Man Tells Grieving Widow to ‘S**k It Up’: Right or Wrong?

Grief can be a tricky thing to navigate, especially when children are involved. One man found himself in the middle of a family crisis when his friend passed away, leaving behind a wife and two children. As he stepped in to help the grieving family, he faced an unexpected challenge that left him questioning his actions. ‍♀️

The Tragic Background

Stepping Up to Help ‍ ‍

Becoming a Safe Presence

N’s Struggles with Mental Health

Refusing Treatment

A Shocking Phone Call

Taking the Kids to Safety

Calling the Grandparents

Confronting N

A Heated Conversation

N’s Angry Response

The Controversial Statement

Kicked Out and Called an AH

Friends Take Sides ️

The Pressure to Apologize

A Grieving Widow, a Worried Friend, and a Tough Love Approach

When his friend passed away, this man stepped up to help the grieving widow, N, and her two children. But when the children called him for help, fearing for their mother’s erratic behavior, he took them to safety and confronted N about her mental health. In a heated exchange, he told her to ‘s**k it up’ for the sake of her kids, leading to a fallout with N and his friends. Now, he’s left wondering if his tough love approach was the right move, or if he should apologize and return the children to their mother.

NTA commenter supports prioritizing kids’ safety over widow’s excuses.

Custody battle after husband’s death: commenter shares personal experience.

A commenter acknowledges the need for help while calling out bad phrasing.

Telling someone to ‘s**k it up’ in extreme distress is pointless

Putting children’s wellbeing first: Honest or heartless?

Empathize with the grieving and offer support, not dismissiveness.

Navigating grief and loss is complex, support and empathy needed

User called out for being confrontational and unhelpful.

ESH commenter criticizes lack of compassion in handling situation

NTA commenter advocates tough love for grieving widow’s children.

Encouraging self-care, but lacking empathy

Insensitive comment on widow’s grief: ESH. Therapy is important.

Pushing therapy on grieving widow in harsh way makes YTA.

Empathetic reply urges kindness towards grieving widow.

Heartless comment sparks NTA response for grieving widow.

ESH commenter admits fault and offers insight for both parties.

A commenter calls out the insensitivity of telling a grieving widow to ‘s**k it up’ using a Big Lebowski quote.

NTA for stepping up for the kids, but apologize for harshness.

Supportive comment advocating for child welfare.

Encouraging comment about widow’s therapy, thanking for helping kids ❤️

Friend in deep crisis, ESH for putting her down. Get help

User calls out commenter for being YTA and unhelpful.

Grieving widow needs support, not to ‘s**k it up’. YTA

Apologize to a grieving widow with mental health issues, YTA.

NAH. OP needs to call a wellness check or find professional help.

User defends OP’s blunt comment to a grieving widow, NTA.

Don’t tell a grieving widow to ‘s**k it up’, YTA.

YTA commenter calls out insensitivity and suggests therapy alternatives.

Suggests better approach to help grieving widow with children.

Widow needs support, not judgment.

Sharing personal experience and supporting NTA.

ESH. Encouraging therapy is important, but telling her to ‘s**k it up’ is not productive or compassionate.

Grieving widow receives harsh comment from unsympathetic person. ESH.

Empathetic comment calls for mental health support and questions story.

Grieving widow’s friend tries to help but uses wrong words

Telling a grieving widow to ‘s**k it up’ is cruel

A comment suggesting mental health issues and ditching fake friends.

Widow struggling to cope, man tells her to ‘s**k it up’. ESH.

NTA for prioritizing the safety of the kids, but tough love didn’t work for the grieving widow. Let others take care of their mom and make sure the kids feel safe.

Insensitive comment to grieving widow. Teens can’t replace a spouse.

YTA for pushing grieving widow to have kids returned. Let her heal.

Insensitive comment on widow’s grief: ‘S**k it up’? YTA.

Grief is not something you can just ‘s**k up’. YTA

Friend criticized for telling grieving widow to ‘s**k it up’

Be patient and kind during the healing process.

Grieving widow needs therapy, kids need bereavement therapy, not tough love.

Gentle ESH verdict for insensitive comment towards grieving widow.

YTA for telling a widowed friend to ‘s**k it up’

Grief affects everyone differently, tough love not always helpful

Insensitive comment receives YTA judgment and advice for improvement.

Heartfelt gratitude for a friend’s heroic legacy

Empathy and efficiency are key in convincing someone to seek therapy.

Supportive comment about mental health services and caring for children.

Suggesting therapy to a grieving widow: helpful or insensitive?

Encouraging someone to bury their grief is not tough love

Encouraging therapy for a grieving widow dealing with d********n.

ESH for insensitive words, but good intentions for grieving widow.

User gently calls out misguided behavior towards grieving widow.

Using kinder language to communicate the same message is important

Engaging comment suggesting more support for grieving widow and family.

Empathize before advising, avoid harsh phrasing.

Be empathetic and cautious when dealing with a grieving person. ❤️

ESH comment suggests being gentle with words to grieving widow

Supportive comment encourages empathy and seeking help for grieving widow. ❤️

Grieving widow criticized for not being there for her kids

NTA stands up for children’s safety, friends prioritize propriety

Support system needs to step in for widow’s well-being.

ESH. Prioritizing kids is right, but dismissing widow’s grief is bad

Encouraging comment to support a grieving widow’s mental health

Insensitive friend told grieving widow to ‘s**k it up’. YTA.

Encouraging therapy is right, but delivery was insensitive ‍♀️

Encouraging comment about the difficulty of therapy for trauma victims.

Encouraging empathy and support for a grieving widow’s mental health ❤️

User thinks the commenter is an a**hole but acknowledges the need for treatment.

Seeking advice for a grieving widow’s therapy for kids.

Friend warns of potential legal trouble and advises caution ⚠️

Lacking empathy to a shocking degree. YTA

Insensitive man dismisses widow’s grief, needs to apologize

NTA tells grieving widow to prioritize her kids over emotional baggage.

YTA slightly. Understanding the profound impact of mental illness

Suggesting baker acting as an option for a grieving widow.

Support for NTA comment on abusive relationships with parents.

YTA for lack of empathy, but right to prioritize kids’ safety.

Heartless comment disregards widow’s grief, but supports kids’ well-being.

NTA calls out friends for not helping a grieving widow.

Last Updated on February 14, 2024 by Diply Social Team