Picture this: you and your best friend have been saving up for the ultimate spring break and summer trips, including a Caribbean cruise and a European adventure. You’re both fit and ready to take on all the physical activities these trips have to offer. But then, your best friend invites another friend who happens to be obese. What do you do? This is the dilemma our story’s protagonist faces, and it’s causing quite a stir. Let’s dive into the details…
The Dream Trips ✈️

Enter Tanya, the Unexpected Guest

The Weighty Decision

Fitness Fears

Weight Limits and Worries ⚠️

Money Matters

The EDIT: Tanya’s Awareness

Selfish or Sensible?

The Great Spring Break Debate: A Friend’s Weight in the Balance ⚖️
So, our protagonist is faced with a tough decision: should they let their best friend’s obese friend, Tanya, join their much-anticipated spring break and summer trips? They’re worried Tanya won’t be able to keep up with the physical activities, and that their hard-earned money and long-planned vacations could be ruined. Is it selfish to say no, or is it a sensible decision to protect their investment and enjoyment? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
“YTA, but honestly not as much as others are saying”

NTA. It’s unfair for her to insert herself into YOUR vacation

Inviting oneself on someone’s vacation is rude

Be inclusive but set boundaries. Don’t let Tanya ruin plans.

Trip with best friend, not her friend. Being active = NTA

Inviting a stranger on a trip can change group dynamics

Set boundaries and stick to the plan. NTA if you do.

NTA, but don’t be an a**hole about it

NTA for not inviting dangerously obese friend on physically demanding trip.
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It’s okay to prioritize activities over someone’s weight.

Stick to the plan, don’t let Tanya ruin your trip! ♀️
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NTA for considering weight limits on activities, but be kind.

It’s your choice, but make sure to stand your ground

Tonya invited herself on a physically demanding trip. NAH, but resentment possible.

Politely declining a friend’s request to join your trip. NTA

Don’t be a weightist! How to express concerns without offending.
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NTA commenter defends OP’s decision to exclude unfit friend.

Weight limits and physical intensity: potential Spring Break disaster

Valid concerns about weight, but title is inflammatory. Awkward situation.

Standing up for oneself in a weighty dilemma.

NTA. It’s rude of her friend to invite herself

Support for NTA’s decision to prioritize safety over overweight friend.

Politely declining a trip isn’t rude, it’s self-care

Just say no! ♂️ NTA comment shuts down entitlement.

Defending a financial decision with a fiery NTA response
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Focus on the important part: don’t alter the agreed trip.

Setting boundaries with honesty and respect.

NTA declines invite, Tanya is AH for inviting herself.

NTA for vetoing the trip, suggest a nearby break instead

Friend invites herself on trip, commenter says NTA

Health issues can limit activities, but overweight friend should understand limitations.

NTA expresses empathy for overweight friend, but agrees with not taking her.

Trip planning with best friend, not comfortable with stranger joining. NAH

Friend invited herself on cruise, NTA for not wanting her.

Would you let Tanya join if she’s okay with skipping activities?

Vacationing with strangers is a recipe for disaster

Taking fitness into consideration is not wrong, NTA

Friend’s insensitivity to disabled friend’s needs sparks NTA response

Valid concern for safety, expressed kindly. Formerly obese perspective shared

Discussing expectations of trip activities with a friend

Traveling with friends can be tricky, but honesty is key

Friendship tested on hiking trip with unfit friend. NAH.

Traveling with an unfit companion can ruin your vacation

Stick to your plans, it’s your trip
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NTA commenter empathizes with Tanya’s limitations on spring break trip.
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Valid concerns about a friend joining a physical spring break trip
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Don’t invite yourself on someone else’s trip. It’s just rude. ♀️

Spring break conflict: NTA prioritizes plans over acquaintance’s feelings

The dilemma of saying no to spring break plans

NTA. Tanya expected to invite herself. Your friend should know better.

Third wheel alert! NTA and not a true friend
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Don’t let others dictate your spring break plans

Judgmental title? NTA since it’s a recurring issue with a stranger.

Respect personal vacation choices and abilities. NTA

Politely exclude friend’s friend from vacation without mentioning weight.

Tactful advice on not wanting to include stranger on expensive trip.

Be honest with your best friend, but don’t bring up weight

Suggesting a compromise with a less fit friend, NTA.

Inviting yourself on someone’s vacation is never okay

Respect boundaries: NTA for not wanting unwanted travel companion

Respect for personal plans and boundaries is key, NAH

Choose your vacay buddies wisely
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Stand your ground and enjoy your vacation!

NAH for wanting to go. Attitude and cost are issues.

Politely declining a friend of a friend without body-shaming.

Polite disagreement on word choice sparks civil conversation

Be considerate of your friend’s feelings but prioritize your vacation

Body shaming is never okay, NTA for setting boundaries

NTA. Obese commenter shares experience with weight limits and heat exhaustion.

Opinion on uninvited friend joining trip, weight is secondary

OP’s dislike for Tanya overshadows weight concern.

NTA: Politely decline Tanya’s invitation and enjoy trip with friend

Advice on helping a friend with weight limits on activities

Politeness is key, but declining due to health issues is NTA
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Friend’s weight not the issue, ability to do activities is.

NAH commenter suggests not inviting friend on physically demanding trip.

Set rules for your trip, but don’t be rude about it
