Women Share Their Opinions On Being The Breadwinner

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Many women in society are their house's breadwinners. That means that they're the ones who make the bulk of the money that their family or household needs to pay bills and support everyone living there. In society, it's "the norm" for the husbands/men to be the breadwinners, however, today more often than not, women are stepping up in that role.

As long as it's fair at home.

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Sage--Fox said that they think that women being the breadwinners is great as long as your partner is equal at home, too. They can't rely on the woman to do all the work outside of the house and also inside the house, too.

Men aren't "prepared" for that.

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"I don’t think men are actually societally prepped for that the way women are. Every single guy who has ever said that to me has gradually realized that they don’t actually like the reality of it when I offer them that exact option," said Confetticandi.

It's normal.

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shinkouhyou said that it's actually normal for many people to have the women be the breadwinners in the house. Many women today hold down a full-time job and also take care of everything in the home.

Some women don't like it.

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buttonsarethebomb revealed that she doesn't like being in that position because she was once with a boyfriend who did not want to have a job because he felt it was "beneath him." She ended up having to pay for everything and she didn't love the feeling.

Some guys actually respect it.

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"She makes A LOT more than I do. It’s awesome. I know she’s not in the relationship because of what I can financially provide for her. She’s truly in it for me and who I am," said Reddit user I-farm-celery.

Some women don't want to be the ones responsible for it all.

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cr0wj4n3 said while they think it's normal for women to be the ones providing for their families, they don't want to be in the position to be the sole breadwinner. It's a lot of pressure and stress.

Gender shouldn't define who pays what.

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"Which person makes more money in a relationship is entirely irrelevant to me and none of my business about other people. People's genders don't decide whether or not they can be a so-called breadwinner in their relationship," said nevertruly.

Don't expect to slack off.

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Lady_von_Stinkbeaver said that they had a very well-paying job out of college and was lucky enough to have a high-paying salary. They don't mind being the breadwinner but refuse to be anyone's "Sugar Mommy."

Sometimes, it sets the tone for children.

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Jima89 said they grew up in a household where their mom was the breadwinner and it has set her up for the mentality to never have to rely on a man for anything, especially financially. It has made it so that she doesn't get screwed over in the end.

It's a partnership.

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"I’m the breadwinner, but my husband and I are equal partners. I told him from the beginning that I don’t want “help” around the house or with the kids; I want a PARTNER who cleans the house because he lives there too, and he takes care of the kids because they’re his kids too," said miss_darling.

It doesn't always work.

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stone_opera said that she was the breadwinner in the relationship but when she would come home and have to still do all the cooking and the cleaning. She didn't love working 50-hour weeks and then also work when she came home.

If your husband wants to "stay at home," ok.

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Capable_Sandwich8278 said breadwinner-women couples only work if the husband is a stay-at-home father and takes care of all of the household things, especially raising kids and doing the day-to-day responsibilities of kids.

Some don't know why it's a concern.

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"Considering the amount of same sex couples in the world…I don’t understand how that question is even a thing. But, okay. I’ll bite. Contribute to your household. In a way that you and your partner agree with. Reproductive organs be damned," said G_Ram3.

It's not for everyone.

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_kinfused said that even though she sees no problem with it, she doesn't "think it's for her" because she wants to have kids one day and feels it's important to her to have time with her kids at home.

One person said it's good just in case you have to be in the end.

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"Thank goodness I was the breadwinner when my husband was alive. Can you imagine not being the breadwinner and then your husband dies? And then your left struggling financially to raise children all alone as a widow? Being widowed sucks enough as it is, it would be tenfold worse if you also had money struggles on top of it because you were not the breadwinner," said RandomWidow.