TikTok Love Language Test Tells Users How They Communicate Feelings

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Collage from a TikTok video about love languages
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Even in the ancient days of the internet, long before social media, personality quizzes were a popular way to spend time online.

Now that the internet basically consists of a handful of social media sites, personality quizzes are still plenty popular. The most recent TikTok trend revolves around love languages, a quiz that can supposedly help people better connect with their loved ones.

We've heard a lot about love languages in recent years.

Cover of book: "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
Amazon | Gary Chapman

If you're curious about what your love language might be, you can take the quiz right here. Basically, the idea is that everyone experiences and shows love differently, and the love language quiz helps sort it all out. It comes from the 1992 book by Gary Chapman, appropriately titled The Five Love Languages.

What are the five love languages?

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Here's a quick rundown:

1. Words of affirmation — essentially compliments and saying nice things

2. Quality time — simply spending time in each other's presence

3. Receiving gifts — self-explanatory

4. Acts of service — nice gestures like making a cup of tea for someone

5. Physical touch — also self-explanatory

How does this relate to TikTok?

We all know that TikTok is a hothouse of the newest, freshest trend, and the current hot new trend on TikTok is based on a book that came out in 1992.

Yes, TikTokers are really getting into the love language thing.

Users are sharing their results.

As is pretty typical on TikTok, the videos pertaining to this don't really have any wisdom or insights to offer, as they're just an excuse for TikTokers to take a quiz and talk about themselves.

It all comes down to how you communicate your feelings, and how you receive others' feelings.

Still from TikTok video about love languages
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If both you and your partner share 'acts of service' as a love language, it means you're compatible: both of you appreciate little gestures, and both of you also communicate your love by performing little gestures.

How are the results determined?

The quiz is pretty straightforward. It asks for some basic details about your status, then assesses how you feel about certain things — touch versus gestures, alone time versus together time, and that sort of thing.

Is it possible to be 'fluent' in more than one love language?

Of course it is! Just because you really enjoy alone time with your partner doesn't mean you can't also enjoy, for instance, receiving gifts. I mean, everyone likes receiving gifts, right?

Some TikTokers feel like the quiz has them wrong.

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This is one of those situations where the quiz might help you better understand yourself, but you can also just read about the five love languages and intuitively know which one applies to you.

What's your love language?

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You don't have to make a TikTok video about it. You don't even have to take the quiz if you don't want to.

What gestures from a partner mean the most to you? How are you most likely to express your love? Be sure to let us know in the comments.