People Have Thoughts After A Mom Brought Her Crying Baby To A 'No-Kids' Wedding

Kasia Mikolajczak
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Let me ask you something: did you have any explicit rules at your wedding? For example, were people allowed to bring their kids, or was this strictly a kids-free event?

Well, this one wedding guest got in hot water over the choice she made to ignore the wedding invitation rules, and I'm curious to know what your thoughts are on the subject. But before then, let's get to the whole story. Shall we?

One woman posted on Reddit's AITA (Am I The Asshole?) subreddit, asking people if she was in the wrong.

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What happened was that her cousin was getting married about six hours away from where she lives. It was a limited space event, so no children were invited except for the bride's closest nieces and nephews.

This woman had a 10-month-old at the time.

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She didn't feel comfortable leaving the child with a babysitter even though the rest of the family provided a certified person to take care of all of their kids. So, this lady included her baby on the RSVP card.

However, she did mention that she would bring her own food for her tyke.

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So since she didn't hear back from the couple she assumed it was okay and showed up with her baby at the wedding. And everything seemed to go well from there.

The baby did cry during the ceremony, but she quickly took him out of there.

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Once the wedding was over and done, then she heard back from the family. Apparently, her cousin and his new wife were upset with her for ignoring their wedding invite request to leave the baby at home.

The couple felt it was unfair to the other family members who had to leave their kids behind.

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And thus this is how this family drama unfolded. After this woman posted on Reddit, many people chimed in with their options on the situation.

Needless to say, people totally called her out.

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There were many comments like these, and I have to say I agree with them. The proper way to go about this is to call the couple and ask instead of just replying to the RSVP by including your child.

That puts the couple in an awkward situation.

Diana Agron saying "well this is awkward."

And they don't want to be the bad guy. I think that's how the bride must've felt since it wasn't one of her family members. So instead of denying her request, they didn't say anything.

Here's another idea:

Reddit comments about woman bringing a child to a child-free wedding
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If you don't feel comfortable leaving your young child with a stranger, albeit a certified babysitter, then you have the choice of not attending the wedding — period. Just let the couple know that you can't come because you need to be with your child. Problem solved.

Don't just assume that the rules don't apply to you.

Aubrey Plaza on Conan O'Brien saying "You're not special, miss."
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I can imagine how the other couples who left their young kids with a babysitter might have felt when they saw her with her baby present. It seems they got the wrong impression that somehow she was more special than anybody else, and that couldn't be further from the truth. So what do you think about this? Was this woman's behavior okay or not?