Imagine this: you’re living with schizophrenia, a condition you’ve managed to keep under wraps. Then one day, your wife’s coworker’s daughter gets diagnosed with the same condition. Your wife, in an attempt to provide hope, reveals your secret and volunteers you to meet the teenager. You’re suddenly thrust into the spotlight, expected to be the ‘model schizophrenic’. How would you react? Let’s dive into this intriguing story of a man who refused to play the role his wife volunteered him for.
The Unwanted Role
The Unexpected Revelation
The Unasked Favor
The Unpleasant Surprise
The Emotional Appeal
The Reasons for Refusal
The Variability of Schizophrenia
The Misplaced Expectations
The Disregard for Consent
The Social Awkwardness
The Aftermath
The Unhappy Ending
A Man’s Stand Against ‘Voluntelling’: Who’s the Real Villain Here?
In a whirlwind of events, a man living with schizophrenia finds himself unwillingly volunteered by his wife to be a beacon of hope for a teenager newly diagnosed with the same condition. The man, who prefers to keep his condition private, refuses to be paraded around like a ‘circus animal’. He raises several valid points, including the variability of schizophrenia and his own social awkwardness. The fallout? His wife is angry, the coworker is devastated, and he’s left questioning his actions. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this complex situation.
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> Wife tells coworker about my schizophrenia, coworker wants meeting. NTA.
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NTA: Wife should have asked, you’re never the a**hole when refusing.
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NTA. Wife overstepped, now she deals with the fallout. ♂️
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NTA – Wife didn’t consult, her anger is unwarranted
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Wife’s lack of communication creates awkward situation. NTA.
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NTA – Spouse disregards PTSD, blames you for setting boundaries.
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NTA. Wife disregarded your feelings and volunteered you without consent. ️
Wife disrespects husband’s decision to refuse seeing girl. NTA
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NTA. Sharing personal medical experiences without consent? She’s TA.
NTA. Offer support to the teenager, not the mother.
NTA. Embrace your schizophrenia and explore its potential benefits. ♂️
NTA: Wife violates privacy, shares confidential medical condition with coworker.
Privacy matters! NTA stands up for personal boundaries.
NTA. Lesson learned the hard way. Boundaries are important.
NTA. Wife should have asked for consent before sharing personal info.
NTA. Be a positive influence for someone with a difficult condition
Uncool wife, uncool. Not the a**hole.
Provocative suggestion sparks debate: NTA or crossing the line? ♂️
NTA, but sharing your experience could be a lifeline for others
Wife’s presumptuousness? Not the a**hole, says this commenter!
Wife’s inconsiderate actions spark debate: NTA for refusing diagnosis display.
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NTA: Autonomy and privacy rights violated; wife should resolve coworker issue.
Setting someone up for discomfort? Not cool. NTA
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NTA, it’s personal and requires trained emotional support.
NTA. Boundaries were crossed and consent was ignored.
NTA. Standing up against stigma and fighting for your rights!
NTA: Wife should have asked before suggesting highly stigmatized meeting.
Sold on reasons 3, 4 & 5! NTA
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Privacy matters! NTA for refusing to discuss personal issues with strangers.
NTA. Wife should’ve asked first, but coworker needs support
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NTA, but consider the impact of your decision on others. ♂️
NTA, understanding wife’s concerns about teenage daughter’s schizophrenia.
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NTA: Don’t be a circus animal for someone else’s expectations.
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NTA – Wife should have asked, coworker can seek professional help.
Spouse refuses to be ‘Exhibit A’ for schizophrenia. NTA!
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Don’t volunteer someone without their consent! NTA for sure!
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NTA for standing up for yourself and your boundaries.
Spouse volunteers without consent? Not the a**hole, right?
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“NTA. Basic courtesy to ask before volunteering for something personal. ♂️”
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NTA OP. Illness adds dimension, but communication is key
Partner disregards wishes, volunteers without consent. Not cool.
Wife’s nerve questioned, commenter supports OP. Not the a**hole.
Setting boundaries: NTA for refusing to be ‘Exhibit A’
NTA: She asked for it.
Wife’s actions put her in a tough spot. NTA.
NTA. Privacy crossed when wife shared your diagnosis without permission.
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Refusing to be volunteered without consent is irritating and unfair.
NTA: She’s responsible for her situation, not you.
