When you get married , it’s supposed to be for life, no? At least that’s what I believe in, ha, ha. I think that when you find the right person, they can be your forever partner. But what if you don’t marry the right person? Then what? How soon do you realize that?
A recent Reddit thread asked, “People who separated/divorced within one year of getting married: When did you know it was a mistake?” and I’m really interested in reading those answers. So let’s check some of them out.
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This Wild Request
“The marriage lasted all of two weeks. Apparently, my dad’s new bride had the gall to ask my dad to leave everything to her in the will, and write me and my brother out.”
Oh, that’s quite convenient, no? It sounds to me like somebody didn’t marry for love, huh?
This Family Affair
“She decided she was in love with her stepbrother a month after we got married.”
OMG, what? I admit I didn’t see that coming, and I guess neither did the husband. That’s a lot to take in. Am I right?
This Proclamation
“The day after the wedding, when he poked me in the chest and said, ‘You’re going to do what I say whether you like it or not.’ Ugh. Big mistake.”
Wow, I guess he wasn’t exactly joking. That’s not a good start.
This Stepping Ladder
“A cousin of mine married someone who seemed like the perfect woman. They worked in the same store together, and he would brag about how his wife was getting promoted quickly in the company. A few months into the marriage, she tells him she’s going out with friends for the evening. An hour or so later, my cousin gets a call from one of his friends.
The friend saw her having dinner in a restaurant… with the manager of the store where they both worked. Once he confronted her about it, that was basically the end of the marriage.”
Yikes!
This Realization
“When I began working with the elderly and saw what real love and lasting marriages looked like. I knew my ex wasn’t capable of that.”
Awe, that’s quite sad, no? But it’s best to find out now than to wait years down the line.
This Cringey Behavior
“Super late to the party here, but I knew it was over when she started a fight at my brother’s funeral because female attendees were giving me hugs as part of condolences.”
Can you believe that? Jealousy usually stems from the person’s own insecurity.
This Jealous Outrage
“She nearly killed me because she thought I was cheating from some texts that went to my mother.”
Speaking of jealously, it can be cute in the beginning, but if it turns sinister, that’s when you need to walk away.
This Sad Situation
“I knew it was a mistake deep down but wanted to be the best husband, so I decided to just let the yelling and insults slide because ‘love’ — until I saw her mom treating her dad the same way.”
The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, right?
This Happy Ending
“When I found out she was sending snapchats to a co-worker. Turns out she was sleeping with him. We got divorced, I met the girl of my dreams, we just had our first kid together two weeks ago.”
All is well when it ends well.
This Violent Turn Around
“The day after we got married, when he slapped me across the face (hard and completely out of the blue). No argument, no conversation leading up to it, nothing. He said it wasn’t that hard a hit, he was just kidding around, and I was being overdramatic. He had never gotten violent with me while dating, but as soon as we got married, it was like a switch flipped.”
Oh, no. Domestic violence is never okay so I’m glad she got out.
This Cheater
“A girl I know found out, one month into the marriage, that her husband cheated the day of the wedding — after the ceremony.”
Okay, why get married at all if you’re going to do stuff like that? I just don’t get it.
This Sad Story
“I had been fooling around with this girl for a while. I never wanted anything serious, and I KNEW that from the start. Then my mom was killed… I went into a deep depression and this girl was there for me. Her mom had died of cancer about a year earlier and I guess we really bonded over that. It pushed us much further emotionally than we ever should’ve gone. We ended up doing a courthouse marriage. I knew within the month that I had [expletive] up. BUT I didn’t want to just give up and get divorced.
Once the emotions of my mom’s death passed, I realized how toxic she really was. She was an incredibly unstable person and ended up just taking me into an even deeper depression. We divorced about a year ago (after being married for about 10 months), and I was immediately much happier.”
This is pretty profound, no?
This Secret Affair
“She went out for girls’ night and met a new friend named Nicole at a bar. Started texting her a lot, then going to hang out now and then. We had a baby at home and she kept trying to go hang out with this girl from another town over with no last name whom I was not allowed to meet. His real name was Wesley.”
Oh no!
This Coming Out Story
“Not me, but my friend’s sister. her sister got engaged eight months into a relationship. and got married four months later. Everything went well the first five months, but the husband started acting differently. He wasn’t chatty, his good morning/goodnight kisses became dull, etc. Her sister would ask if everything was okay and he would say ‘I’m fine’ every time. her sister didn’t want to push him, so she waited for him to talk about what was bothering him.”
One evening after eating dinner, the husband said he wanted to talk about their relationship. before he could talk about it, he started crying. he cried for a few minutes and then told her he was gay. The sister filed for divorce and after the divorce was settled, she wasn’t really mad at him anymore, so she went to see him and forgave him.”
Wow!
This Uncomfortable Situation
“A couple of weeks into our marriage, the sex started to physically hurt. I went to my OB-GYN, and after a test or two, she informed me I had contracted chlamydia. That’s when I knew.”
Oh, boy! That’s not a good way to find out.
This Birthday Surprise
“When she cheated on me a week in and told me on my birthday that she never loved me. She cheated with my best friend, btw. Did I mention she told me all of this on my birthday 10 days after we got married?”
Come on, that’s just cruel.
This Abrupt End
“Literally at the altar. Lemme tell ya, that’s a great feeling.”
Holy, moly, is that right? I know there’s a story here, and I’m dying to find out what happened. I guess that’s between the couple and none of our business, ha, ha.
This Wild Story
“I was blindsided by it. We lived together for a year about an hour from my hometown. We relocated, upon her request and desire, to my hometown prior to our marriage so that when we had kids, it was best to be close to family. We had a house we loved, a dog we loved, jobs we both loved working in…or so I thought. Married in October. She goes to visit her sister over the next Labor Day weekend and I can’t attend due to work. Comes back the Tuesday after Labor Day and tells me she’s living a lie and someone else’s dream and she needs a divorce. I had no idea. Divorce finalized in January. She married some dude that her sister was friends with, and she met on that trip I was unable to attend, this September. Life is wild, sometimes.”
Oh my goodness. You never know, huh?
Wow, what do you think of that?
Those were some wild end of marriage stories. If you’re lucky enough to find the right person you can spend the rest of your life with, it’s truly a blessing. I really do sincerely hope it all works out for the best for these people here. Sometimes you just need to put a mistake in the past and try to move on. Am I right?
