Man Asks If He Was Fat-Shaming After Asking GF To Eat Less Of Grandma's Food

In a Reddit post laying out his situation, he explained that Ashley is a passionate body positivity advocate who doesn't stand down when she or anyone else is fat shamed.

But while that hasn't caused any friction in their relationship before, the fact that she grew up in a significantly wealthier family than him has.

He characterized this tension as resulting from her lack of understanding as to how much poverty he's had to go through.

She often invites her family over for dinner and is both a generous and excellent cook, but can't afford to feed more than just herself.

Unfortunately, she also happens to be prideful enough that she won't take any money or food from her relatives because she considers it her responsibility to take care of the family.

Since she also considers it an offense if they turn down her invitations to dinner, the family appears stuck in a no-win situation.

And as we've established, this grandma's food is delicious so she went for seconds and then for a third portion.

As the man put it, "This is not done is my family, we all take a single small portion."

The reason is that the leftovers from the meals the grandma cooks are all she has to eat for the rest of the week. So when three portions are taken, that means she can't eat for two days.

At least, not for as long as she refuses to accept help from anyone.

However, when he started this conversation again in preparation for another recent dinner invitation, she accused him of fat-shaming. This was despite the fact that he offered to take her somewhere else if she was still hungry.

In the man's words, "Ashley got very angry at this and said she will NOT be shamed for her eating, she will NOT limit her food and that NO ONE other than her decides when she's had 'enough' food."

And while a lot of people admitted they were ready to judge him before they finished reading his story, commenters overwhelmingly agreed that fat-shaming wasn't the issue here.

As one user said, "There is zero fat shaming here, its literally asking someone to be considerate of another human in a poorer position. It sounds like GF is being entitled and pigheaded for the sake of it."

Some wondered if she would accept an invitation to eat at someone else's house, while another person had a different idea.

As they said, "Maybe you could help her pretending you have a sudden interest in learning some recipes and you happened to make too much food/want her input."

If he can find a way to avoid tripping her "this is charity" sensors, maybe this could work. It sounds like it's difficult to get past them, though.

h/t: Reddit | foodormoney