We all know family relationships can be complicated, especially when distance and busy schedules are involved. One woman is struggling with her sister-in-law (SIL), who happens to be a resident physician working 60-80 hour weeks. The SIL and her husband (the woman’s brother) live a 7-hour drive away, and rarely visit the woman, her husband, and their 1.5-year-old baby girl. The woman feels her SIL should make more of an effort to visit, despite her hectic schedule. But is she being unreasonable? Let’s dive into the story!
The Busy Doctor SIL
Once Close Siblings
Distance Grows
SIL’s Rare Free Time ⏰
Visiting Her Family, Not Yours
Vacation Time! ️
Rare Visits to You
Holiday Complications
Childcare Struggles
Asking for More Visits ️
Brother’s Response
Feeling Unfair
The Big Question ❓
Is She Asking Too Much?
This woman is feeling the strain of her once-close relationship with her brother, now that he’s moved away to be with his busy doctor wife. She’s frustrated that they rarely visit her family, even though they find time for vacations and visits to the SIL’s family. She’s asked them to make more of an effort, but her brother argues that his wife’s demanding schedule is taking a toll on her mental health. Is she being unreasonable for wanting them to visit more, or should they make a better effort to balance family time? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Demanding doctor SIL faces backlash for lack of compassion and entitlement
YTA: Excusing yourself from family visits but criticizing others’ reasons?
“YTA. Going to Hawaii is a relaxing vacation. You can’t expect family visits.”
OP’s entitlement to their parents’ attention is causing conflict.
“YTA. You’re not entitled to your brother’s time or location.”
YTA for demanding family time and judging your brother’s choices.
Art historian cries, defends doctor SIL’s demanding schedule. YTA.
YTA, lacking empathy for SIL’s stress and need for breaks
OP is selfish for expecting SIL to prioritize family visits.
YTA- Expecting your doctor SIL to visit is unrealistic and entitled.
How often do you visit your brother and SIL?
Critiqued for not visiting family, but not the same situation.
YTA for expecting everyone to cater to you. Adjust and deal with it.
YTA and delusional
Cancun/Hawaii vs visiting family 7 hours away with a crying baby? Hmmmm let me think about it
You are begging for your brother to visit? If he wants to visit he will visit, your neediness is pushing him further away.
How often do you actually visit your family?
Resident’s lack of free time? Don’t take it personally
YTA: Don’t be a control freak, prioritize relationships over vacations!
Doctor SIL’s busy schedule: YTA, stop pressuring her to visit.
Entitled commenter calls out busy doctor for neglecting family. YTA.
Doctor SIL prioritizes work over family, causing tension.
YTA for expecting too much from your brother and his wife.
