Parents at Wit’s End: Should They Kick Out Their 20-Year-Old Son?

It’s a tale as old as time: parents, a rebellious son, and a home on the verge of chaos. ‘Dave’ and his girlfriend are at their wits’ end with Dave’s 20-year-old son, ‘Alex’. Despite setting ground rules and extending their patience, Alex’s behavior has only escalated, causing stress, financial strain, and even relationship issues. But the question remains: should they ask him to leave their home?

A New Member in the Household

The Rules of the House

Broken Promises

Financial Struggles and Unfulfilled Promises

The Final Straw

A Missed Opportunity

The Strain on Relationships

A Father’s Love vs A Son’s Behavior

A Glimmer of Hope?

A Mother’s Dilemma

A Heartbreaking Decision: To Let Go or Hold On?

Dave and his girlfriend are stuck in a heart-wrenching situation. Their home, once a sanctuary, is now a battlefield due to Alex’s rebellious behavior. Despite their best efforts to guide him, Alex has shown little regard for their rules or their struggles. Now, they’re contemplating the unthinkable: asking their son to leave. But the question remains, is it the right thing to do? Or is there still hope for Alex? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA – Set low bar, he failed. Resentment? Creepy.

20-year-old son causing chaos at home, therapy and eviction suggested.

NTA for asking him to clean up, but also dating older man with kids.

NTA. Alex is freeloading and needs to go.

NTA. He’s old enough to help, but chooses not to.

Debate over financial struggles and judgment for having kids at 40.

Parents frustrated with 20-year-old son’s lack of cleanliness. NTA.

YTA vs NTA: Step-mom’s authority over 20-year-old stepson debated.

“NTA. No excuses, time to teach him a lesson. “

NTA. Kick out your son for the sake of your children.

NTA if you ask him to move out for your kids.

Commenter calls out the title and household dynamic, not a parent.

Navigating a difficult family dynamic with age gap challenges

NTA. Give him a month to move out

Everyone’s an AH in this messy situation

Son’s refusal to help family strains relationships and sympathy.

“Entertaining chaos: 20 yr old step sibling and authority figure”

Parents’ hypocrisy: YTA for expecting more from the 20-year-old.

“NTA for asking him to move out, but consider his circumstances.”

Playing house with an older man, but who’s the a**hole?

Parents, ‘Alex’ and ‘Dave’ all share blame for unstable environment. ‍♂️

NTA for expecting her partner’s adult child to clean.

Tough love: Should they kick out their 20-year-old son?

Parents struggling financially, seeking advice on whether to kick out son

NTA. Adult son disrespectful, lazy, and irresponsible. Time to kick out.

NTA. Lay down rules, kick out son? Dave’s decision crucial.

A messy situation with no winners.

Commenter finds Reddit thread on parenting wild and entertaining

Parents debating tough love: Kick out 20-year-old son?

Unmarried and struggling with a baby? Yikes, what a mess!

Commenter calls out irresponsible parents for enabling freeloading son.

NTA, prioritize your children’s well-being over your 20-year-old son.

NTA: Son wants free rent, but won’t help with paperwork.

NTA, but focus on your own life before giving advice.

Age gaps: A common trend in relationships?

Enabling or tough love? NTA for kicking him out.

Boyfriend’s son freeloading, causing financial hardship. Let boyfriend handle it.

YTA comment: Step back, let his father handle it

NTA: Son squandered opportunity, weed concern for kids.

NTA! The son’s heartless comment reveals his true colors.

Son not respecting parents, causing financial strain. Time for tough love.

Family dynamics a disaster-mess! 20yo son + couch = unlivable

NTA. Adult son, job, lived away. Low requirements? He’s out!

“Our” 20-year-old? You’re not the parent. ESH.