Mother-to-be Shuts Out Family from Pregnancy: Justified or Overboard?

A 27-year-old woman, expecting her second child, has stirred up quite the family drama. Her decision? No family involvement in her pregnancy – no baby showers, no gender reveals, no name reveals, nothing. This bold move comes after her family’s over-enthusiasm for extravagant pregnancy celebrations. But is she being too harsh, or is she simply setting boundaries? Let’s delve into her story.

The Unexpected First Pregnancy

A Family Rift Emerges

A Reluctant Reunion

The Over-the-Top Pregnancy Parties

A Firm ‘No’ to the Celebrations ‍♀️

The Fear of Unwanted Surprises

The Baby’s Existence: A Unique Perspective

Family’s Reaction and Self-Doubt

A Pregnancy Under Lock and Key: Justified or Overkill? ‍♀️

Our mom-to-be has taken a hard stance, keeping her family at arm’s length throughout her pregnancy. From refusing to share the baby’s gender to not allowing them at the hospital during labor, she’s determined to keep this journey between her and her husband. Her family, eager to participate in the joyous occasion, is left feeling hurt and excluded. Even her best friend, who stood by her during her first pregnancy, questions if she’s being too harsh. Is she right in setting these boundaries, or is she denying her family the joy of celebrating a new life? Let’s see what the world has to say about this…

NTA shuts out family from pregnancy due to past abandonment.

NTA- Prioritizing your choices and boundaries over forced agendas

OP rightfully excludes toxic family from her pregnancy. NTA

“NTA This is your child, and that is a crazy amount of parties. But …. I can’t tell from your post if you’re trying to repair and rebuild your relationship with your mom. If you are, then this might be her clumsy way of apologizing. Letting her throw one of these parties – your choice of which – might rebuild some of what you’ve lost between you. You might not be aiming for that. In which case, that is a crazy number of parties and I can’t believe she found anyone to attend them for your siblings.”

NTA. Boundaries are important. Watch out for their lack of respect.

“NTA. It’s your pregnancy and your baby. You owe them nothing.”

NTA. Set boundaries with family during pregnancy. Your baby, your rules.

NTA. Mother’s nerve at 17, now upset about baby decisions.

NTA, your mum’s excessive celebrations are about her, not you.

Heartwarming support for a mother-to-be facing family rejection.

NTA – Stand your ground and prioritize your own happiness.

NTA: Is there favoritism in celebrating the ‘legitimate’ child?

INFO: A couple of questions…

* Was your mom contrite and really sorry when she apologized to you for what she did?
* Do you believe the shower and other parties are for herself or for you? It could be both since she wants to see you get the same treatment your sisters got.
* Since you’ve reconciled, is this really where you want to draw the line in the sand?

Obviously, you are within your rights (with hubby) to control whatever you want regarding the pregnancy but based on the answers to these questions, a compromise might be in order to save you the aggravation now and in the near future

Mom’s guilt trip backfires as pregnant daughter sets boundaries.

NTA. Stand your ground and prioritize your own happiness.

NTA: Families pushing for parties? Ridiculous! Parents decide, end of.

NTA. Absolute hypocrite. No obligation to speak to her.

Taking control of your pregnancy and setting boundaries.

Mother shuts out family, commenter supports her decision. NTA.

NAH. Family trying to make up for not being there. Your pregnancy, your rules. Let them down gently.

NTA: Take control of your pregnancy and set boundaries.

NTA: Stand up for yourself and prioritize your needs

NTA. Family overstepping boundaries. Your choice, your babies, your rules.

NTA: Mother-to-be stands up to family, shares heartbreaking experience.

NTA. Don’t let mom rewrite the story.

Pregnant woman sets boundaries, haters gonna hate

NTA: Friend doesn’t understand toxic family dynamics, you’re justified in setting boundaries.

NTA: Stand your ground and prioritize your own well-being.

NTA. Controlling the flow of info is essential for peace.

NTA: Protecting your baby from potential risks trumps family obligations.

NTA – Family not supporting you, but can’t control them

Trust your intuition, it knows what’s best for you.

NTA. Parties are bizarre. You decide who’s involved in pregnancy.

NTA: Mother disowned them, can’t expect involvement in their lives.

NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize your well-being and your baby’s.

Mom’s controlling behavior during pregnancy causing unnecessary stress.

Mother-to-be refuses family involvement in baby celebration. NTA!

NTA. Family excluded during pregnancy, but should slowly reenter.

NTA. Stand your ground!

Heartbreaking betrayal by mother, family supports her. Unforgivable.

NTA. Your pregnancy, your choices.

NTA. Family drama? Let someone else throw you a baby shower!

NTA. Set boundaries with family during pregnancy. You deserve peace.

Setting boundaries during pregnancy. Involving family without compromising your comfort.

NTA shuts out family from pregnancy, mom’s own fault

Finally, someone with common sense on insane baby parties!

NTA – Mother’s overbearing behavior during pregnancy. Lock down delivery info.

NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize your comfort during pregnancy.

Mother-to-be shuts out family, calls out their hypocrisy.

NTA. Your pregnancy, your choice. Family dynamics can be toxic.

It’s your baby, not theirs. ‍♀️

NTA! No gender reveal party, no negotiation. Shutting out family.

Mother-to-be refuses family’s extravagant baby celebration, supported by commenter.

NTA. Celebrate your way, don’t let anyone guilt trip you!

Stand your ground! Your baby, your rules. Don’t let them manipulate.

Supportive commenter defends mother-to-be’s actions.

NTA – Excluding family from pregnancy for valid reasons

Regretful mom tries to make up for past mistakes.

NTA. Parties are exhausting! You do you, mama!

Mom’s parties: appearances over help? Gender reveals are weird.

No parties needed, even without history. Beware surprise invitations!

NTA: Protecting your baby’s health and setting boundaries

Mother stands up to cruel family, sets healthy boundaries.

NTA: Stick to your guns and enforce boundaries.

Family disregards boundaries, NTA stands firm.

NTA: Screw the unnecessary parties, it’s your pregnancy! ‍♀️

NTA. Mother trying to make up for lost time

NTA- Mother disrespected and abandoned OP; now faces consequences. Take charge!

So much NTA! Tell us more about this juicy drama!

Setting boundaries with family during pregnancy. NTA.

NTA. Shutting out family from pregnancy, justified or overboard?

NTA. Setting boundaries with family for a stress-free pregnancy

Family using pregnancy for self-aggrandizing parties?

Trust issues with family during pregnancy. NTA for shutting out.

NTA: Set boundaries and let them have their own party

NTA: Blood family kicked out, mom shouldn’t get second chance