A woman found herself in a tough situation recently, and took to the internet to wonder if she was in the wrong, or if her reaction made sense.
Posted to the Subreddit r/AmItheAsshole a user shared the story about how tensions between herself and both her husband and mother-in-law caused her to walk out of an airport right before a trip.
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“I (F30) don’t have the best relationship with my husband’s mom.”
“Since day one she tried to make remarks and compare me to her. She then tried to get on my good side and started overly praising everything I do and sometimes even copying me…”
“…My husband and I took two weeks off work to go visit some places out of the country.”
“Thing is I was the one who saved up for and arranged for the trip (my husband was responsible for booking the tickets). My husband’s mom wanted to come along and threw temper tantrums when I said no.”
“She called, texted, sent people to talk to me into letting her come, even threatened to call the police and make some complaint up to get us to stay if she [couldn’t] come.”
“My husband said we should just take her but I told him he was wrong to tell her about the trip in the first place.”
“He gave me an ultimatum.”
“[He] said he wouldn’t go if she can’t come and I told him I’d gladly call his bluff which made him take his words back and say, ‘FINE! I will tell her to stop it because we won’t take her.'”
“Things got quieter, suspiciously quieter. The day of the trip came and we got to the airport at 2 p.m.”
“My husband was walking ahead of me and was looking left and right like he was looking for someone. I asked him but he didn’t respond.”
“He lead me to the waiting area and first thing I saw was his mom standing there with her luggage.”
“I froze in my spot, I felt a cold wave washing over me and I was fuming inside. She and my husband were hugging that’s when I quietly turned around and started walking towards the exit.”
“…I went home and sobbed into my dog’s fur for several minutes.”
“Turned out he booked her a ticket without me knowing. An hour later he came home yelling and raging about how pathetic and spiteful I was to walk out and go home and ruin the trip last minute.”
After he calls her family to tell them what happened and they said she was overreacting, OP asked the Reddit forum if that was the case.
Everyone overwhelmingly said she was NTA, even going as far to say that she should consider divorce.
Which isn’t something anyone says lightly.
One commenter wrote, “You told your boundaries, you said no. She crossed it. Your husband told you he would tell her no, he lied. He tried to pin you in a corner by not saying anything and bringing her anyways and got upset you refused to be a part of his little trap?? And then to berate you?? He’s not a good man. He needs to go.”
A few days after the original post, OP posted an update.
In the post , she talks about how her husband has always been favored by her mother-in-law, and how they’ve tried to talk about the situation, but because they keep arguing, she went to stay with her sister.
“It’s become clear now that we keep going in circles with no end in reach and I’m just so exhausted and overwhelmed.”
“I’m not mad at him and don’t expect him to change but…at least I’m given options to decide what’s best for me and my future even if it’s separation and divorce.”
She ends the post by thanking the community for their support.
