Woman Leaves Boyfriend After He Yells At Her For Falling Asleep While Cooking

Updated September 8, 2021

Although the world is full of people hoping to find love, they can often find that the work of maintaining a healthy foundation for that love isn't as easy as they imagined.

And while any relationship is going to have conflict in it at some point, some disagreements can boil over to the point where they result in a breakup. And while the incident that prompted this doesn't often sound like a relationship-ender in a vacuum, it can nonetheless be yet another example of a long-standing issue coming between a couple.

And after one man told his story, it was hard for readers not to suspect that this was precisely what had happened between him and his then-girlfriend.

After dating for six months, the man we're about to hear from and his girlfriend decided to move into his house.

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As he explained in a Reddit post, both of them work full-time and she is also attending graduate school at the same time.

Nonetheless, he apparently saw fit to describe her as, "extremely scatterbrained, absent-minded, and messy."

Two months into their new arrangement, this view was apparently confirmed in his mind when she left the kitchen where she was making soup to do homework only to fall asleep on the sofa.

And while the smoke alarm hadn't yet gone off by the time he got home, smoke started to emanate from the pot.

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Potential fires are something this man is particularly sensitive about both because he lives in an area prone to wild fires and because he almost lost his childhood home to a forest fire.

As he put it, "I yelled at her until she woke up. I said 'what the [expletive] do you think you are doing?' She said she didn't mean to fall asleep and I said, 'You almost burn my house down and you think 'I didn't mean to' is an okay excuse?'"

Although she apologized further after he said this, he said that this wouldn't be sufficient and that she's no longer allowed to leave his kitchen mid-cook if she wants to use it.

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In his words, "She said she did not like being talked to like a child and I replied, 'act like a child, get treated like one.'"

After this statement, he said he saw "an instant change come over her" and she left the house that night, only returning the following day while he was at work to collect her belongings before blocking any route to communicating with her.

Weeks after this occurred, the man asked a Reddit community whether he had been unreasonable enough to warrant that reaction.

And to his apparent surprise, the answer was overwhelmingly "Yes."

While there were many reasons people identified for this, one commenter in particular seemed to summarize most of them (emphasis mine):

It sounds to me like your girlfriend didn't appreciate being talked down to, insulted, and screamed at for making a mistake that nearly all of us have done at some point.

Yes, it could have been disasterous --- but it wasn't. Your house didn't burn down, nor did it even come close to that. Not once were you concerned with her safety or that she could be hurt. You berated her for something that didn't even happen -- but could have happened.

And the more that people read the man's initial post, the more reasons they saw for the woman to leave as she did.

As one person pointed out, "She’s not allowed to use YOUR kitchen. She could have burned down YOUR house. You made it pretty clear it wasn’t her home."

Others were highly suspicious of his characterization of her as "scatter-brained" and "absent-minded" given how busy she appears to be all the time.

As one user put it, "You both work full time but she’s also in grad school. I can guarantee you she was exhausted and didn’t mean to fall asleep. She apologized and most likely already felt like [expletive]. But instead of showing any kind of concern for her you showed more concern for your house. A house is replaceable, a human isn’t."

Ultimately, he seemed to be the only one who was surprised that she left.

h/t: Reddit | No_Assistance_1828

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