Grief and loss can affect everyone differently. It's never easy to undergo those emotions yourself, let alone try to explain them to someone who doesn't understand. While our spouses can support us the best they can, they might not understand certain decisions
Now, one husband is struggling to understand his wife's logic after she pleads to name their unborn child after her coworker who recently passed away.
"I cannot believe I have to result to bringing my grievances to Reddit," he wrote," but as a long-time Redditor and someone who keeps getting insults hurled at them I really need to know if I'm the crazy one."
The original poster (OP) went on to say his wife's names were "usually very Southern and attempting to be 'modern' (think the name Kaysen or Braxton, both names were on the list)" but that the one at the top of her list was the name Scott.
Things took a turn when the couple decided to boil down their simmer list (sorry for the cooking pun, I CAN'T HELP MYSELF) and decided on the name Scott Kainen.
"Both names were #1 on our lists and we were over the moon," he explained. "As we were going to bed I asked how she thought of the name Scott and she admitted to me that now that I 'set it in stone' that she felt more comfortable telling me. There was an older man she apparently worked with, who I had never heard of before, that she really loved named Scott. She said he was 66 and gave her a lot of life advice and guidance but died last year due to being immunocompromised."
"I don't want our baby named after a dead coworker of hers I've never met. I asked if she asked his family if it was ok and she said she's never met his family and doesn't think it's necessary. The whole thing is just so bizarre to me considering I've never heard of this guy before. She mentioned the passing of a coworker last year and I knew she was sad but she never said much more than that."
"She immediately got mad at me and it turned into a big argument. I had her mom and sister's call me today saying I liked the name before but that I was being a jerk over some old dude and my wife won't even talk to me now."
"She won't tell me anything past that he was a mentor to her- no other details. As well, I was mainly upset because I felt like I was tricked into the name because she withheld obvious intent with its meaning. I would have probably been a lot less confused or weirded out if she would have just explained that before," he wrote.
This is a difficult discussion for sure, I hope they can come to a compromise.
