Mom Excluded from Baby Shower for Disrespecting Husband’s Anxiety

A woman is facing backlash for excluding her mom from her baby shower until she sincerely apologizes to her husband. The husband had missed the birth of their first child due to severe anxiety and panic attacks, which the mom knew about. Instead of being understanding, she accused him of not doing his job as a husband and father. Now, with the couple expecting their second child, the mom continues to make snide remarks, causing the woman to take a stand. ✋

Husband’s Struggle with Anxiety

Panic Attacks and Delivery Room Decision

Husband’s Absence at Birth

Mom’s Disapproval

Standing Up for Husband

Limited Contact

Expecting Second Child

Mom’s Insensitive Remark

Husband’s Guilt and Anger

Demanding an Apology

Mom’s Refusal

Family’s Disapproval ‍♀️

To Invite or Not to Invite?

The woman’s decision to exclude her mom from the baby shower until she apologizes for her insensitive remarks has caused a rift in the family. Many believe the mom has a right to be concerned and shouldn’t be kept from the family. However, the woman and her husband feel that the mom’s behavior is unacceptable, and she needs to sincerely apologize before being welcomed back. As the situation escalates, opinions are divided on what the right course of action is. ‍♀️ ‍♂️

Husband’s sacrifice praised, commenter supports excluding disrespectful mother-in-law.

NTA for uninviting mom to baby shower due to mocking husband’s anxiety. Cutting off contact until sincere apology with admission of antagonistic behavior and effort to change.

NTA. Mom’s behavior is unnecessary and abusive

Congrats on the baby! NTA, your birth, your rules

Commenter defends NTA judgment, calls out mom’s double standard

Cheers to standing up to toxic family members!

NTA stands up for husband’s anxiety, commenters support and empathize. ❤️

Supportive commenters suggest seeking help on mother-in-law subreddits

Commenter praises OP for supporting husband, criticizes mother’s behavior.

Mom’s behavior is unacceptable, prioritize your family. NTA

Supportive comment applauding OP for standing up to toxic mother-in-law.

Celebrating each baby with a shower is common in some cultures

Are baby showers becoming too frequent?

NTA. Supportive partner defends husband against mother’s insensitive comment

Commenter praises OP for standing up to AH mom

Supportive comment on husband’s anxiety and mental health education.

NTA commenter believes in sincere apologies over fake ones

Mom excluded from baby shower for disrespecting husband’s anxiety. NTA.

Stand your ground against toxic in-laws. NTA

Breaking generational stigma on mental health. NTA stands strong.

Support for OP’s decision to exclude mom from baby shower

NTA comment receives no replies, but clear agreement.

Apology rejected: Commenter questions sincerity of apology in thread.

Standing up for husband’s anxiety, not okay to put aside emotions

Commenter defends husband, suggests mom needs to move on.

NTA. Family should butt out of delivery room decisions

Positive response to mom’s decision to exclude negative family member

Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary

Supportive comment defending husband’s anxiety and advocating for accountability.

Setting boundaries with family is tough, but necessary for respect

Supportive comment condemns mother’s behavior towards husband’s anxiety

Setting boundaries is important! You’re a great spouse

Baby showers for each child? A debate ensues

Supportive comment with a strong clapback.

Congrats on NTA status! Check out r/JUSTNOMIL for advice

Excluding mom from shower is fair, apology needed for husband’s sake

Mother excluded from baby shower for disrespecting husband’s anxiety

Supportive comment about husband’s anxiety and decision, criticizing mom’s behavior.

Grandma’s meanness gets her banned from seeing grandkids. NTA

Focus on your family and ignore mom’s insincere apology

Supportive comment receives hugs and NTA verdict

Supportive comment defends husband’s anxiety and criticizes mother’s behavior

Supportive comment applauding husband’s progress and condemning mom’s behavior

Commenter agrees with the OP, no replies yet

Supportive commenter praises couple for standing up to disrespectful mother-in-law.

Protecting the baby shower from toxic family members

Mother’s cruel words hurt husband’s vulnerability. NTA for excluding her.

Supportive comment for husband’s anxiety.

Husband’s sacrifice applauded, mother’s comment hurtful. NTA for confronting.

Father’s heroic decision to prioritize his family’s mental health

User questions baby shower etiquette, calls out OP’s mom

Supportive comment on husband’s anxiety earns NTA judgment

Commenter empathizes with husband’s anxiety, questions mother’s understanding

Toxic mother invalidates husband’s anxiety, apology not enough

Supportive comment defends husband’s mental health, calls out inappropriate behavior.

Cut off vindictive mom, no regrets, grandkids never met

Supportive comment receives NTA judgment.

Supportive comment defends exclusion of disrespectful mother from baby shower

Supportive comment applauds husband’s protection and teamwork, mom’s loss

Supportive comment shuts down mom’s drama, strengthens marriage

Husband insulted, mom won’t apologize. NTA for no contact.

Defending husband’s anxiety at baby shower. NTA

Support for NTA- prioritizing husband’s mental health over mom’s expectations

NTA stands up to toxic mother for husband’s anxiety

Short and sweet, a supportive NTA comment gets praised.

Supportive comment receives agreement from others.

Supportive comment with wise advice

Stand your ground and set clear boundaries with disrespectful mother

Mom’s behavior causing anxiety. NTA for excluding her

Toxic phrases like ‘suck it up’ and ‘man up’ are harmful. Glad the husband is doing better.

Supportive comment applauds couple for prioritizing family over social pressure

Set boundaries with mom or restrict access to new baby. NTA

Teaching family empathy and respect, actions have consequences. NTA

Honesty without kindness is brutality. Kindness without honesty is manipulation.

NTA. Commenter empathizes with husband’s anxiety and criticizes mother’s ignorance.

Stand your ground. Demand apology and no negativity from MIL

Suggest turning the logic on her and guilt-tripping her