"Why are you still single?"
It's a question millions of people have been asked before, usually from a nosy Aunt at Christmas, but sometimes from themselves internally!
There's a lot of answers to this. "I'm too busy." "I have high standards." "I like to cheat."
Come see more answers in this list of 19 people who explained why they choose to stay single!
Unless you're in high school or college, it's really hard to meet new people. You'll have to put in the effort to join a club and then really put yourself out there to strangers.
"Years of bullying and being treated like [expletive] [expletive] up your confidence real bad. In my head, I always hear, 'who would honestly be interested in dating me?'" - u/Uundersstaterr
This would make anyone terrified to enter back into the dating pool! This Redditor is still scarred from the love of his life cheating on him multiple times. He can't imagine dating for a while after it.
"I don't feel like I am in a space in my life where I can introduce new people. I have my own issues to address first and I want to work on some aspects of my personality and lifestyle. I want to live myself first and truly know what I want." - u/Aggravating-Put-500
In this case, this person should stay single! No one deserves to be cheated on, so this person is taking preventative measures. At some point, though, they should consider therapy to get to the root of their infidelity patterns.
"No one knows how to be genuine or heal themselves. its all about what you can get out of a person, not genuine love itself. the lack of commitment & deceitfulness in everyones relationships really inspire me to be alone. no one has good intentions anymore & id rather be alone than treated poorly." - u/funeralguestlist7
This Redditor's checklist includes someone who is smarter than them, better looking than them, and better at life than them. Yet, at the same time, they want the person to have the same ideas and humor as them.
"There’s this girl and I that like each other. Unfortunately, we’re both in our senior year in high school and paths will just end up differently after. So we could date now, but it would certainly have to end after we graduated. So that’s why I’m single." - u/Realcopycatxl
Loss isn't easy. It's not like you can just forget the love and memories you and a former spouse had. There's no time limit you can put on grief, either. While some move on quickly, it takes years for others.
This didn't just come from nowhere. This Redditor had three ex-girlfriends try to baby trap them. Then, a previous ex-girlfriend hid the fact that she had a fiancé, while another hid the fact that she had a boyfriend who was locked up in jail.
"I live in a small conservative town full of people that I frankly have nothing in common with at all. The few decent women are either taken, or think they are somehow 'above' the rest of us. It’s a weird social dynamic." - u/myreaditaccount
This is so sad! Many Redditors wrote that they can relate to this. As a result, they have no confidence to put themselves out there. Some also expressed being overweight, which makes them scared of rejection.
"If someone right for me comes along, I’ll know. As of now, nobody has piqued my interest. It took me a long long time to learn to love myself, and I’ll be damned if I kneel to the first person I see because I need love." - u/ScienceSideOfTumblr
This Redditor is buying their dream home and rental properties before marriage so that no woman can take it by California law. They basically won't be forced to let a woman take 50 percent of their stuff.
"I barely have enough time in my life for the people I have now. Sure I'd like a significant other, but I just am not willing to make time and effort for them." - u/sexchoc
This makes dating a lot more difficult since you have to consider the needs of your children. It's also difficult since some people run away the second they learn a potential partner has kids.
This Redditor isn't interested in casual dating just to see where things can go. Instead, they want to wait for their soul mate, who they believe they will know when they see them.
"Been working on fixing my own damage from last big relationship. Picky. Rarely meet new people. I'm not willing to be on a dating site. Don't put myself out there and serendipity just hasn't provided yet." - u/therestruth
H/T: Reddit
