We all have our ways of dealing with loss, but sometimes, our coping mechanisms can cause more harm than good. A man who lost his first wife has found himself in hot water after his current wife discovered the truth behind her perfume. He kept the scent of his late wife alive by gifting his current wife the same perfume, but failed to mention its sentimental significance. Now, with the truth out, he’s left wondering if he’s the bad guy in this situation.
A Tragic Past and a New Beginning
Keeping Her Memory Alive
The Gift That Keeps on Giving
A Secret Shared
Not Trying to Recreate
A Decade of Marriage
Time to Move On?
Misunderstood or Crazy?
Wife’s Reaction
Doubts and Insecurities
Reassurance Falls on Deaf Ears
A Harmless Tool?
Self-Doubt Creeps In
The Verdict?
Perfume Secrets: Sentimental or Sinister?
This man’s coping mechanism of keeping his late wife’s perfume around has spiraled into a full-blown family drama. With his current wife feeling betrayed and insecure, he’s left questioning his own actions. Was it just a harmless way to deal with his past, or has he crossed the line? Let’s dive into the internet’s top responses to this emotional rollercoaster…
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“YTA. You knew it was wrong when you did it.”
“YTA. You took away her agency. That’s really not okay.”
Tricked wife into wearing deceased wife’s perfume – incredibly weird and morbid. YTA.
“YTA for your secret, unfair actions. Ick ick ick.”
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YTA – Manipulative and deceitful behavior, causing uncertainty and mistrust.
YTA: Using your current wife as a replacement for your first wife?
“YTA. A lie by omission is still a lie.”
“YTA. Deceiving, planned choice. Facts speak louder than words.”
“Pro tip: when you feel you have to hide something, it means you know it is wrong.”
YTA for not being over your dead wife. Therapy recommended.
Dude’s mix-up between deceased wife and current wife sparks confusion
Deceptive husband uses perfume to manipulate wife’s memories.
Emotional cheating with deceased spouse’s scent? Seek therapy ASAP!
YTA: Dishonesty creates trust issues. Apologize and seek counseling.
“YTA. Giving perfume to a woman without her consent? “
YTA – Tricking her with a sentimental perfume? Trust issues arise
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YTA: Asking your wife to smell like your late first wife?
YTA for hiding past wife’s perfume, making her feel insecure
“Wife finds out about secret perfume, YTA.”
You should’ve been honest. Now you’re the a**hole.
“YTA. Keeping the perfume would’ve been fine, but involving your wife? “
“YTA and creepy af Like how do I describe how intimate a gift of perfume can be for an SO. I would feel violated and like I was just a warm body to someone I’d they did this to me. It’s super awful and you know it, because you wouldn’t have hidden the truth if you didn’t already know that.”
“YTA
If I was your wife, I’d question everything in the past decade with you too. I’d question if you were attracted to be for me. I’d question if it was really me on your mind when you were amorous or professed your love. I’d be replaying every conversation and exchange to reevaluate how genuine they were. Just imagining myself in your wife’s position makes my stomach queasy. It’s icky on so many levels. Your wife doesn’t even have a mistress to get mad at or a naked pic found in your phone. She is literally in competition with a memory in your mind. I feel so sad for her. I have no idea how you can rebuild that trust. You’ve been lying to yourself, lying to her and making others lie by omission for you. Plan on investing in therapy for you, her and couples therapy.”
YTA for hiding secret perfume drama from your wife! ♂️
“YTA: You really screwed up by keeping this secret for years.”
YTA: Secret perfume drama reveals creepy and insensitive behavior.
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Deception in marriage? You’re the a**hole, says everyone!
Dude’s secret perfume drama triggers anger and calls for therapy!
YTA: Creepy secret perfume drama threatens marriage. Seek therapy ASAP!
Inappropriate behavior: a**hole alert!
