When couples get married, many merge their bank accounts. A joint bank account allows them to both have access to money that can fund the mortgage, car payments, and looking after the kids.
But what if you’re not married? Should you still be sharing your bank information with a partner? That’s the dilemma facing one woman who doesn’t want to pay for gifts for her partner’s sons.
There, she began by explaining that she, 31, has been with her boyfriend, 37, for eight months. She wrote that he's a single dad with three kids.
"When it comes to money and spending, we'd take turns to invite each other out weekly (we don't live together obviously),” she wrote. On several occasions, he had her pay for his kids’ purchases.
But things took a dramatic turn when he called her one day while she was at work.
When the woman asked what this had to do with her, he told her that he was short on money and needed to borrow $300.
She refused and told him to wait until she got there. This brought out a bad side of him, as he kept insisting that he would handle it.
"He got mad at me saying he didn't get why I was acting like this. He got so loud I had to hang up.”
“I told him I don't feel comfortable letting anyone have my personal info especially when it comes to finances.” To this, he got offended and said, "I'M NOT JUST ANYONE, I'M YOUR [EXPLETIVE] PARTNER!!"
“We had a fight then he left and told me I'd better have an apology for him AND his son next time I call his phone,” she wrote.
She thinks she should’ve just shared her bank info. But since she’s not firm on that, she turned to Reddit for their option.
They were more than happy to do that, starting with recommendations that she "drop this loser."
They accused him of using her for money and then gaslighting her to feel guilty for being irrational. "Surprised he doesn’t have RED FLAG written in a sharpie on his forehead," commented another user.
In an update to the story, the woman found out that he LIED to her about the money. He really needed it to pay for one of his buddy's car repairs.
Read the full story and comments here!
H/T: Reddit
