Picture this: after a nasty divorce, your ex-husband shows up at your door begging for help. He’s been accused of serious misconduct by a former colleague, and his career and reputation are on the line. But there’s a catch – this isn’t the first time this woman has caused trouble. Years ago, she stalked you and threatened your ex for money. Now, he wants you to testify on his behalf. Would you do it? ♀️ That’s the dilemma one woman faced when her ex-husband came knocking…
The Ugly Divorce
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A Son Caught in the Middle
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The Blackmailing Woman
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Her Mental Health Issues
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The Accusation
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The Enemy of My Enemy…
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The Weight of Her Testimony ✋
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The Desperate Plea
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The Stalking Incident ️♀️
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Her Reasoning ♀️
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Not Her Problem Anymore ♀️
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The Unborn Child Card
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To Testify or Not to Testify? ♀️
After years of betrayal and a messy divorce, this woman wants nothing to do with her ex-husband. But when he’s accused of misconduct and begs her to testify on his behalf, she’s torn. She knows the woman accusing him has a history of stalking and threats, but she also knows her ex isn’t exactly a saint. Ultimately, she decides to stay out of it, refusing to vouch for a man she no longer knows. But is she right? Or is she just being vindictive? Let’s see what the internet has to say…
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Testifying truthfully is the best option
NTA. Commenters suspect ex-husband’s manipulative behavior and ulterior motives
Commenters agree ex-husband’s behavior is suspicious and manipulative
Ex-husband accused of misconduct and cheating with multiple coworkers. NTA.
Abusive men always call women crazy. Lawyers involved in case.
Legal advice shared on subpoena possibility for NTA commenter.
Ex-husband begs for character reference after cheating. OP not playing. NTA
Ex-husband accused of misconduct, but OP doesn’t know the truth
Stay out of it It’s his mess, not yours.
Karma’s a b***h, and this ex-husband got what he deserved
Commenter advocates for sticking to facts in legal proceedings. Replies clarify difference between immoral and illegal behavior.
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Ex-husband directs ex-wife on what to say in legal proceedings , but she’s not playing his game
Ex-husband begs for help, but commenter shuts him down. NTA
Being NTA doesn’t mean being a good witness
No obligation to defend ex-husband. He burned too many bridges
Ex-husband’s true character would be exposed in court
NTA shuts down ex-husband’s game-playing with a burn
Commenter suggests providing relevant information to police, not ex-husband.
Questioning the ex-husband’s story with a hint of suspicion
Not your circus, not your monkey. NTA takes charge.
Taking responsibility for your actions is important. NTA.
Survivor shares experience with manipulative ex, supports OP’s decision.
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Ex-husband’s flirty behavior leads to obsession accusation. NTA verdict.
Commenter questions ex-husband’s story, offers support to OP
No character witnesses? NTA says it all
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Ex-husband’s company lawsuit cost him friends, NTA wants more details
NTA suspects ex-husband cheated, advises staying out of mess
Testifying truthfully is the only way to win.
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Ex-husband accused of misconduct, called out for manipulative behavior. NTA.
No obligation to testify and honesty is the best policy
Don’t be a part of his manipulation ♀️. Stay strong
Commenter shows no mercy for ex-husband
No obligation to help cheating ex-husband. NTA
Don’t let him drag you into his mess NTA
NTA. Ex-husband manipulating OP into taking his side
Ex-husband wants ex-wife as character witness? NTA shuts him down
Ex-husband wants testimony, but commenter says don’t lie. NTA
Short and sweet. The perfect response.
Ex-husband’s character questioned, commenter advises to stay out
Refusing testimony could ruin ex-husband’s life. ESH.
Avoiding blackmail: NTA takes a stand against toxic ex
Short and to the point.
Ex-husband gaslights and blames ex-wife for his misconduct
Ex’s misconduct? Not your problem. NTA, stay strong
Moving on without him. NTA and not responsible for his consequences.
No help for ex-husband accused of misconduct. NTA.
Ex-husband’s misconduct exposed, but she’s not taking the blame. NTA
Honesty is the best policy, even if it’s not easy
Ex-husband’s misconduct, not her problem. NTA ♀️
Don’t let him manipulate you again. NTA
NTA wouldn’t make a good witness anyway Multiple affairs mentioned
Ex-wife advised not to testify for ex-husband accused of misconduct
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Taking a stand against ex-husband’s misconduct. NTA
Testify against ex-husband? NTA, use your own script.
Speculation on ex-husband’s affair and blackmail, NTA comment section.
A tempting offer for revenge, but is it worth it?
Commenter sympathizes with victim, calls ex-husband selfish. NTA
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Refusing favors for an ex who mistreated you
Cheating ex-husband begs for help, but NTA shuts him down
Choosing honesty over blind loyalty
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Set boundaries and speak the truth.
No duty to ex-husband, no problem
NTA comment shuts down ex-husband’s drama
Asserting your rights to say no when asked to testify.
Not your circus, not your monkeys. NTA wins!
NTA stands firm, ex-husband gets what he deserves.
Ex-husband wants help, but commenter advises against committing perjury
