Imagine this: You’ve just received a hefty bonus from work and you’re excited about the financial cushion it provides. Then, out of the blue, your spouse asks you for a $10,000 loan to help her brother buy a house in another country. Would you say yes? One man found himself in this exact predicament, sparking a whirlwind of family drama and moral dilemmas. ️
The Unexpected Loan Request
The Purpose Revealed
The Payback Plan
The Unanswered Questions ❓ ♂️
The Concerns Voiced ️ ♂️
The Fallout Begins ️
The Silent Treatment
The Self-Doubt Creeps In
The Other Side of the Coin
The Update: A Heart-to-Heart
The Resolution: A Sigh of Relief
A Family Loan Request Turns into a Domestic Dispute: Who’s the Real Culprit?
In a whirlwind of family drama, a husband found himself at odds with his wife over a $10,000 loan request for her brother’s house purchase. With the wife promising monthly repayments, the husband was left questioning the moral ambiguity of the situation. The husband’s concerns about the brother’s commitment to repay, coupled with the instability of the housing market in China, added fuel to the fire. The situation escalated, leading to a temporary silent treatment from the wife. However, following a heart-to-heart conversation, it seems the couple may have reached a resolution. But, what do you think? Was he right to refuse the loan, or should he have trusted his wife’s guarantee? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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“NTA. Be prepared for more requests. Are you okay not getting it back?”
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NTA. Never loan money to a family member. PERIOD
“NTA What a coincidence that your bonus came just as BIL got this rare opportunity to buy into real estate he can’t afford! /s”
NTA. Wife should lend the money herself if she’s so concerned
OP is NTA for refusing to loan money for brother’s house
Cultural expectations and financial strain in Chinese families
“INFO: Is your wife financially capable of loaning him the money without your assistance? Is a ‘buffer’ about not being able to pay her portion of the bills, or about not wanting to forgo luxuries?”
Supportive comment defends decision to keep money, promotes independence
NTA: Setting boundaries to avoid becoming the family ATM
NTA, wife’s logic is flawed. Offer alternative loan arrangement.
Curious about the consequences if she didn’t lend the money?
NTA. Family loans can be risky
NTA. Stand strong against enabling irresponsible family members.
NTA, trust the brother, not the wife. Valid concern.
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OP is uncomfortable lending money, but not the a**hole.
NTA, wife’s emotional blackmail is not how to work as a team
NTA – Husband refuses to loan wife money for brother’s house
Concerned about loaning money to wife’s unreliable brother.
Doubting brother’s intentions amidst China’s economic crisis?
NTA: Never lend money to friends and family, gift it instead
NTA. Silent treatment = manipulation. Drama alert!
NTA. Taking all the risk? She’s got some nerve!
NTA: Joint decision prevents fallout if he doesn’t pay back
NTA: When lending money to family goes hilariously wrong
Engaging comment about finances, loans, and cultural differences in real estate
Wife wants money for brother’s house, husband refuses. Drama ensues
“NTA. Loaning money across borders is a risky business “
Beware of unfinished builds in China! Research before spending money!
NTA: Wife spends 10k while you pay 75% of the bills
Engaging comment questioning the wife’s financial decision-making.
Don’t give in! Trust your instincts and protect your money. #NTA
NTA – Wife wants $10,000 loan, husband refuses. Risky investment ♂️
Wife wants to ‘loan’ money but not pay it back
NTA. Wife should use her own money to help out
NTA: Your money, your decision. Suggest a savings plan
Wife wants to use your money? NTA, stand your ground!
NTA. Don’t give him money! Your wife’s being guilted!
Legal implications of loaning money for a family member’s house
“NTA. If she wants to loan her brother the money, then so be it. She knows if you loan it to her and she defaults, what are you going to do. We’re not talking a small chunk of money. 10G is substantial and no, don’t do it.”
NTA – Keep a tight lock on your finances!
Dodging a bullet . NTA. Why not loan him herself?
NTA. Let her loan her own money to her brother
Banks know best, wife’s TA for asking, you’re NTA
Wife wants money for brother’s house, no intention of repayment
NTA wants to use $10k for divorce lawyer due to silent treatment
NTA. Open communication is key. Hope there’s no hidden agenda.
Wife wants money for brother’s house but won’t take risk. NTA
NTA: Set boundaries with family when it comes to money
Suggest gifting instead of loaning to avoid anxiety and complications
NTA. Loaning money for brother’s house? That’s heckin dumb
NTA. Loaning money to family can be risky ♂️
Concerns about housing market in China, would not invest now
NTA – Loaning $10k for brother’s house raises important questions
NTA: Wife wants $10k for brother’s house, suggest escrow account.
NTA: No need to justify, it’s your money and decision
NTA. Never loan money to anyone, especially family and friends.
“NTA, but what’s the aftermath if he doesn’t pay back?”
NTA. All loans are gifts. Be honest and ask for money.
Savage response to wife’s refusal to loan money to brother
“NTA. Don’t do it OP; this has ‘coming back to bite you in the a**’ written all over it.”
“NTA man, I wouldn’t do that either.”
Trust your wife or not? Family drama and financial risks
“Cultural expectations shouldn’t pressure you to give money. Stand firm!”
Let her decide, it’s her money at risk
Commenter questions wife’s request to ‘loan’ money to brother
