Ever been caught in a family drama over money? Well, a 35-year-old man found himself in a sticky situation when his wife asked for a hefty $10,000 loan. Not to buy a fancy car or go on a lavish vacation, but to help her brother buy a house. Sounds simple, right? But wait till you hear the full story…
An Unusual Request

The Purpose of the Loan

The Repayment Plan

The Intriguing Details

The Uncertainty of Repayment

The Fear of Being Burned

The Fallout

The Silent Treatment

The Self-Doubt

The Resolution ️

The Aftermath

A Financial Feud Resolved: But at What Cost?
Caught in a whirlwind of familial obligations and financial prudence, our man navigated a tricky situation. His wife asked for a $10,000 loan to help her brother buy a house, but he had reservations. He feared the lack of a clear repayment plan and the potential for the money to never return. The situation escalated, leading to a fallout and silent treatment from his wife. But after a heart-to-heart, it seems they’ve reached a resolution. She now understands his concerns and seems to have dropped the idea of the loan. But has this left a lasting dent in their relationship? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Wife wants $10,000 loan for brother’s house, but won’t take risk. NTA

“NTA. Be prepared for more requests from family in China “

Money issues in marriage, NTA for asking questions

Trust your instincts and don’t be a mark.

“NTA. Never loan money to a family member. PERIOD”

NTA: Wife wants $10k loan for brother’s house, likely a gift

NTA. Wife wants loan but won’t lend from her own money

OP’s wife’s brother wants a loan for a non-existent apartment ♂️

Chinese culture expects financial support for son’s marital home

Wife wants financial buffer, but won’t loan her own money?

NTA: It’s your money, keep it for yourself!

NTA: Wife’s loan may open floodgates for more family handouts

Curious about the consequences of denying the loan? Let’s find out!

NTA, wife’s logic questioned. Loan her less, if any.

NTA. Loaning money to family can be a risky business

NTA, wife emotionally blackmailing for $10k loan. Discuss boundaries together.

Commenter defends OP’s discomfort, calls out judgmental responses. NTA

NTA. Stand your ground against entitled family members

NTA, trust the brother, not the wife. Valid concern, based on experience

Doubting brother’s intentions in China’s economic crisis

Not the a**hole: A family feud ignites over a loan

Cultural clash over money: beware of the ‘weird Chinese culture’

“NTA – Never lend money to friends and family unless you’re willing to ruin the relationship. A better solution is just gift the money.”

Concerned about loan repayment and potential family drama.

NTA. Wife wants loan, you pay bills. Money troubles ignite

NTA. Silent treatment = manipulation tactic.

Printing a fake check as a gift? That escalated quickly!

NTA for being rational about finances and cautious about loans

Cautionary tale: Incomplete home builds in China, wife should research

Hard NTA: Wife wants buffer, but why involve you?

NTA. Joint decision prevents fallout if he doesn’t pay back

NTA: Wife wants you to take all the risk

Red flag: Wife gives silent treatment over loan request. NTA.

NTA – Marriage finances, risk, and flushing money down the toilet

Wife expects loan forgiveness but doesn’t tell you? NTA!

NTA. Wife wants loan but won’t use her own money.

Smart financial advice for loaning money to family members

Trust your wife, but beware of potential family financial drama

Don’t lend your brother-in-law money! Your wife might be scamming you

NTA. Loaning money across borders can be a legal nightmare
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Wife wants to use your money? NTA, you deserve better

Don’t give in! Protect your money and marriage!

Legal implications of loaning money for a family member’s house

NTA. Don’t risk your money on her brother’s house

NTA – Keep a tight lock on your finances!

Dodging a bullet: Wife wants you to be her buffer. NTA.

Don’t loan the money. Let your wife handle it

Banks know best, wife’s TA for asking, you’re NTA

NTA: Wife wants loan for brother’s house, no intention to repay?

NTA wants to use the 10 grand for a divorce lawyer

NTA. Open communication is key in a healthy relationship

Wife wants loan, but won’t take risk. You’re NTA!

Supportive commenter advises setting boundaries for financial assistance.

Suggest gifting instead of loaning to avoid anxiety and complications

NTA. Loan her money and set terms for repayment.

NTA. Risky loan could ignite family feud

Concerned about housing market issues, wouldn’t pay for new apartment

NTA – Loaning $10k for brother’s house: risky investment or cultural clash?

Engaging response to a comment about loaning money to family

NTA, no justification needed. Just say no, it’s your money.
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NTA: Money and family don’t mix. Recipe for disaster

Will the loan strain their relationship?

NTA. Loans should be gifts. Don’t risk your marriage for family.

Engaging comment: NTA. The wife’s questionable financial decision sparks conflict.

NTA. Don’t do it OP; this loan could backfire

“NTA man, I wouldn’t do that either.”

“Cultural expectations shouldn’t pressure you to give a ‘gift’ “

Let her decide if she’s willing to take the risk

Confused about wife’s request for loan without guarantees or framework
