Being a single mom is never easy, but when one of your children becomes a parent themselves, the challenges can multiply. Our 40-year-old single mom has three children, and her 18-year-old daughter, Ava, dropped out of high school after getting pregnant. Ava’s baby daddy, Andrew, has since moved away and cut off all contact, leaving Ava jobless and without a plan. Now, this fed-up mom has given Ava an ultimatum: either sue for child support or get out of the house!
Meet the Family

Ava’s Situation

Andrew’s Disappearing Act

Blocked and Accused

The Working Sister

Rent and Responsibilities

Ava’s Expectations

The Real Problem

Mom’s Tough Love

Job Suggestions

“Do High School”

Ava’s Fears

Mom’s Ultimatum

Reality Check

Government Assistance

Andrew’s Influence

Mom’s Tough Love: Will Ava Step Up?
This single mom is at her wit’s end with her 18-year-old daughter, Ava, who dropped out of high school after getting pregnant. Ava’s baby daddy, Andrew, has since moved away and cut off all contact, leaving Ava jobless and without a plan. The mom has now given Ava an ultimatum: either sue for child support or get out of the house! Ava is resistant, fearing Andrew will lose his scholarship or be forced out of college if she files. Will this tough love approach push Ava to take responsibility and make a change? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Daughter needs to be an adult and support her child . Reasonable compromise offered.

Suggests using Mormon church to pressure family into child support settlement

Ex-Mormon suggests reaching out to church for young man’s history

Father can’t have it both ways. NTA.

User suggests suing for child support and encourages daughter to step up.

Tough love may be called for here. You’re NTA

Daughter’s ex-boyfriend, a Mormon, pressured her against abortion. Sue him!

Offering a plan for Ava’s future and holding baby daddy accountable.

Angry commenter advocates for taking revenge on deadbeat dad.

Passionate comment calling out deadbeat dad for gaslighting and religious beliefs.

Encouraging NTA comment on facing reality and setting goals.

Suggests involving Mormon church to make Andrew take responsibility.

NTA for not wanting to support her baby alone

Encouraging comment on holding parents accountable for their actions.

Adult daughter forced to choose between child support or eviction!

Ava needs to file for support – NTA made the right call

Controversial comment sparks no replies, only emojis in response.

Compassionate take on daughter’s situation and need for support.

Grandchild’s paternal family should step up to help, not abandon.

Growing up and tracking down the father for child support

Calling out a deadbeat dad using religion?

User calls out parent for not teaching daughter financial responsibility.

NTA calls out Andrew’s family and warns about DNA test.

Father hires attorney for child support, ends up benefiting sperm donor

A helpful tip for dealing with deadbeat Mormon fathers

User calls out parent for expecting too much from daughter.

Concern over mother’s ultimatum to 18-year-old daughter.

Taking it to the church? Bold move, but might work!

NTA. Ava needs to take responsibility for her child.

Religious hypocrisy called out in unplanned pregnancy situation.

Kicking out a pregnant teenager? Definitely the a**hole

Criticism of mother’s ultimatum to throw out her highschooler daughter.

Get revenge with the church’s help

DNA test and child support: tough love for deadbeat dad

Engaging advice to help Ava get revenge on her cheating ex.

Ex-Mormon suggests possible settlement with church to OP’s situation

Supportive comment encourages violence and religious judgement.

Get help from LDS or his family to avoid child support

Get involved with his church to make him pay child support!

Daughter needs to take responsibility, not the grandma. NTA

Grandma’s tough love approach to daughter’s ultimatum.

Mormon hypocrisy and child support, NTA calls them out

Mormon suggests suing for child support and help from church

Young mother needs to hold father responsible for child support.

Daughter needs to file for child support, NTA for enforcing it

Proving paternity to the Morman family for child support

Use religion to pressure family for child support.

Suggests public shaming at Mormon temple to force child support.

NTA – Tough love is needed to get child support.

State benefits can help with child support. No need to sue.

Suggests exploiting the scholarship angle to get child support. NTA

ESH. Mom should sue for child support and help daughter budget

Encouraging comment suggests applying for child support and education assistance

NTA. Daughter’s kid is not your responsibility. Don’t cave!

NTA. Tough love is necessary for Ava’s wake-up call.

User calls out OP for not protecting daughter, supports tough love.

Helpful advice on getting child support and government assistance

Father labeled as classic deadbeat, daughter selfish and clueless

NTA. Advice on filing for child support and informing Andrew’s bishop.

Get the support your daughter deserves. NTA.

Protecting her daughter: a mother’s tough love

NTA comment: Taking responsibility for adult decisions

Concerned commenter urges action for immature 18-year-old daughter

Mormon commenter urges accountability and responsibility for premarital sex.

Single mom deserves support, deadbeat dad must pay up!

Legal action risks baby’s safety, tough situation for mom

Creative solution suggested to deal with deadbeat dad.

Encouraging response to a tough situation.

NTA comment suggests serving Andrew in front of classmates

Mom needs to file for child support and get a job
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Navigating paternity and custody issues, adoption may be considered

Get county aid, file for child support, involve highest Mormon authority

User has a different perspective, but warns of legal consequences.

Harsh criticism towards family’s financial situation.

Daughter needs a wake-up call about her new reality.

Mormon adoption coercion warning for young and dumb daughter.

Taking legal action for child support. NTA but brace yourself

Choosing to forgo child support hurts the child and future partners. #NTA

Tough love or too harsh? Options for struggling mom.

ExLDS commenter advises to sue for child support, not seek church help.
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