Sister Demands Help, But She’s Not the Mom!

Imagine being forced into the role of a parent for your younger sibling, and then being expected to continue that role into adulthood. That’s exactly what happened to this 21-year-old woman, who’s had enough of being responsible for her 18-year-old sister. When her sister reached out for help, she finally put her foot down and said it’s not her job to look after her. Was she too harsh, or is it time for her sister to learn independence? Let’s dive into the story.

The Unwanted Role ‍

A Childhood of Responsibility

Never-ending Duties

Teenage Years Weren’t Better

Escaping the Responsibility ‍♀️

Her Sister’s Demands

Cutting Ties ✂️

A Plea for Help

Drawing the Line

Not Her Job! ❌

Angry Sister

A Friend’s Opinion ️

Time to Learn Independence? ‍♀️

After years of being forced into the role of a parent for her younger sister, this woman has had enough. Her sister, now 18, reached out for help with rent, school, and even grocery shopping, but she put her foot down and said it’s not her job to look after her. While her sister is angry, one of her friends thinks she should at least help her sister learn to be independent. What do you think? Should she step in and teach her sister, or is it time for her sister to figure things out on her own? Let’s see what the internet has to say…

NTA for refusing to help sister due to parentification abuse.

Choosing to help your sister may enable her dependence on you.

Toxic parents, stolen childhood, and a entitled sister. NTA

NTA, but parents are a**holes for making you a parent.

Sibling bond over broken childhoods, but no obligation to help.

Offer guidance, not daily help. Set boundaries and explain realities.

Sister demands help, but NTA. Remind her who her parents are.

Sister moved out, now demands help. NTA says community.

NTA, give advice but don’t babysit. Sister needs to adult

Sibling acted as third parent, sister left home. Sink/swim time.

NTA for refusing to take in irresponsible sister.

Advice for a sister who was set up to fail

Sibling’s learned helplessness is not your fault. Set boundaries.

NTA, but a little help could prevent a shittier situation

Sibling struggles: Navigating boundaries with troubled sister.

Empowering someone to be independent is a satisfying feeling. NTA

Establishing boundaries with entitled sister who is not your responsibility. NTA

Setting boundaries with dependent sister can build a healthy relationship. NTA

Offering advice and resources to sister mourning loss of parent. ❤️

Sibling seeks help, parents at fault – NAH verdict

Sibling not responsible for sister’s care. NTA.

Sibling seeks help after rough childhood, valid feelings on both sides.

Sibling dependency? NTA. She needs to learn basic skills.

NTA. Being forced into parentification is child abuse. Sister needs independence.

Standing up against parentification and setting healthy boundaries.

Sibling support: NTA offers helpful advice for struggling sister.

You’re NTA for not wanting to be responsible for her.

Redditor encourages OP to prioritize their own happiness

Perspective is key in judging NTA verdict. Boundaries are important.

Set boundaries with sister and encourage self-reliance.

Navigating family drama: sister needs help, parents absent. NAH.

NTA commenter encourages sister to be independent and swim

Sibling struggles: NTA offers sympathy and advice to struggling sister.

Sister demands help, but commenter says NTA and explains why.

It’s your choice to help your sister or not

Friend suggests helping sister become independent. NTA wins.

Helpful advice on how to teach life skills to sister

Sister needs to learn to be independent and use Google

Sibling rivalry and bad parenting: a recipe for disaster

User shares experience of being ‘parentified’ by abusive parents.

Sister demands help, but commenter says NTA and advises setting boundaries.

Empowering, NTA encourages sister to learn, not enable dependence.

Supportive comment advises sister to learn self-care and independence.

Encouraging self-sufficiency with YouTube videos. NTA wins!

Sister needs to learn to manage life, don’t get sucked in!

Sibling entitlement and parent’s role in family dynamics. NTA.

Empathetic comment suggests teaching instead of doing everything for sister.

Sibling forced into parenting, relationship with sister ruined.

Offering helpful tips and emphasizing the importance of therapy and boundaries.

Giving advice is good, but not moving in together.

User sympathizes with OP and suggests setting boundaries with sister.

Sibling forced to be a parent, stands up for herself. NTA

Sibling forced to parent younger sister, not responsible for her.

Setting boundaries with dependent sibling for healthier relationship.

Sibling struggles with being a surrogate parent to younger sister.

Sibling asks for help, but doesn’t realize parents’ fault. NTA.

Book suggestion for sister dealing with parentification. NTA.

NTA commenter sympathizes with sister, blames parents for situation.

Helping family is a choice, but consider the consequences

Sibling support is important. Help your sister get back on track ❤️

Breaking free from overbearing parents, NTA needs space

Breaking the cycle of unhealthy patterns and enabling behavior.

NTA. You’re doing great! ‘It’s… Not… My… Problem’

Sibling support without enabling. NTA.

Putting yourself first is important. NTA for not helping.

Sibling becomes parent, but ungrateful brother ruins relationship. NTA.

Encouraging comment on teaching independence, with sympathy for parents.

Parents win TA prize, but NTA sister should speak up ️

Breaking free from a toxic household and teaching sister independence.

Sibling demands help, but commenters say parents failed her

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but necessary.

A heartwarming comment about sisterhood and personal growth ❤️

Sibling abuse and neglect, seek therapy and support.

Hold your boundary! Your sister is not the boss. NTA

NTA comment advocates against parentification of a child.

Encouraging independence: NTA comment gets praised

NTA commenter shares experience and advice for sister’s independence.

Cutting out toxic family members is tough but necessary. ‍♀️

Learning to take care of oneself is important. NTA

Setting boundaries with family is tough but necessary.

Establishing boundaries with adult children is important.

Being a good sister means letting her be an adult

Sibling moved out too soon, not ready for life. NTA.

Encouraging self-sufficiency with Google and YouTube tutorials.

NTA commenter explains sister’s entitlement and lack of gratitude.

Breaking the cycle of gender roles. NTA for setting boundaries.