Every relationship is different , but in general, each person has their own roles . The one who vacuums and the one who dusts, or the one who cooks and the one who cleans up after dinner, for instance.
For a wife on Reddit, her job was to take care of the house and kids while her husband works. But when he didn’t do everything he asked of her, she wondered if she really was in the wrong .
The wife went to Reddit for answers.
Using a throwaway account, the wife asked, ” AITA for calling my husband insane for missing work just to teach me a lesson because I didn’t iron his uniform? ” She then explained her whole situation.
“Days ago. I (SAHM with 3) was in the midst of doing laundry when my husband (breadwinner, works as a pilot) asked if I could iron his uniform before his shift.”
“I didn’t say ‘yes’ because I was busy (laundry then kids homework then cooking etc..). I said I may not find the time to to do it. He turned around and walked away completely ignoring what I was saying.”
“An hour later, he came downstairs freaking out asking why I didn’t iron his uniform when he asked me to.”
“I told him I was busy and reminded him of how I didn’t say yes to his request. He blew up saying that I obviously don’t care about him displaying ‘professionalism’ at work (um… it’s just a uniform? It’s not like it was dirty just needed some ironing).”
“He lectured me about how his work is important and although I’m a SAHM I still should make his job a priority.”
“He decided to miss his shift as a way to ‘teach me a lesson’ and show me how my lack of cooperation and my refusal to help him out could affect the money that keeps coming in.”
“I called him insane for missing the shift, and he got offended and called me a hypocrite for calling him insane and acting all surprised when it was me who caused this situation to happen.”
“I mean I could have taken some time off doing my chores to iron his uniform, but still thought his reaction was a bit much. AITA?”
She also clarifies why he didn’t just iron the uniform himself.
“Because I’m the one who usually do the ironing and he said it’s ‘on the list’ of my house chores list which’s true, but I don’t give it priority like other chores like homework or laundry,” she said.
Thousands of people took to the comments to express their opinions.
Unsurprisingly, the user was voted “not the asshole” by the vast majority of users.
One commenter wrote, “Offer to call his boss to personally apologize and explain why he missed his shift. He didn’t go to work to teach you a lesson for not ironing his uniform.”
A lot of people found the husband’s actions to be childish.
For many, the husband was behaving like a child, rather than being willing to have a mature conversation.
A user joked, “INFO: Is your husband secretly three toddlers in a pilot uniform?”
Others saw it as completely manipulative.
One comment read, “For me, anytime an adult says they are/want to ‘teach a lesson’ to another adult is a massive red flag and just cause to distance yourself away from them, if not to leave all together.”
And it definitely seems like a problem beyond just the uniform.
Another user said, “IMO it was not over an ironed shirt nor was it petty – it was about domination. He was showing her that when he demands her to do something, she HAS to, never mind how small it seems to be. Bc it’s not about the thing, it’s about her being obedient.”
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It really does seem like the husband doesn’t respect the work his wife does at the very least.
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