Daughter Is Furious When Mother Gives Old Clothes To Other Daughter

Her eldest, Molly, is 16 and athletic. The youngest, Ella, is 14 and struggles with both her weight and self-esteem. OP shares that doctors have been encouraging her to help Ella lose weight. Ella, meanwhile, lashes out frequently and says mean things to her sister, such as implying that Molly has an eating disorder.

One day, it became clear that Molly had a growth spurt and didn't fit into her clothes anymore. OP was going to buy Molly new sweaters but found some clothes Ella was planning to donate. Since she had a sweater that would fit Molly, OP decided to use that until she could buy Molly new clothes. But Ella found out and was furious at her mother and sister.

Later, Ella cut the sweater up, which prompted OP to punish her. But she's wondering if she's handling her daughter's situation all wrong.

That being said, many suggested Ella go to therapy. OP later updated her post to say that Ella is in counseling, but this has prompted commenters to believe that the therapist might not be working for her.

Ella is acting cruelly and irrationally, but OP isn't doing her any favors by resorting to punishment instead of seeking more help. Though Ella is in counseling, some users suggested group therapy for the whole family.

OP did confirm that her daughter has seen a dietician, but some worry that there might be fatphobia in the industry that could influence Ella negatively.

While plenty of users saw where OP was coming from, it's clear that Ella needs a lot more help than she might be getting. This is not to say OP is being a bad parent, but she was also receptive to advice in the comment section.