Man Forbids Girlfriend from Speaking Japanese to His Family

Imagine being in a relationship with a fellow interpreter, and then being told you can’t use your language skills around your partner’s family. That’s exactly what happened to Sasha, a 30-year-old woman who’s been dating her 35-year-old boyfriend for a few months. As Thanksgiving approaches, she’s about to meet his family for the first time – but there’s a catch. He’s told her she’s forbidden from speaking Japanese to his family, even though they all speak it. The reason? He doesn’t want her to outshine his siblings’ spouses who don’t speak the language. Is he being too controlling, or does he have a point? Let’s dive into the story.

A Multilingual Couple

The Japanese Connection

Sasha’s Impressive Skills

The Language Ban

The Reasoning Behind It

Playing Favorites? ⚖️

Sasha’s Response

Pretending Not to Understand

The Aftermath

Realizing the Issue ‍♂️

Is He Being Unfair, or Just Protective?

Sasha’s boyfriend has forbidden her from speaking Japanese to his family during Thanksgiving, fearing that it would make his siblings’ spouses uncomfortable and lead to her becoming the favorite. Sasha, who has a BA and MA in Japanese, thinks this is ridiculous and feels like she’s being asked to hide a part of herself. Her boyfriend, however, believes he’s being fair and protective of his family’s feelings. As the story unfolds, it’s clear that there’s more to this situation than meets the eye. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this language ban.

Forbidding girlfriend’s language? YTA. Future consequences are inevitable.

User calls out OP for nonsensical prohibition, YTA.

OP is deemed the a**hole for forbidding girlfriend’s Japanese.

Don’t forbid your girlfriend from speaking Japanese, YTA

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. Commenter thinks he’s the a**hole and suggests the relationship should end.

Red flag alert! Commenter calls out controlling behavior in relationship.

Red flag! Commenter predicts relationship demise due to language barrier.

Don’t be a language gatekeeper Let them speak Japanese

YTA for forbidding girlfriend to speak Japanese to your family

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family

Demanding your girlfriend to lie? YTA. Let her speak Japanese

Fluent in Japanese, girlfriend forbidden to speak. YTA confirmed.

Controlling behavior and language barriers lead to YTA judgement.

Let her speak Japanese, damn! YTA, it’s a cute gesture

Preventing girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family makes YTA.

Don’t dismiss your partner’s hard work and accomplishments. YTA

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese, called out for cultural insensitivity

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. Commenter calls him out.

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. Commenter calls him the a**hole and suggests a compromise.

Forbidding girlfriend to speak Japanese to family? YTA, dude ‍♂️

Controlling behavior won’t win you any points with anyone. YTA.

Controlling behavior? YTA. Let her show respect in her language

Don’t reject her efforts to bond with your family

This comment doesn’t hold back on calling out the controlling behavior.

Partner’s language ban sparks YTA verdict and warning

Don’t be a language bigot. YTA for forbidding her.

Let her speak Japanese, YTA. Don’t hold her back

35-year-old man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family. YTA.

Don’t be controlling, let your girlfriend connect with your family

YTA for forbidding your girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. Commenter calls him out for being dishonest and not valuing his girlfriend’s feelings.

Controlling behavior towards girlfriend’s language choice. YTA.

Demanding girlfriend not speak Japanese to family makes YTA

User calls out controlling behavior and advises breakup

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family, YTA.

Forbidding girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family makes YTA

OP criticized for forbidding Japanese, called YTA for laziness comment

YTA forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. Comment suggests building bridges.

Redditor calls out OP for forbidding girlfriend’s language use

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family

Forbidding girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family? YTA.

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. YTA.

Controlling behavior? YTA. Let her speak her native language

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. YTA.

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. YTA confirmed

Red flag alert! YTA forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese.

Asking girlfriend to lie to family? YTA

Language barrier causing relationship issues.

Break up already? YTA for forbidding Japanese.

User calls out OP for ridiculous reason to forbid language use.

Forbidding girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family? YTA, dude.

Redditor calls out man for forbidding girlfriend’s language, hilarious revenge.

Controlling partner receives backlash for absurd language request

Redditor calls out OP for forbidding girlfriend’s language, YTA.

User calls out OP for forbidding girlfriend from speaking Japanese

Don’t be a language gatekeeper let her connect with your family

Is OP being a hypocrite about language use?

Don’t bring her if you can’t handle her true self

Don’t diminish your GF’s language skills, YTA

Dump him! You deserve better than someone who’s culturally insensitive.

Don’t forbid your partner from speaking their language!

Red flag alert! YTA prioritizing sibling’s partner over girlfriend.

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese

Redditor calls out OP for being a massive a**hole

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. YTA.

Red flag alert! YTA for forbidding your girlfriend to speak Japanese.

Controlling partner forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. YTA.

YTA forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family

YTA for forbidding her to speak Japanese. Don’t ask her to lie about her identity.

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese. YTA.

Controlling boyfriend forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to family

NTA’s girlfriend is skilled in Japanese, but he forbids her from speaking it to his family. Commenter thinks he’s in the wrong and should be proud of her.

Man forbids girlfriend from speaking Japanese to his family. Commenter calls him out for being controlling and setting her up for failure. YTA

Don’t forbid someone from their culture, YTA for sure