Family Feud Erupts Over Dementia Care: Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong?

When a loved one is diagnosed with dementia, it often falls on the family to provide care. But what happens when not everyone is willing to share the burden? Meet our heroine, a 27-year-old nurse, who has taken on the responsibility of caring for her dementia-stricken mother. However, she’s not the only child in the family. Enter her older brother, James, who until recently, has been MIA in the caregiving department. As the tension escalates, let’s delve into their story…

A Mother’s Diagnosis and a Daughter’s Duty

The Nurse’s Burden

The Joy Amidst the Struggle

The Absent Brother

The Plea for Help

A Brother’s Reluctant Assistance

The Sunday Ritual

The Sister-in-law’s Fury

The Accusation

The Unyielding Stand

The Nursing Home Proposal

The Money Matter

The Final Accusation

Dementia Care: A Family’s Dilemma

In a heartbreaking tale of family ties and the burdens of care, our heroine is left carrying the weight of her mother’s dementia care. Despite her nursing background, the emotional toll of caring for her own mother is immense. Her pleas for assistance from her brother, James, are met with resistance, leading to a Sunday routine that sparks fury in James’ wife. She accuses our heroine of ‘stealing’ her husband, causing discord in their home, and even suggests a nursing home for their mother. But with finances tight, our heroine stands firm: James must help. As the family feud escalates, the internet weighs in on this complex situation. ‍ ‍ ‍

NTA. SIL is being ridiculous. Join us in r/dementia for support

NTA. Involving family in mom’s care, long-term plan, secure housing.

NTA: Brother should help, but wife suggests nursing home on OP’s dime

Gender bias and family responsibility spark heated caregiving dispute.

NTA: Seeking help is crucial, sister-in-law seems difficult. Legal advice?

OP’s limited help sparks family feud. NTA, wife needs counseling.

NTA. Caregiving is a burden, your brother should help more.

NTA: Nurse faces family feud over dementia care. Jealousy and selfishness.

Family feud over dementia care. NAH, but James’ wife’s behavior outrageous

NTA, but find a solution with your brother for your mom’s care.

“NTA. If James is not contributing enough to household chores and childcare at home, she needs to take that up with James, not you. ‍♀️ She doesn’t get to demand that you cover all care or costs related to your mother. Just don’t engage. Tell her to talk to her own damn husband about his mother and to leave you out of their disagreements.”

Seek legal advice and explore state care options for dementia.

NTA, husband should help with caregiving or pay for assistance.

Engaging in a debate about caregiving obligations and fairness.

NTA comment and replies highlight the importance of family support ❤️

NTA James’s fault for not meeting obligations. One day/week reasonable.

Self-care matters! NTA for prioritizing your well-being.

Finding a long-term solution for mom without hurting anyone’s family.

NTA…Family feud over dementia care: financial and practical challenges.

Sibling feud over caring for sick mother, heartbreaking and frustrating

Tough situation, but they’re not the a**hole. ‍♂️

NAH. Heartbreaking experiences with dementia care, acknowledging different limits and circumstances.

SIL can f**k off! Your brother needs to step up!

YTA’s brother has his own priorities. Find a solution.

NTA, consider hiring a professional to avoid burnout.

SIL is the a**hole in this family feud over dementia care

Inclusion vs. Exclusion: Family dynamics and Sunday outings with mom

Taking care of a loved one with dementia: the toll it takes

Sibling rivalry over dementia care: Who’s responsible? ‍♂️

NTA, family day doesn’t suit her either

NTA. Take a vacation and let them experience the caregiving.

NTA comment explains how nursing homes can be affordable with subsidies.

Balancing family and caregiving is tough.

NTA calls wife selfish, shares exhausting experience caring for mother.

NTA. His children should also spend time with your mother. ️

Family feud over dementia care: ESH vs. childfree obligations

NTA. Teaching by example is crucial for future generations! ✨

NTA. James needs to step up and help with caregiving.

No obligation to care for someone with dementia.

NTA but they sure are causing a *storm* ️

NTA. Cherish your mom while she’s here OP.

NTA stands up for mother against selfish brother’s wife.

Sibling rivalry: scapegoat or golden child? Who’s right, who’s wrong?

No a-hole here. A family feud over dementia care.

Curious about the relationship between your mother and brother?

Reddit’s double standards on prioritizing wives and mothers

“Lazy husband uses caring for his mother as an excuse.”

NTA- A family feud over dementia care, who’s in the right?

Good luck! You’re not the a**hole. You’ll need it.

NTA: Caregiver’s burden or family’s responsibility?

NTA: Take care of yourself, don’t rely on your kids. ✨

James: A devoted son making sacrifices for his parents ❤️

NTA, but finding a better schedule is crucial.

Heartless SIL causing family feud over dementia care. NTA.

Cutting off communication with a demanding relative.

Grandma’s outings: NTA wants family time, SIL disagrees. Drama ensues.

NTA. Caregiver burnout is real. Explore available resources for support.

Not the a**hole for standing up for dementia care

Demanding help with elderly care: NTA vs SIL.

Dedicated grandma visits dementia-stricken great grandma daily for years!

NTA suggests nursing home for mom, mentions state assistance (Title 19)

NTA, you’re not a jerk for asking James to help.

NTA. Limited caregiving hours prevent burnout. James must choose: personal help or paid assistance. ✨

SIL’s demands vs James’ help: NTA needs to decide!

Protect your loved one’s assets and beware of family dynamics!

James and his wife are NTA, but should help financially

NTA: Take a break, track expenses, SIL’s problem