Wife’s Ultimatum: Lose Weight or Lose Me

Hey there, Facebook fam! Have you ever felt like you’re putting in all the effort in a relationship, while your partner just doesn’t seem to care? Well, that’s exactly what happened to our protagonist here. She and her husband, Rob, both struggled with weight issues, but after a wake-up call, she decided to turn her life around. Unfortunately, Rob didn’t get the memo and continued to gain weight, lie about going to the gym, and sneak unhealthy snacks. After a heated confrontation, she told him she deserves better and can do better than him. The question is, did she go too far? Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story!

Throwaway and Backstory

Weight Struggles

Rob’s Weight

Health Problems

Wake Up Call ⏰

Time for Change

Pact for a Better Life

Rob’s Weight Gain

Gym Lies ️‍♂️

Fast Food and Snack Secrets

Hidden Snacks

Doctor’s Warning ⚠️

Therapy and Confrontation ️

Couples Therapy Rejection

The Big Confrontation

Accusations and Ego

Credit Card Proof

Attractive Man Accusation

I Deserve Better

No More Pity Party

Ultimatum

Rob Leaves

Mother-in-Law’s Call ☎️

Standing My Ground

Siblings’ Reaction

Did I Go Too Far?

Desperate Wife’s Ultimatum

In a heart-wrenching story, our protagonist desperately tries to help her husband, Rob, lose weight and live a healthier life. After losing her father to weight-related health issues, she made a pact with Rob to change their lives. However, Rob continued to gain weight, lie about going to the gym, and indulge in unhealthy habits. After a heated confrontation, she told him she deserves better and can do better than him. Rob’s mother called to shame her, but she stood her ground, insisting that Rob needs to change. Her siblings, however, think she went too far. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Setting firm boundaries with empathy and support. NTA.

Partner’s weight affects future health, not about looks or ego

NTA for working on your weight. Concerning comment about life insurance.

Leave him, he won’t change. His worst habits are yours.

NTA for giving ultimatum to husband refusing to make changes

Couple loses over 500lbs together after ultimatum

Support for a friend struggling with food addiction, NTA.

Giving an ultimatum to prioritize health isn’t being an a**hole

Partner’s lack of respect, not weight, the real issue. NTA

NTA stands up for herself against husband’s lack of self-care

It’s your decision: wait for him to change or leave

Partner lies about weight loss, commenter supports OP’s efforts

Empathetic comment suggests separation as a potential wake-up call

Support and empathy for someone struggling to get healthy.

Confronting an addict is difficult, his manipulative behavior is evident.

Passive-aggressive remark leads to no solution ‍♀️

Partner’s lies and unwillingness to change justify leaving. NTA

Sometimes tough love is necessary for someone’s health

Encouraging comment on self-care and relationship boundaries. ❤

Weight ultimatum deemed serious, communication irrelevant. NTA.

Obesity is a serious illness and needs intervention. NTA

Setting boundaries for unhealthy behavior. NTA

ESH gets called out for fat-shaming and unrealistic expectations.

Choose yourself first , it’s not worth sacrificing your goals for love.

Apologize, lay out terms for marriage, NTA overall.

Supportive comment on weight ultimatum and fitness journey

Supportive reply to YTA comment about ultimatum and weight loss

User explains food addiction and criticizes approach with YTA judgement.

Encouraging comment about taking responsibility for one’s health.

Encouraging comment on health journey, but with a firm warning ⚠️

Shaming someone for their weight is ineffective and mean-spirited

Supportive comment encourages prioritizing own health amidst addict husband’s denial

Insults won’t help, husband needs professional help for food addiction ‍

NTA. Husband in denial about weight. Separation may be necessary.

Stay true to yourself, seek legal help if necessary.

Encouraging comment about seeking therapy for husband’s weight issue ❤️

NTA. Empowering response to toxic ultimatum.

Poor communication may have permanently damaged the relationship

Weight shaming and insults aren’t a healthy motivator. YTA.

Encouragement for OP’s husband to take action to save marriage ❤️

Partner’s weight ultimatum: tough love or toxic behavior? NTA

Weight ultimatum leads to ESH situation with lying and manipulation

Partner wants weight loss, but approach was cruel and abusive

Brutal honesty saves lives. Hopefully, he learned from it.

NTA for wanting him to lose weight, but YTA for name-calling. It’s a sensitive issue and may come with other underlying problems like depression, EDs, etc. Be supportive instead

Encouraging comment on weight loss journey and tough love advice.

Overcoming obesity: A personal journey to save oneself.

Partner’s support is crucial for weight loss. NTA but YTA too.

Encouraging NTA, but partner’s health is a priority

Heartbreaking story of losing a friend to addiction-related illness.

Lovingly encouraging weight loss is okay, ultimatums are not.

Encouraging comment about prioritizing self-care over toxic relationship

Compassionate comment on spousal food addiction intervention

Empathy is key: imagine reverse roles before being cruel.

Weight shaming is not the answer . Treat people with respect.

Encouraging tough love from a spouse can backfire tragically.

Food addiction is real. Harsh comments but not wrong

OP’s tough love for her husband’s obesity and denial

NTA for feeling hurt and wanting better. Condolences for loss

Encouragement for setting boundaries and seeking therapy

Working on a healthier lifestyle is scary for him. NTA.

A heartbreaking story about the dangers of obesity.

Tough love and standing your ground for a healthier relationship ✊

Both TA, but for different reasons. Need to address lying.

Choose life over Rob , there needs to be support in relationships.

Sometimes change is only possible if someone wants it themselves

Harsh comments about weight loss ultimatum, empathy suggested.

YTA for expecting him to change on your time table

Comparing Rob to Tammy from TLC’s show

NTA for giving an ultimatum. Outcome depends on his actions.

Straightforward advice with a touch of humor. YNTA.

Partner’s lack of effort towards self-improvement leads to breakup. NTA

Supportive comment, encouraging self-care and setting boundaries.

Encouraging comment from stranger on health journey

Society’s double standard on addiction pointed out

Supportive comment urges OP to consider separation for husband’s addiction.

User calls out hypocrisy of overweight husband’s ultimatum. YTA.

Toxicity in a relationship can lead to negative health outcomes.

Compassion and understanding could have been a better approach

Empathetic commenter shares experience and advises against insulting language

Encouraging NTA comment with empowering message and sympathy.

A helpful suggestion for managing type 2 diabetes