Imagine growing up in a family where both parents are successful doctors, earning a combined income of $800,000 per year. You’re accustomed to a life of luxury, with hobbies like skiing and horseback riding, and a wardrobe filled with designer clothing. But what happens when one daughter decides she wants to become a teacher instead of following in her parents’ footsteps? One dad decided to sit his youngest daughter down for a reality check, and now he’s facing backlash for potentially crushing her dreams. Let’s dive into this controversial story!
Privileged Life

Two Follow, One Strays

Teacher in the Family

Dad’s Concerns

Expensive Hobbies

Reality Check ️

Dreams Shattered?

Not Pushing Medicine

Just Being Honest? ♂️

Dad’s Dilemma: Dreams vs. Reality
This wealthy dad finds himself in hot water after trying to give his daughter a reality check about her teaching career aspirations. While he respects the profession, he worries that her expensive hobbies and taste for luxury might not align with the average teacher’s salary. After going through the family’s financials with her, the daughter is now hesitant about her chosen path, and the dad is being accused of crushing her dreams. But was he just trying to be honest and prepare her for the future? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Responsible parenting: teaching financial reality to privileged child.
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/266712d4-5981-4d94-b5f8-b8dacd6bc2a4.png)
NTA. Teaching dream crushed, but preparing for reality is responsible

Teaching dream crushed by dad, SIL defends, daughter passionate. NAH.

Encouraging financial reality check for daughter’s teaching dream. NTA

NAH daughter wants to be a teacher, dad expresses concerns

Engaging comment and replies about pursuing a teaching career ✏️
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/b4c1f910-ef53-477d-aeea-57c02bc0a046.png)
NTA for crushing her dream. SIL should know the reality.

“Absolutely NTA. When I was a teacher, all of my married colleagues had a spouse who was financially supporting them. I started out making 23k (just over the state threshold for food stamps) and barely made it two years before moving in with my boyfriend out of financial necessity (and then couldn’t save money to leave when the relationship soured). I went years without being able to afford to use my health insurance, without needed new clothes, without a safe car to drive, without the money to go home to my family for the holidays. As a new teacher, she’d almost certainly start her career in a difficult position in a high poverty, high conflict school. To weather working 6-5 during the school year, then paying out of her own pocket to attend required career development training for 6-10 of her 12 week summers (in addition to paying to outfit her classroom and give school supplies to her kids) requires the utmost passion and dedication to the work. The majority of new teachers burn out within 5 years. I did after two years in public and two in juvenile detention. I’m still ashamed, but I’m in good company. And seeing how many teachers are now told “expose yourself to COVID or permanently lose your teaching license”, the sheer contempt many administrations hold for teachers is becoming particularly blatant. Honestly I think it’s unlikely (but of course not impossible!) that someone raised in such a comfortable, conflict-free life would happily adapt to many years (if not her whole career) of living in near poverty in order to work a job that can exhaust you physically and mentally. Sure you *can* work in a relatively calm school and make a middle class income, but that is highly dependent on your location, tenure, and luck. I really think you did the right thing here.”

NTA: Teaching about career realities is important, but don’t forget positives.

NTA, honest conversation about career choices and financial impact.

Did the dad push his daughter towards a different career?

Passions vs. Practicality: Teaching Dream or Economic Reality?
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/6435fdb1-c4b2-421a-8545-418e200922b8.png)
Dad defends crushing daughter’s teaching dream, sparks heated debate

Living the dream as a teacher, debunking the myth!

Money vs. Dreams: Should privileged parents support their kids?

NTA. Teaching dream vs expensive hobbies. Reality check needed.

Commenter thinks not pursuing teaching dream makes you an a**hole

NAH. Encourage her passion, but teach her about financial responsibility.

Engaging comment and replies about the challenges of being a teacher

YTA for undervaluing your daughter’s passion for teaching. ♂️
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/87200b9e-001c-4f52-a748-88e0a7398b1d.png)
YTA for not preparing your daughter for her career aspirations
