope that others never have to experience such a situation. Everyone* is in agreement that the original commenter is NTA.
A Husband’s Wrong Move ♀️
The commentor thinks that the husband’s action of booking his mother-in-law a ticket to the same destination as his wife, without her knowledge or permission, is unacceptable behavior. Without going into the underlying issue, the commentor calls it a ‘shit thing to do.’
NTA Your Husband!
NTA (not the a**hole) is the general sentiment in this section: the commenter believes that the woman in the article’s headline was wronged by her husband for ambushing her and explicitly going against her wishes by taking his mother on holiday. This comment received no replies.
Man’s Behavior ⚠️ NTA
The commenter said that this man’s behavior is completely out of line and borderline abusive and manipulative, and that it is something worthy of considering divorce over.
Divorce This Mama’s Boy
The commenter believes the woman is NTA (not the a**hole) – she should divorce her husband for lying and not allowing her to have an enjoyable vacation with her in-laws.
When In-Laws ✋ Don’t Respect Your Boundaries
The comment suggests that the husband allowing his mother to intrude in the couple’s personal time indicates a deeper problem. It recommends couples counseling, even if the mother attends the session too.
NTA – Your Husband Is An Enabler ♂️
The comment declares that the woman is Not The A**hole, and that her husband is an enabler. The comment also mentions that couples therapy should be taken upon, and that the way that the husband speaks to her is not okay, right, or healthy.
OP Stands Strong
The comment praises the original poster (OP) for their steely spine and criticizes their husband for not standing up to their mother-in-law. The commenter declares the OP ‘not the a**hole’ (NTA).
Surprise! Partner’s Mother Tries To Join Couple’s Vacay
Commenter believes NTA: mother had no concept of boundaries, husband lied to make it happen and guilt-tripped the wife when she refused and didn’t care about her experience. Wife ends up walking out of the airport.
Family Drama
The comment makes it clear that the husband’s behavior was unacceptable and the asker should not stick around the spouse if this is the kind of treatment they receive.
An Incredible Act Of ❌❌ By The MIL And Husband!
The commenter NTA condemns the cruel decision of the husband and mother-in-law to include the latter in the vacation that was planned for the couple. The commenter gives the poster the right to be angry and hurt, while also suggesting they ask the husband why he thought it would be OK to do this.
NTA: Marriage Ends Metaphorically!
The commenter declared that the wife was the Not The A–hole in the situation, determined that this was the hill to metaphorically kill the marriage, and ended with a suggestion to ‘kill the marriage for real.’
NTA: ✋ He Lied For Mom
The commenter declares NTA and shares her opinion that the husband’s behavior was grounds for instant divorce. She expresses her thoughts that if she had to compete with his mother, she would want no part in it and would rather find a man who can think independently.
NTA: No A-Hole Here!
The commenter declares that the husband is not in the wrong for refusing to take his mother-in-law on vacation, as it was his choice to make. No one is an a-hole in this situation.
NTA: Leave Him ♀️
The comment makes it clear that the commenter believes that the woman should not be with her husband and should leave, as he does not respect her boundaries and feelings. Further, they point out that he is acting like a child with tantrums, making it clear that this is an unhealthy relationship.
NTA: He Tried You!
The commentor believes that the man in the situation is NTA for trying to make the woman feel guilty for his own wrong-doing and disrespecting her boundary. The commentor empathized with the woman for the unfortunate situation.
❤️ She Said No To Mom-In-Law
The commenter believes the woman is Not The A-hole in this situation, and that either the husband needs to cut the umbilical cord or the couple should get a divorce attorney.
A Husband Crossing Boundaries
The comment refers to the woman being “Not the A**hole“, but further emphasizes the fact that his husband is crossing boundaries by lying to her and trying to manipulate her into taking a vacation with someone who is not welcome.
MIL’s CREEPY Behavior!
The commentor declared the mother-in-law NTA for her creepy behavior and advised the OP to run away from the situation before it got any worse.
Think Long And Hard
The comment advises the original poster to consider their future with their spouse carefully, noting that it may be time to reflect on decision making. It is not the a**hole for refusing to take their mother-in-law on vacation.
NTA: It’s Time
The commenter suggested that the woman should move money, stay in the house, and open a private account. They declared that the situation is going nowhere and NTA (not the a-hole).
Wild Day For Husband’s Mom
The comment ponders if the mother is sending her son nudes too, amidst a seemingly wild day of posts involving the mother.
She Found Her Husband’s Mom At The Airport
This comment called the husband an ‘AH’ and recommended that the woman divorce him due to his lack of respect and his attempts to blame the situation on her family. The comment states that the woman can do so much better than staying married to someone like him.
NTA And
The commenter expresses shock and disbelief at the situation and declares that the woman is Not The A-hole for refusing to take her husband’s mother on vacation.
