In an era where living together is often the next big step in a relationship, one woman has drawn a line in the sand, sparking a heated debate. The 27-year-old, who we’ll call ‘Jane’, has been dating her boyfriend, ‘Cade’, for eight years. When the opportunity arose for Cade to move in with Jane and her sister, Jane made a bold decision: No job, no room.
The Big Move ️
The Struggle to Independence
The New Apartment
Enter, the Boyfriend
The Silver Spoon
The Proposal
The Rejection
The Backlash
The Sister’s Support
The Guilt
No Job, No Room: A Girlfriend’s Bold Stand ♀️
In a world where ‘playing house’ is often the norm, Jane’s decision to refuse her boyfriend Cade’s move-in proposal until he finds a job has stirred up a whirlwind of emotions. ️ From Cade feeling infantilized to his parents accusing Jane of acting high-and-mighty, the drama is real. Even her sister, Maggie, has chimed in, supporting Jane’s decision. While Jane battles guilt and the fear of potential financial responsibility, she stands firm in her decision. But what do you think? Is Jane being too harsh, or is she just setting healthy boundaries? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation..
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NTA. Have a trial period before moving in together.
NTA. Your BF’s parents are infantilizing him. Set boundaries.
NTA – Boyfriend’s entitlement and parents’ accusations make this a mess ♀️
NTA- Boyfriend’s red flags: relying on parents, no job at 27.
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NTA. Boyfriend complains to parents instead of taking responsibility. Break up?
NTA, reasonable to want financial security before moving in.
NTA: High standards or harsh reality? Reconsider relationship with rich, lazy partner.
NTA and red flags: pressure, ulterior motives, dependent boyfriend.
“I set boundaries for adult behavior before living together.”
Time to decide if Cade is more than just a flatmate
NTA – You’re allowed to have high standards for your living situation.
NTA. High standards for a responsible partner. Trust issues.
NTA – High standards for financial independence and roommate agreement.
Privileged boyfriend’s lack of work ethic sparks debate among commenters
NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize your comfort and well-being.
After 8 years, it’s time to find someone you’re compatible with
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NTA. Cade wants freedom without responsibility.
Setting standards for financial responsibility in relationships
NTA: Boyfriend needs to step up and get a job
10 years together and still unsure? Time for serious reflection.
Validating boundaries and fair expectations for shared responsibilities. NAH
NTA. Expecting financial independence is reasonable. Consider ending relationship.
“NTA, it’s your apartment. Set a goal for him to meet.”
Respect your sister’s boundaries and let her enjoy her space! ✨
NTA: Setting standards for financial independence before cohabitation.
NTA: Boyfriend without job, no motivation, entitled. Enjoy sister’s company!
Trust your gut and prioritize your own values and needs.
ESH, set clear arrangements and boundaries. BF’s parents are AHs.
Setting boundaries and encouraging responsibility in a relationship.
NTA. He needs to learn financial independence for the future.
NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize your own needs.
Valid concerns about relationship and financial independence.
NTA for not wanting boyfriend to move in, but reconsider relationship.
Mixed opinions on whether OP should let boyfriend move in
NTA, valid concerns. Compromise: give him a time frame
Independence before cohabitation: A lesson in personal growth
NTA- High standards or harsh reality? Red flags flying high!
“High standards or harsh reality? Situations like this never make sense to me. “
8 years together, no trust, sister doesn’t want him. Reality check.
NTA. Boyfriend’s parents infantilize him, you set adult expectations.
NTA: Red flags, rude parents, sister’s discomfort. Time to move on.
8 years together and they still doubt your loyalty?
NTA. Boyfriend’s parents enable him financially, but you set boundaries.
NTA – Tough love and legal consequences, a winning combination!
NTA. Boyfriend’s parents are bent out of shape. Drama ensues.
NTA: Enjoy living with your sister, no need for a third roommate!
Independence first! NTA
NTA- Setting boundaries and avoiding a potential dependent relationship.
NTA. Sister doesn’t want him there, you need office space.
NTA. Boyfriend needs to learn how to adult. ♀️
NTA. Ex had entitled upbringing, caused strain on relationship.
Stick to your guns and keep saying no.
NTA. Boyfriend’s parents are meddling and insinuating infidelity. Sister agrees.
“NTA. Let him learn to stand on his own feet first! “
“NTA. You have valid reasons. His parents are infantilizing him.”
NTA wants trial period before marriage. Can he adult?
Parents upset that you won’t support boyfriend. Not the a**hole
NTA- Sis knows what’s up! Cade needs to grow up!
NTA – Setting boundaries and facing reality, grow up or go!
Sister’s opinion matters, but is it worth the potential complications?
Why are you still dating this guy? ♀️
NTA; Red flags everywhere. Trust your instincts and move on.
Confusion and curiosity about the dynamics of their living situation.
NTA for setting standards, but be considerate of his situation.
8 years of uncertainty? Time to move on, girl!
NTA for not letting him move in without a job
8 years together and still unsure? Relationship crossroads.
NTA. Changing rules after agreement. Working from home challenges.
Setting standards for a relationship and the consequences that follow.
After 8 years, she’s unsure about a future. NTA, break up.
NTA: 8 years together, nearly 30, no trust? Dealbreaker?
Are they really playing house after 8 years together?
NTA. Time to re-evaluate your relationship and priorities.
NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize financial stability before moving in.
NTA: Time to split if he’s not a keeper
Setting boundaries with your sister’s expectations.
NTA: Time to move on after 9 years together.
