Picture this: you’re happily remarried, and your new spouse’s children are about to celebrate their birthdays. They mention a family tradition, but it’s not from your side of the family – it’s from your ex’s. What do you do? One dad found himself in this exact situation when his stepchildren asked for the ‘normal gift’ – a luggage set worth $1,000! He thinks it’s a ridiculous waste of money, but his wife insists that since his daughter received the gift, her kids should too. Let’s dive into the story.
The Birthday Dilemma
The ‘Traditional Luggage Gift’
A Tradition from the Ex’s Family
The Early Gift
Dad’s Stance: It’s Stupid! ♂️
Wife Disagrees
Dad’s Defense ️
The Cost Comparison
Accusations Fly
Is Dad in the Wrong?
A Tradition Torn Apart: Who’s Right?
So, we have a dad who thinks his ex-wife’s family tradition of giving $1,000 luggage sets to 16-year-olds is absurd and a waste of money. His wife, however, believes that since his daughter received the gift, her kids should too. The dad argues that it’s not his tradition and that the cost would be significantly higher for him to buy the sets for his stepchildren. Now, everyone’s upset, accusing him of not caring about his stepchildren as much as his daughter. Is he wrong for refusing to carry on this expensive tradition? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this family feud…
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