Woman Starts 'Pregnancy Jar' For Family Who Keep Asking When She'll Have Kids

Mason Joseph Zimmer
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When the way you live your life doesn't fit how somebody else thinks you should, the odds are very good that you're well aware of that because they won't stop telling you about it.

And that has long been a real problem for couples who either can't or choose not to have children. Because it rarely takes long after they get married before their families start asking when that will happen.

As they quickly notice, those questions often keep coming even after the couple has answered them multiple times. And if those people are aware that their child-free existence is by choice, it's usually followed by pitches trying to convince them that they actually do want children.

But as one woman's story shows us, there's no guarantee that the people badgering them will stop even if they do indicate that they want to have kids. And that's led her to come up with an unorthodox solution.

For the past six years, the woman we're about to hear from has been married to her husband and has been trying for children throughout much of that time.

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Nonetheless, as she explained in a Reddit post, their efforts haven't been working out for reasons beyond their control. Despite this fact, their friends and family are still pressuring them to have children and repeatedly asking them when they're going to.

This constant line of questioning has persisted despite her telling these people to stop asking about their status multiple times.

So with that frustration in mind, the woman had the idea to start a "pregnancy jar" akin to the classic swear jar that she keeps with her.

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Ever since she's started doing this, she pulls out the jar and asks them to put a dollar in every time they ask when she'll have a baby.

As she put it, "I'd get puzzled looks but they reach out for their pockets/wallets/purses and pull out a dollar and out it inside the jar."

And for the most part, this unusual strategy has worked well since most people stopped asking after about four months.

However, it seems that the woman's brother was not among them as he asked that same question during dinner at her parents' house last week.

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This led the woman to take out the jar and explain its purpose, to which he asked if she was serious and said he didn't have to pay anything. She then said that he didn't have to ask either, at which point he became embarrassed and put a dollar in.

This led the woman's mother to say she was being childish. In the woman's words, "She went on about how they're just worried for us since we are in mid 30s and don't have much time left if we want at least one healthy baby."

While this only annoyed the woman further, the ensuing argument and her sister's agreeing with the mother has her wondering if she made the right choice.

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And while there were some commenters who didn't like the pregnancy jar idea, most of them weren't aware that the matter had been discussed time and time again before.

But even taking that context aside, most users thought it was an ingenious idea and some wanted to start trying it themselves.

As one user put it, "How creative! 'I don’t have to pay you.' 'Yeah well you didn’t have to ask something that’s none of your business but here we are.'"

In the words of another, "If they want a kid, they are probably struggling with fertility, working through that process, and it's difficult enough without people asking. If they don't, that's fine too."

h/t: Reddit | thasyojar2013