Imagine this: You’re a father who lost his son to a bitter divorce and a wealthier stepdad. Years later, you’ve built a successful life and a new family. Suddenly, out of the blue, your son calls you. You’re overjoyed, thinking he wants to reconnect. But instead, he’s asking for college tuition money. Would you pay? This is the dilemma one man faced, and his decision has sparked a fiery debate. Let’s delve into his story. ️♀️
A Heartbreaking Divorce

The Pain of Losing a Son

Starting Over: A New Life

The Struggle to Connect

A Surprise Call

A Painful Decision

The Fallout ️

The Aftermath: Mixed Reactions ️

A Father’s Heartache: A Tale of Love, Loss, and Tough Decisions
This is a story that tugs at your heartstrings. A father, who lost his son to a richer stepdad, builds a successful life from scratch. When his son reaches out after years of silence, it’s not for a heartwarming reunion, but to ask for college tuition money. The father, feeling used, refuses. His decision sparks a whirlwind of reactions, with friends supporting him, but his family condemning his choice. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this emotional roller coaster.
Son wants money after years of estrangement. NTA for refusing.
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NTA: Divorced parents, entitled son, and college tuition drama

Commenter questions father’s portrayal of himself as a victim.

“NTA I was prepared to say you were but it sounds like he was poisoned against you and now wants to use you only when he needs something. You’re worth more than your ability to pay for college and its too bad he doesn’t see that.”

NAH. Son was manipulated, OP should talk and decide.

Son wants college tuition, but dad wants a relationship first.

Ex and son only want money. Tough situation, definitely NTA.

NTA. Blood doesn’t make family, love does. He chose to cut you out of his life and this is a consequence of that decision.

NTA: Father’s withdrawal from relationship justified, money not fair.

NTA. Son wonders why dad won’t pay tuition. Possible cheating?

NTA: No relationship, just money.

NTA. No tuition payment? Is the father justified?

Settlement agreements don’t cover college tuition. Ex’s rich husband should.

Father refuses to pay son’s college tuition: NTA, tough situation

NTA, but money shouldn’t be the foundation of your relationship.
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“YTA” for not bonding with your son, but justified for not paying for college.

“Mildly YTA”: Father’s moral dilemma on supporting his son’s education

Father refuses to pay son’s tuition after being rejected.

Ex-wife and son accused of money motives. NTA.

Ex accuses father of lies, father defends withholding tuition.

INFO: Can you compromise? Consider his upbringing and potential future.

Family isn’t just DNA: NTA for refusing college tuition

Son influenced by mom, dad justified in refusing tuition.

NTA: Don’t expect money if you cut ties with family.

Suspicious post about revenge fantasy and questionable motives.

Son uses father for money, father refuses. NTA, son TA.
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NTA: Karma is a b**ch. Let him suffer for pushing you away.

NTA. Son influenced by mom, but reaching out could help
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Step-dad abandoned kid after divorce, bio dad justified in not paying

NTA: You tried to build a relationship, he’s not entitled.

“You’re definitely not the a**hole! Your son’s entitlement is outrageous.”

Father refuses to pay tuition, son wants relationship not ATM

Father refuses to pay son’s college tuition: NTA, no relationship.

Curious about the mother’s use of child support?

NTA. Ex-wife’s financial choices shouldn’t affect son’s education.

NTA – Father prioritizes son’s college tuition over other expenses.

NTA, but consider compromising to maintain a future relationship

NTA: You don’t owe anyone anything, but consider rekindling relationship.

Son asks for tuition, father refuses. NTA, but tough situation.

Don’t pay? Let’s discuss the consequences of that decision.

NTA – Father wants genuine relationship, not to be used.

Rebuilding a relationship with your dad: not just about money

NTA but by a slim margin. Reach out and rebuild relationship

Last Updated on December 2, 2023 by Diply Social Team