So recently, I wrote an article about secrets people keep from their partners that turned out to be surprisingly wholesome. And I don't know about you, but I thought it was one of the sweetest things.
Now I'm switching gears and diving into things people seemingly hate about their partners. This time, the answers may be surprising in a different way, and I'm really curious what you think about it. Check these out and let me know.
"He’s really really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because of feedback loop etc."
I can sympathize with this guy because I also take criticism pretty badly. I guess it stems from my childhood, as my dad was always very hard on me. So getting to the root of the problem might be a good idea here.
"Neither of our families are perfect, but his is just awful. Always drama. Always making things so personal and so difficult. His family is the only reason I do not want to have a wedding ceremony."
Oh, man, that can be hard, no?
"How low her patience is & how fast she can get irritated, and I know how she is & I know she doesn’t mean it 99% of the time, but sometimes it has me overthinking and I feel like she just hates me."
Aww, she doesn't hate you but I understand how that must feel.
"That when a responsibility becomes too hard, he just doesn't do it and allows things to fester and become worse. Our storage that was lost, a tooth abscess that caused him intense pain I'm forcing him to deal with, and him not paying the registration on our car and it almost getting repossessed. I have no clue why he does this and I feel like I have to be his mother sometimes just to get him to be a responsible adult."
Oh, yeah, I hear this loud and clear.
"I hate how she’s a bad listener. Never wants to know about my day, never takes my advice, never wants to know what’s wrong with me."
Aww, that's so sad. I think it's always a good idea to talk with your spouse. Perhaps they have something going on in their life that you don't know about, or they're just absent-minded like that.
"That any time I upset him, an apology isn't enough. I have to do some sort of action, but he won't tell me what and gets mad that I can't read his mind to figure it out."
Hmm, it can be hard to fix something if your partner won't communicate what they need from you. It sounds like this woman is just playing a guessing game that isn't working.
"He’s a bad kisser. I tried hard to communicate and help in the beginning of the relationship, but nothing worked or stuck. It’s been a lot of years. I gave up."
Wow, can you imagine that? The only advice I have is to have fun with kissing and bringing back that old spark. I really do hope it works out.
"His sneezing. He is allergic and can't help it. But he scream-sneezes every day, usually several times in a row, and I HATE loud sudden noises.
Oh my goodness, ha, ha. My dad sometimes does that, and it's pretty annoying, so I know how this lady feels.
"His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control, but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep."
Well, that sucks, but there might be a reason for it. He should get himself checked out for sleep apnea. Bad snoring can be a sign of that.
"He disappears every night, rather than spending time with me and the kids. Doesn’t help with cleaning up after dinner, even though I always cook. Complains about being tired when I am the only one getting up with our baby for the night feed."
I feel this lady. Sometimes my partner complains that he's tired a lot, too, and it can get to me. But what this lady is experiencing is way harder.
"Her constant talking. I love this woman, but she talks all day/night. I don’t have the heart to tell her how much it bothers me. She is a bartender and talks all day at work, too. It never stops."
Honestly, that would drive me bonkers. Here's an idea, how about you institute a "quiet time" in your house? Would that work?
"She repeats the same story five times while telling the original story."
Ha, ha, my partner does that too. I even try to tell him that he told me the story already, and he still keeps going anyway. I don't know why? Perhaps his short-term memory is going. Oh, my! I hope not.
"She's late for everything. E. V. E. R. Y. T. H. I. N. G. I actually remember vividly the one time ever in our two decades of being together where we were actually early for something. She agreed to meet someone at 1? She shows at 1:20. It's infuriating!"
Oh my goodness! The funny thing is that myself and my partner are always late and I've been trying to change that as of late.
"She's a slob. Piles dishes on, clothes go on the floor, cups left everywhere. You wouldn't think it if you were company."
Wow, I don't know about you, but that would drive me slightly mad, ha, ha. But then again, I consider myself a bit of a clean freak, so there's that.
"We don't fight a lot. We've been together for 3.5 years, and maybe fought five times ever? But when we do, he goes SILENT. Goes to bed. Won't talk. Freaks out if I even dare get near him. He'll talk the next day. Maybe. But even then it can't be a conversation. He says his piece and that's all he allows. It's such an unhealthy way of resolving issues."
I hope this couple can work on that.
"That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people."
A relationship is a two-way street. Both people can sometimes do things that hurt the other person. And if one of them can't ever apologize and take responsibility for their actions, it's a big problem.
"I feel loved but not wanted."
Wow, this must be a heavy burden. As somebody on Reddit put it "Express that without accusation. This is something that needs to be communicated (without blaming). It’s absolutely something that can potentially improve in a relationship." I hope it works out for this couple.
"My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice. She does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop."
Yikes! I love to sing so I can definitely understand how much this lady loves it but this poor guy.
Did any of these answers surprise you? It's amazing what comes out when people are being truthful, huh? I think no matter what, it helps to get it all out. I absolutely loved reading this Reddit thread, and some of the advice given was really great. I hope these couples can work on their relationships to make them better and stronger.
